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1/18/2010 11:40 am |
Great advice. I find that reading the profile before replying is a must.
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1/20/2010 2:43 am |
Thanks for the advice.
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1/28/2010 2:00 pm |
I think a lot of it comes from perspective; all online dating sites have the same types of issues, from some not getting responses from the parties you are interested in to billing troubles. I appreciate this site apart from the rest because I can truly talk about what we are all here for out in the open… I would rather be able to meet up with women that know what they want out of life and see a profile that mentions what their kinks are in advance. In all seriousness, who here wants to be with a person that can’t even discuss their sexuality? Or someone who thinks they will go to hell if they masturbate? I am here because I am a little hedonistic. It is hard to find like minded individuals on other dating sites without going through the whole routine first, just to find out you are making a connection to someone who is a complete prude. I want to find someone that I can spend my life with, that enjoys similar interests, and is in touch with their sexuality. This is hardly a free sex site. Almost any woman can go out and find sex if she wants it at anytime. I know that while there may be some initial attraction to someone’s physical attributes that there has to be more than that to make me want to be physically involved with someone. That is where you come into play. I would go about things this way; if what you are doing here is working, great. If not, change it up. You have few precious seconds to make an impression. If you don’t get any responses to your messages, maybe try a new picture, maybe one of something other than your privates... If nothing seems to look right, maybe look in to getting a Photographer to take it for you. If it’s awkward, just tell them you are interested in trying online dating and need a picture, you don’t need to mention for where. They may be able to arrange someone to do your hair, clothing choices, etc. They do this all the time with professional head shots for actors/actresses/models. Maybe try one of those Photography places at the mall. If $$ is a concern, you may be able to find a Photography club etc to help you out. To boil it down, you are only as good online as you appear to be to someone that does not know you in a 2-3 second glance. If you are a good person and you are not getting any responses, it is not the sites fault or the opposite/same sex (whatever floats your boat) fault, it is yours. You must present your best possible side to people. Think of it as selling your car. You are not going to put a for sale sign on a car without washing and waxing it to make it shiny and vacuuming it out first. I see some profile pics on this site that look like people(men and women) are recovering from a 5 day drinking binge, and I know that they probably don’t look that bad in person. Put a shirt on like you are going out on the town, do your hair, etc. This alone could change things around for your response level. After you break the ice, you still need to communicate and establish romantic/passionate feelings with these people, even if you are both only interested in temporary relationships. “Nice shoes, wanna fuck?” doesn’t work unless you are a perfect 10, and then only sparingly. Make your interest clear, but don’t be super pushy. Let your words and actions show that you are not some weirdo from the internet. Get to know them. I like smart confident women. I have talk to more of them here than at a MENSA convention. Communicating with people is key and things take their natural course from there. If something is meant to happen it happens. I have never interacted with anyone that wanted to just come fuck you after you wink at them. It will likely take a little time. You shouldn’t expect that this site is as easy as shooting fish in a barrel because you found a magical site with girls that can’t find sex from anywhere else. It will take work and some practice, just like the real world. Don’t let a little rejection get you down. Keep your chin up and get to know as many people as you can here. Even if they are not interested, they may have a friend who could be.. good luck!
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2/1/2010 7:39 am |
Reading most of the blog on here there is a lot of good ideas to meet women on LesbianPersonals. thanks.
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2/1/2010 10:24 am |
If an attractive young lady is confident enough to go on webcam, don't insult her. Just because she's on webcam does NOT mean she takes requests. Sometimes I go on just to see how many people want to watch me sit here and type to people! These are MEMBER webcams, not model webcams. If all you're interested in is seeing tits, ass and pussy, watch some porno. It is SUCH A MASSIVE TURN-OFF to be on webcam and have guys constantly harrass you to see things. If I'm not showing you, it's for a reason. Take a hint.
