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Should I Be Worried?  

WhoreMILF 50F
5388 posts
7/20/2009 8:22 pm
Should I Be Worried?


Next week Hubby has to go out of town again, but this time I can't go with him. Some end-of-month inventory/accounting stuff. Usually the bean counters do that, but since it's Hubby's department they're auditing, and there's been a downturn, he has to go, too. All business stuff and no play time.
Naturally, that leaves me alone all week, and normally that would be a great opportunity to get into as much trouble as a good lawyer could get me out of. But, me being me, I decided to get bitchy/sarcastic, and dig at him because I was pissed at not going along.
"Well, there's hundreds of LesbianPersonals guys who are always inviting me to go see them and fuck each other into comas, so maybe I'll just go pick one, pack a bag, and go spend the week with his dick up my butt."
"OK. Have a nice time." was his only response. And the sad part is that he wasn't being sarcastic/bitchy in return. He really meant it was OK for me to go off to god-knows-where with some stranger and be his personal cumslut for a week.
I mean, I like that Hubby isn't jealous when I pick up a stray, and it's Ok with me that he has a few tarts on the side. And his sub. But to just shrug off me going possibly out of state to meet a stranger and shack up with him for a week SHOULD have drawn some kind of negative response from him.
When I asked him why he didn't care, his dedpan, emotionless response was, "Of course I care, but I trust you. You'll be back."
What the FUCK kind of response is that? Am I that taken for granted? Even though I trust him when he gets some on the side, if he told me he was going to go Canada to move in with some girl for a week of sex, I would get frazzled.
So, what's up?
Have I really become such a slut, and he's so used to my pussy being full of someone else's cum, that he's numb to it? Or worse, given up on me? Can you get numb like that to where you don't care, even if you still love someone? That old line, "Will you still respect me in the morning?" comes to mind. Would he see me differently, or does he already have that little respect for me?
Naturally, I asked him a zillion questions about his response and our relationship, but he just brushed off my concerns, saying I was making too big a deal of it. The problem is that he's not making a big enough deal out of it!
Maybe he's just calling my bluff. Nah, he knows I don't bluff sex. Should I actually go and see someone just to see Hubby's reaction? Maybe REDSTIC69 or Q_Ball_MO or corxx?
I know THEY would love it(I'm sure I would!), but then what? Do I take that kind of chance? (the guys are all going "YEAH! YEAH! YEAH!)
Maybe Hubby's just fucking with my mind? I'm so fucking confused, I don't know what to do. Well, I have six days to figure it out.
Maybe he's testing me? Maybe I'll test him! If he's just fucking with me, he's obviously not going to tell me the truth till he leaves. We have our dinner-date with Spike and Lungs on Saturday that will hopefully end up as a Sex Olympics, and that leaves me four more days to check his reactions.
Of course, Hubby's going to read this in a few days, and either have a laugh or start to panic, but that gives me some time to do some shit like ask him to help me pick which guy I'm going to shack up with and see what he says. He's not that good enough of a liar to fool me forever.
You guys that swing with your partners; would you get crazed if she went off with some guy for a week? Even if you knew she was going to eventually come back? Am I making too much of this like Hubby says?
Peter told me that once, when they lived in Florida, he had to go to Boston for a week, and arranged for his wife to shack up with his brother until he got back, and they're still together.
Maybe I'll just stay home and be a "good girl" and not tempt fate. I don't know. He drives me so crazy some times!
All I DO know is that now I'm so wound up and tense over it, I need a good rock-my-world orgasm to relax me. I guess I'll go sneak up on him while he's asleep and see if his dick still loves my pussy, anyway!

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SeeSawGurl 40F
2 posts
8/4/2009 9:19 pm

I know this has probably long been resolved (just started reading your blogs) but I felt like adding my 2 cents.

It sounds like a combination of two things.
First, if he's leaving you home he's assuming you're going to have what ever fun you can find anyway. He trusts you and you said you'd go visit someone for a week, meaning when he gets back you're getting back. Any other times he's gone away for all he knows this is what you've done anyway, until he gets back and you get the chance to catch up. Also he knows the context in which it came up, in a semi-argument. Knows that it just popped in your head and it's not something you were previously planning; also that if you plan it now again, he trusts you.

Secondly, it seems what has set you off is more how he said it than what he was really saying. As you said you were pissed of and being bitchy and sarcastic, also that he was very calm. It seems to me that from his perspective that he thought that you being bitchy about this was a bit unreasonable and perhaps surprising. I'm thinking he wasn't happy about you being bitchy but also didn't want to get into an argument; knowing it was just better to defuse the situations by minimalizing it. Which is why he was kind of dismissive of it being a big deal when you were trying to make it one.

Anyway, I think it was definitely more of cause of an argument type situation than any sign of him not caring.


g333g333 45M

7/22/2009 9:45 am

Just grab him and tie him to the chair or something.


Ashley92577 46F
1662 posts
7/22/2009 1:40 am

I have to be the one to disagree with everyone else. What really stands out is the, "You'll be back." It really makes it sound like he is taking you for granted a lil bit. Even if he was preoccupied with work, I am sure he coulda seen that you were fishing for a lil more. Maybe, "I love you and I know you'll never run off with one of these small dicked guys." That woulda made you smile at least and nod happily. Or if he was a lil worried about the aduit, he coulda said something to the effect, "Honey, can we talk about this later? I am preoccupied about this upcoming shit." Just my 2 cents worth.

"Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it." — Candace Bushnell

~~Ashley92577~~


jlkander85 38F

7/21/2009 6:49 pm

Milf- I agree with what everyone else is saying, that he probably is just preoccupied with work. However, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Sometimes that just can't say the right thing to make us feel how we want to feel can they?

