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Attraction
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Attraction We all like what we like and are attracted to whatever it is that attracts us. It's not logical all of the time, or even smart sometimes. It simply is what it is. There have been times where I knew that it would be a wonderful idea to be attracted to a certain person, but I just didn't feel that way. The reverse of that is that I've known that I should not be attracted to certain people, but have been regardless of what my brain was telling me. I know the same has happened for others with me. It's not necessarily visual either. I don't have a visual "type". If I was to put pictures of the people I've been attracted to in a line it would hard press a person to find anything similar about any of them, let alone all of them. There is no physical characteristic that could describe them all. But they all had/have that something on the inside that has drawn me to them. I got to wondering what that thing is. And I think I've got it. I think it's the humor tempered with a touch of the dark. It's the intelligence that doesn't conform to what is always "normal". It's what makes them stand out that attracts me. Not really the "bad boy", but the unusual. I'm not talking a face full of metal or tattoos covering half of ones bodies. I'm not saying the rebel without a clue, or the angry activist. It's something completely random and not easy to see from a first glance. It's an integral part of that person. It doesn't define them, it enhances them, but only if you're really looking. Another thing that I noticed is that it's usually a person that has had a difficult life. Nothing has been handed to them, they've had to work to become who they are. And they're far from perfect, and they know that. It's the kind of person that I can talk for hours with and never get bored. It's the kind of person that I can just be in a room with and feel happy saying and doing nothing. And it's extremely difficult to find someone that sparks me like that. What is it that attracts you? Do you have a type?  |
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I'm attracted to the inteligent but cute honest type of lady that isn't afraid to tell me things outright and say it how it should be. I know one on here Mmmm let me think A  Ps: my latest blog is about your area, Truth,kindness and respect is what i give,and thats all i ask in return How to treat the ladies There39s a right way and a wrong way
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I don't know really but I think I'ld have to say that strong women, assertive women, are what attracts me the most... at least when I have to conjure up an ideal before my mind's eye... That being said when reality kicks in anything can happen... I'm not sure if I fit your ideal or not. I know I have a particular intellect which finds joy in analysing just about everything and that my sense of humour can be quite wide at times and dark if need be... I guess you're the only one able to judge that  Tempted A perfect marriage Or When the kids are away the parents will play What I wish awaited me at home when I came home today A beachfantasy as suggested by a lovely Lady  
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What type attracts me? The no nonses type, who likes humor and fun, good music, going out for a drink and good food  Where is she?  If you see her somewere send her to me please _ _ _ _ _ it's better to live and do the things today than to be sorry tomorrow 
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Preferably still breathing with all her own teeth
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Thanks!
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Exactly!
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I'm attracted to the inteligent but cute honest type of lady that isn't afraid to tell me things outright and say it how it should be. I know one on here Mmmm let me think A Ps: my latest blog is about your area,  Thanks C. I checked it out. Will be fun eh?
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 Very cool.
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 Yep, definitely couldn't hurt the attraction factor.
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Clearly I have bad taste as well.
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What type attracts me? The no nonses type, who likes humor and fun, good music, going out for a drink and good food Where is she? If you see her somewere send her to me please
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11/30/2009 9:27 pm |
Such a good post, but such a difficult question. It is actually easier to mention the things that I don't like, since I was still finding new things that attracted me, and what you don't like becomes crystal clear real fast. I find a variety of women attractive. All my ex's have been very different both in their appearance and personality, but there was something special about each one. I don't compare, and I don't have a check list of characteristics.I realized there was never that perfect someone, but plenty of people that hand potential to be someone special. I have a bad tendency of falling a little to easily. I always wanted the whole meet someone special and fall in love fairy tale. Well fairy tales are for kids. I used to think difference were doorways. When you meet someone who has different thoughts and interests than you, it's an opportunity for you to learn something new or discover a new interest you never knew you had. So I don't limit myself to a type but I gotta admit I do kinda have a thing for Tomboys, and can't stand high maintenance or princess types. I just love a girl who's not afraid to get her hands a little dirty, and doesn't need 3 hours in the morning to do her make up. I love a girl who isn't worried about what everyone else thinks, including me. Someone who doesn't say what she thinks she's supposed to say, but what she really feels. I've always liked the party girls from an outside looking in perspective but with my pragmatic side I could never keep up, sometimes it's best to know your limitations. Anyways, that's what I used to like. Now I'm just looking for a woman in a constant vegetative state.
