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Fear
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Fear I have some pretty deep seeded fears that effect me from time to time, like the fear of being trapped with someone I'm not compatible with, (commitment issues  ) the fear that I'm annoying someone when I really just find them wonderful to be around, a fear of not measuring up, the fear of being completely bat shit crazy, the fear of losing what I hold dear, and the fear of being too happy and having it snatched away to name a few.What are you most afraid of, and how do you deal with it?  |
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 Hmmm me too.....
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My biggest fear is messing up when i finally meet a lady after so long, not doing or saying the right things or even in the bedroom not knowing how to excite her. Maybe i will be nervous i don't really know. Truth,kindness and respect is what i give,and thats all i ask in return How to treat the ladies There39s a right way and a wrong way
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Usually I just suck it up and push forward. I force myself to do things I'm afraid of, and I work on seeing the positive in things. But I have moments. 
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Yeah, I'm afraid of fear too.
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My biggest fear is messing up when i finally meet a lady after so long, not doing or saying the right things or even in the bedroom not knowing how to excite her. Maybe i will be nervous i don't really know.  I'm sure you'll do just fine my friend.
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I knew I wasn't the only one.
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the fear that I'm annoying someone when I really just find them wonderful to be around, a fear of not measuring up, the fear of being completely bat shit crazy, the fear of losing what I hold dear, and the fear of being too happy and having it snatched away to name a few. that all sounds very familiar, as for how do i deal with it/ the answer would propaly be really badly!!! hugs xoxoxoxoxoxox Life is what we make it, so let's make it good!!!  come visit my blog bettiebear Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but the moments that take our breath away.     
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My big fear is being on my own in my old age and not sure how I'd cope. I'm happy that my brother & 3 sisters all live in the same town and see them all the time.
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the fear that I'm annoying someone when I really just find them wonderful to be around, a fear of not measuring up, the fear of being completely bat shit crazy, the fear of losing what I hold dear, and the fear of being too happy and having it snatched away to name a few. that all sounds very familiar, as for how do i deal with it/ the answer would propaly be really badly!!! hugs xoxoxoxoxoxox
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My big fear is being on my own in my old age and not sure how I'd cope. I'm happy that my brother & 3 sisters all live in the same town and see them all the time.
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I don't really fear anything anymore. Whatever happens to me in this life, I'll either deal with it or live with it.
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That is a fear of mine as well. Working in the nursing home I've seen a lot that makes me think about the future and what it may hold. Having family around is wonderful. scary stuff. hugs xoxoxxoxo Life is what we make it, so let's make it good!!! come visit my blog bettiebear Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but the moments that take our breath away.
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11/7/2009 1:43 pm |
I used to have fear of abandonment, so to speak. My marriage didn't go so well, my ex cheated on me and left me lonely on a regular basis, took my daughter away from me. For a very long time after that I became clingy, needy and it ruined what may have been very good relationships. I became insecure with myself with feelings of inadequecy. After a while I came to realize that nothing of what happened in my marriage was strictly my fault and that all of the deep seeded feelings I had about myself were just plain wrong. It's funny how the ways we feel about ourselves get in the way and how long those insecurities can hold sway over us. In the end you are just going to have to sit down with yourself and take a really deep look into yourself and find out who you are, and if you are your own worst enemy (as I was) or if what you think about yourself is real and true. If how you feel about yourself is true it's time to sit back and mend any open wounds you my have and take stock in who and what you are and try to fix them and become the person you know you should be. That is the wonderful thing about human nature, there is nothing that is so bad it can't be fixed 
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I don't really fear anything anymore. Whatever happens to me in this life, I'll either deal with it or live with it.
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i too fear old age, i have also worked in care/nursing homes, i worked with Alzheimer's and senile dementia patients, im scared i will end up like that, i hate the thought of not knowing my own mind. scary stuff. hugs xoxoxxoxo
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I used to have fear of abandonment, so to speak. My marriage didn't go so well, my ex cheated on me and left me lonely on a regular basis, took my daughter away from me. For a very long time after that I became clingy, needy and it ruined what may have been very good relationships. I became insecure with myself with feelings of inadequecy. After a while I came to realize that nothing of what happened in my marriage was strictly my fault and that all of the deep seeded feelings I had about myself were just plain wrong. It's funny how the ways we feel about ourselves get in the way and how long those insecurities can hold sway over us. In the end you are just going to have to sit down with yourself and take a really deep look into yourself and find out who you are, and if you are your own worst enemy (as I was) or if what you think about yourself is real and true. If how you feel about yourself is true it's time to sit back and mend any open wounds you my have and take stock in who and what you are and try to fix them and become the person you know you should be. That is the wonderful thing about human nature, there is nothing that is so bad it can't be fixed
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I'll bet those flying V's really spook you too. 
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11/11/2009 11:29 pm |
What are you most afraid of? Well we share the same fear of not measuring up and fear of being too happy and having it snatched away, but I think most people who have experienced loss will have those at least for a little while. Especially the second one, that is probably a real biggy for me so I've learned to be comfortably numb. A related fear I have is the "what if they were right, what if I was holder them back?" fear. I have a fear of being misunderstood, which kept me from coming out of my shell when I was younger. With my sense of humor, I sometimes worry people will think I'm a bad person. I'm afraid to live the life of my parents, which I seem cursed to do, and in turn I worry about some how passing that curse onto my nephew. As to the part about how I deal with it, apparently not well, not well at all. I mostly try to find ways to laugh about it and when that doesn't work I take a sad little comfort in the fact that it all ends the same despite your successes or failures, fears or accomplishments. It's all just a joke, so what's there to be afraid of?
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What are you most afraid of? Well we share the same fear of not measuring up and fear of being too happy and having it snatched away, but I think most people who have experienced loss will have those at least for a little while. Especially the second one, that is probably a real biggy for me so I've learned to be comfortably numb. A related fear I have is the "what if they were right, what if I was holder them back?" fear. I have a fear of being misunderstood, which kept me from coming out of my shell when I was younger. With my sense of humor, I sometimes worry people will think I'm a bad person. I'm afraid to live the life of my parents, which I seem cursed to do, and in turn I worry about some how passing that curse onto my nephew. As to the part about how I deal with it, apparently not well, not well at all. I mostly try to find ways to laugh about it and when that doesn't work I take a sad little comfort in the fact that it all ends the same despite your successes or failures, fears or accomplishments. It's all just a joke, so what's there to be afraid of? 
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11/13/2009 1:13 pm |
It really is OK to annoy those you like to be around, I do it all the time! I can’t say as I have any fears that are unresolved but the notion of starting again from scratch at my age or an illness that would leave me weak and feeble catches on the inside sometimes. I can’t deal with either as neither has happened, so for me, I pretend they can’t. H. 
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