On another note, come to columbia and see ME! We can hunt for guys all week long.... oh my it would be a dream come true to hunt and play with you!!


REDSTIC69 55M

7/21/2009 4:09 pm

But seriously !! My dick up your but all ...week!! Yea yea >>! !!I am honered and all horned up at the mention.
back to seriously as dommiegirl said its probaly the audit has him more tense than he is saying. its not his normal routine. And also he does trust you completly!! and knows you can kick ass when needed. Right??

Play hard, play safe and play often!!!{=}


REDSTIC69 55M

7/21/2009 4:04 pm

ROADTRIP!!!

Play hard, play safe and play often!!!{=}


casper4414 43M

7/21/2009 3:44 pm

sounds like he is tired of the swinger life have you ever thought of taking a break just you and him. to regroup


solowasdeleted 49M
169 posts
7/21/2009 7:12 am

Shit good lookin, you don't have to leave town for some LesbianPersonals cock. There's plenty right here. And some of us have professional camera set ups as well


manninp 66M
2660 posts
7/21/2009 2:23 am

Hello there, yes you are reading too much into it, he is more worried about work, that he has decided to "givr you your head" so to speak, and is not worried so much about what you do, but if you will be "safe" while doing it.....

And as you say, he will know all about it whether you tell him direct or through here.....so go and enjoy yourself....hop on a plane and cum out here...lol

Peter


rm_sircernuunos 55M
11959 posts
7/21/2009 1:44 am

No I would not be crazed if my wife was fucking anyone because I am gone every week.

He may be like me. I trust my wife implicitly, I never concern myself that she will run off with some guy and not come back. I would think it would be rude of him to not trust that you can play and not get yourself out of control. My wife trusts me as well, she never asks about who I see and what I do. The only time she asks is when she finds the women for me, like the groups of asian women in Vegas she sets up occasionally for my entertainment.

I call it a good sign that he is not concerned.

And dammitm it is too bad I will be in Asia all next week, lol, I would have made a trip to texas to work you hard, there are just not many women out there that can take 12 hours of sex a day for a week and you seem to have the stamina.

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DrQwest 59M

7/21/2009 1:26 am

It actually sounds like you want more from him and you're not getting it. He is happy with your arrangement, and truthfully who wouldn't be? he gets his pussy on the side along with a fantasy woman who is at home for him anythime he wants. If he knew he wouldn't have you when he got back, it might bother him. I wouldn't want to let you go, but I would let you do whatever would make you happy. Maybe there is a trust there, but to shack up with someone you don't know and could be a crazy psychopath should worry him about your safety. that's what would bother me.
I couldn't live without you if you were ever mine


rm_corxx 43M
23 posts
7/21/2009 12:17 am

I think you two have a level of trust and commitment, yet that openness that many folks cant seem to find yet yearn for. Like the others said, who are you coming home to in the end? Where is your heart at? That's the important stuff and I think both you and he know the answers to that, hence why you can have the fun you do now.

I'm pretty sure you arent going to just sit at home while he's gone either, to a point, be the fun in TX or out of state, its just that, having fun. No one is going to be able to strain the bond you and him have, else it would have been repeatedly evident this whole time.

What guy wouldnt be going yeah yeah yeah? lol.


rm_fojo 58M
33 posts
7/20/2009 11:56 pm

I think you are reading too much into it. He loves you. He trusts you. If he trusts you for a night, then why not a week? I'm in a situation when I have my kids 1/2 the time, one week on, one week off. Normally I spend my off week concentrating on my girlfriend, but when she's out of town or her kids are with her, then I'm on my own...and the weeks I have my kids, I trust her. I know she sees others. Its sex. Its fun. But people who are monagamous break up...so just adding more sex to an open relationship doesn't scream "trouble!".

Honestly....if you would have posted that you are looking at spending a week of quality sex-with-others and he would have been spastic, I would have highly questioned how much he trusts you. As you said...he can be with his strays and/or sub and he comes back to you...he just assumes it will be the same for you. In fact, its likely he already assumed when things went down this road that if you had a "week off", that you could end up spending a week fucking just one person seriously...or a bunch of people....or by yourself...and it will all be your choice and he will trust you.

Really...why shouldn't he trust you?


Unholy_Diver 40M

7/20/2009 9:32 pm

I would have to agree with DezertDoc on this one MILF. It sounds like he's really up in arms about work. And if he's anything like me. . . it's hard to get off track when it's something really serious. But you can TELL you 2 love eachother and you're comfortable enough to have an open relationship. Like I used to tell my ex who's a stripper, "It doesn't bother me if you grinds on a guy all night. it's the playboy philosophy: People will look at this gorgeous women (and in her case get rubbed on) and go home and jerk off thinking about you. . . but who do you come home to??"

I say roll with it too and don't stress to much about it


rm_Q_Ball_MO 47M
176 posts
7/20/2009 9:12 pm

Of course I'm sitting here going YEAH! YEAH! YEAH! lol... but honestly I don't know how I would respond to what he said if I were you. But with how your lifestyle is, maybe he is just saying have alot of fun while I'm gone and when he comes home he knows that you are still his.

Just a thought


DezertDoc 54M

7/20/2009 8:51 pm

MILF;

I think you are reading too much into it. It's obvious you have a great relationship with hubby and you are both trusting of each other. From your blogs, it seems you two have a great 'open' relationship.

He could be preoccupied by the up coming audit and not full focusing on your remarks. Or, he could be setting you up for something like the last trip out of town. Or, it could be the whole 'Venus/Mars' difference. Who knows sometimes...

I think you should just roll with it and see what cums of it. Maybe he's setting you up to be guest with Spike and Lungs for the week...

Rick aka DezertDoc


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