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2/3/2010 11:38 am |
I signed up for this site a long time ago and always received mail saying this many members wanted to meet me or had sent me mail. I finally decided to come back and pay for a few months and check it out. I read profiles and then send a short note to those I am interested in and find out that they are standard members and unable to email me back unless I pay additional fees. I am not really looking to do that so what is considered acceptable to have them contact you back? I have it posted for members to see it just not sure who actually can though. I am a real person looking for a real woman I have already had a few fakes try and scam me and I don't want to come across to a woman as a scammer myself. Any suggestion would be appreciated. Thanks
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2/5/2010 9:52 pm |
good advice
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2/10/2010 6:21 am |
I completly agree and I would have given the same advice had I been asked that question. You have to go where they are. Yes you find the occasional drunk girl on IM that is willing to do anything, but that is because she is drunk, and you are one of many watching this display of public awareness. If you want to truly vest yourself in finding a cool woman or women to communicate; and fully enjoy the site, then you too must participate. Write articles, respond to them, write blogs, and above all Be HONEST. These women are not dumb, and like the man said 99% of them will not coming seeking a connection, it will come through time and work on your part. Great advice and well said. FROM PATRICK WITH LOVE
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2/14/2010 8:14 pm |
Great advice. Thanks a ton. I've found out humor goes a long way, too.
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2/15/2010 1:41 pm |
It's easy when you put it that way.
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2/18/2010 3:05 pm |
I agree!!! We get tons of messages a day from single guys looking to "hook up". Most women are not interested in the "pieces and parts" as they are more interested in what you look like (face shot) and if your going to be respectful and honest. Men have to be patient, take their time, and get to know what we are looking for. Once that is accomplished WOW Look out!!!!
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2/19/2010 10:45 am |
I agree with you, but I also have to say that Big_Smile has a valid argument. Personally, I like to see a face picture and know that a man can carry on a conversation based around something other than his groin. However, once the ice is broken and all of the mutual respect and flirting is covered, I want to know that he knows what he's talking about and how to back that talk up with some great action. I'm already in a relationship and have all of the long-term commitment I want. What I'm seeking here is fantasy fulfillment, variety, hot monkey lovin', or whatever else you wish to call it. I'm not looking to date anyone, but being able to hang out before and after doing the dirty deed is always a plus.
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2/25/2010 11:29 pm |
love love love its very important its like a gold how many times you put in on fire its still gold its like us friend , all of the user of LesbianPersonals I HAVE trust on them very will, even someone of them are horny but like in our house the LesbianPersonals is our big house we need to respect each other respect our belongs respect our love one dont judge them of what they are, they are only making and creating a profile that attractive you can tell them that they are not real but listen we need to have a trust on them for me trust its important in each profile.thats all
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Let's face it "Most Men are Stupid" they havent a clue what it takes to meet that beautiful, sensuous, bright, bedroom naughty woman we all want. Here's a little helpful hint, before you make that first remark or e-mail to her, stand in her shoes for a min, and ask yourself how would you react to what your sending her. Dick Tater
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3/5/2010 7:32 am |
Thank you, Great advice, I will defiantly give it a try and see if my luck on here might turn around!!! Miff
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I actually write to women, usually a friendly hello and ask how they are doing. Nothing sexual at all. Most around 95% do not even respond. Of course here in DFW most of the women are looking for a rich hunk of a guy....go figure.
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3/15/2010 11:45 pm |
There are tons of fake profiles, from "scammers" or from LesbianPersonals herself - I don't know. But I've met REAL people through the site. I will move to the first site, however, that offers a "bot" or scammer free existence. And I'd pay double for that experience. VG
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3/31/2010 7:30 am |
hallo mannen, ik schrijf dit in nederlands omdat ik vindt dat deze site erg veel fake is, momenteel zit ik er enkele maanden op en heb een score of 99% is scammers, het is echt ongelovelijk dat deze vrouwen allenmaal uit ghana,negeria komen, terwijl ze een profiel in nederland aanmaken. en ze hebben nooit ouders, en ze zitten daar om een klus af te ronden, ze geven al te graag hun msn of yazoo adres om apart te kunnen chatten, en al snel komen ze met problemen, nee heren al zien ze zo mooi uit, als het klikt laat de dames maar komen, ik zeg altijd(het spijt me ik kan je niet helpen je moet dit zelf oplossen en dan kan je komen, en betaal alles zelf) ik hou van vrouwen die zelfstandig zijn. als een vrouw uit nederland komt, waarom moeten ze hun profiel in het engels schrijven, oke ze kunnen het ook verder op zoeken, maar doe dat dan ook in netjes nederlands, en niet een vertaaling prog. gebruiken want dat lees je al snel. hoedan ook, heren als de vrouwen uit europa komen en heb je er ook iets aan, ik bedoel als je echt een dame vind buiten europa kan je nog zeker enkele jaren wachten op haar omdat ze nu eerst moet inburgen in het land van afkomst, dan nog eens een vergunning aanvragen hier, nee dat kost je al snel alles samen 4000 euro,
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I see that you are new. If I may offer you a little advice. Check out the blogs, groups and chat rooms. You can search by region and sometimes by topic. You will find plenty of real people there. Plan on spending a little time to get to know them and I think you will be pleasantly surprised.
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There are different type of people for different reasons and different expectation. I just joined and found it interesting........I can express in words.......people may said rude things but its up to you to lead them to the topic you want..........I love to meet people and........my FB games are driving me nuts this days.....Wanna come to my Farms, Zoo and Aquarium 
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I agree with what a lot of people are saying my general thoughts are you wouldn't whip your junk out and say let's bang in person so why do people assume its ok here? Also I get so frustrated at people sometimes, I get messages all the time from nice guys who send nice messages and even include face pictures But they will ask me a question that I've answered right in my profile, or ask me where I'm from or something of the sort I mean really... I just feel like saying you seem like a nice guy but do you read much? Granted standard members can't always read profiles but still it gets frustrating....
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6/29/2010 8:49 pm |
Hi all, I've been online now for a couple of days and had a chance to read some of your views on the site. First, I am happy I am not alone and others are experiencing the same frustration and disappointments I am going thru. I keep asking myself, what do women really want? I am clean, nice, polite, no penis pics, and reply with respect and openness yet I have to question all those ladies out there that claim they are looking for a nice guy. Well, here I am, along with plenty others like me I am sure, yet, nothing. What's the point of looking for something you never have the intention of actually getting even if you find it? I already had the unpleasant experience of being scammed on my 2nd day here (that didn't take long it seems) and all my flirts are coming from the far east or west coast and I doubt they are even real. I am not sure what LesbianPersonals business model is or how they see us, are we being used here? I am here till mid September and most likely will not be back here. At least it was a learning experience, even if not a positive one. And ladies, there are truly good men out there and it's really ironic to keep hearing women complain to the contrary when you don't even bother noticing those right in front of you in many cases. Michel.
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Very well put, most guys think with the wrong head. If they only try to get to know a girl..
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You can change your settings so you only receive email from cupid setting matches. Only VIP's can bypass that. If you don't want to do that, there is a tick box by each mail and you can check those and do a mass delete.
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7/18/2010 10:00 am |
I personally think that since woman are so few on this site; the ladies should have all access at no cost. From what I've seen, the men pick up the majority of the cost here with gold memberships, and still can't find a woman. Quite a lot of men here email me stating that they are letting their members end at the end of the month because of it. Hell, in Arizona; there is one man laying the pipe to about 5 woman here. That's just nasty and too unsafe for me. And the thicker part about that is that that one man treats all of them the exact same way..like a dog. Can't really seem to understand why all of that is necessary. However, in saying that, I have to add this....men have told me that it is not about a pretty face here; it is about how many want to simply spread their legs open. My comment to that, is no way; no how. I like my kitty katt fresh and the only way to do that here is probably going to be logging about sex instead of indulging with a man who hasn't a caring bone in his anatomy. His dick included...."Give a dog a bone..and he'll..ha...oh my bad..that was that old nursery rhyme...hahaha..  Most of the woman here are blogging anyway. This is a main reason why I refuse to put up anymore photos of myself here. What is really my reward in doing so? Not very much here from what I've seen. (especially in Arizona)
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