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Such a good post, but such a difficult question. It is actually easier to mention the things that I don't like, since I was still finding new things that attracted me, and what you don't like becomes crystal clear real fast. I find a variety of women attractive. All my ex's have been very different both in their appearance and personality, but there was something special about each one. I don't compare, and I don't have a check list of characteristics.I realized there was never that perfect someone, but plenty of people that hand potential to be someone special. I have a bad tendency of falling a little to easily. I always wanted the whole meet someone special and fall in love fairy tale. Well fairy tales are for kids. I used to think difference were doorways. When you meet someone who has different thoughts and interests than you, it's an opportunity for you to learn something new or discover a new interest you never knew you had. So I don't limit myself to a type but I gotta admit I do kinda have a thing for Tomboys, and can't stand high maintenance or princess types. I just love a girl who's not afraid to get her hands a little dirty, and doesn't need 3 hours in the morning to do her make up. I love a girl who isn't worried about what everyone else thinks, including me. Someone who doesn't say what she thinks she's supposed to say, but what she really feels. I've always liked the party girls from an outside looking in perspective but with my pragmatic side I could never keep up, sometimes it's best to know your limitations. Anyways, that's what I used to like. Now I'm just looking for a woman in a constant vegetative state. Hindsight I saw that trend though. It's making me think.
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 I'm waiting.....
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It's all up in my twisted lil brain. I analyze things a lot because I like to understand and therefor accept, or adapt. Who knows? I suspect only each individual given enough time to really think about it for a long period of time, or have an epiphany.
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I don't know really but I think I'ld have to say that strong women, assertive women, are what attracts me the most... at least when I have to conjure up an ideal before my mind's eye... That being said when reality kicks in anything can happen... I'm not sure if I fit your ideal or not. I know I have a particular intellect which finds joy in analysing just about everything and that my sense of humour can be quite wide at times and dark if need be... I guess you're the only one able to judge that
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I think I've seen her. It'll cost ya though.  That's blackmail!! Okay, how much ?...remember i have not much to offer   If you go on this way it will never work between the 2 of us  _ _ _ _ _ it's better to live and do the things today than to be sorry tomorrow
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12/1/2009 10:01 am |
That's just it, I don't limit myself to a type per say, I just have such a hard time being attracted to who would probably be LOGICALLY best for me, but my attraction factor isn't logical, it's emotional or spiritual, I dunno, I haven't fully made sense of it. Maybe I just annoy too easily when someone tries too hard to be attractive, when I really just want them to be themselves so I can tell if I like the REAL them or not. Hindsight I saw that trend though. It's making me think.
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That's blackmail!! Okay, how much ?...remember i have not much to offer If you go on this way it will never work between the 2 of us  Actually you described what a lot of women are looking for, at least it's what they say they're looking for. No worries though, I'll sit at the pub with you and have a meal while we scope them out together.
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If LOGIC really was involved none of use would be hooking up in the first place. Maybe there is more to that whole pheromone thing then we'd like to admit, or maybe we're all just a bunch of affection junkies. You may appreciate someone being themselves and real, but I've found that most of the world gets a little uncomfortable when you go without your masks. Which of course is great for me, I so love making people uncomfortable. I mean if you watch TV or read a magazine we're constantly bombarded with the message the real you isn't good enough, so of course people are going to think they have to be some one else in order to be liked.
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I certainly do have a type. Firstly must have boobs and vag. Likes to have sex with me, or at least pretend to without saying things like "Are you finished yet? Well hurry up 'coz there's a good program on TV". Likes to cook for me 3 times a day. Likes to do my washing and all the cleaning. Has a really good job on big bucks and says it is not necessary for me to work anymore. Enjoys cutting my toenails and digging out the toejam. Constantly tells me how wonderful a person I am without expecting any compliments in return. Likes to do the things I like when I want to do them. Doesn't get cranky if I start playing guitar at 4am. Etc., etc., etc.. I haven't found her yet, but I do remain hopeful and ever vigilant.
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I certainly do have a type. Firstly must have boobs and vag. Likes to have sex with me, or at least pretend to without saying things like "Are you finished yet? Well hurry up 'coz there's a good program on TV". Likes to cook for me 3 times a day. Likes to do my washing and all the cleaning. Has a really good job on big bucks and says it is not necessary for me to work anymore. Enjoys cutting my toenails and digging out the toejam. Constantly tells me how wonderful a person I am without expecting any compliments in return. Likes to do the things I like when I want to do them. Doesn't get cranky if I start playing guitar at 4am. Etc., etc., etc.. I haven't found her yet, but I do remain hopeful and ever vigilant.
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12/6/2009 11:17 am |
Not sure if I have a particular type. I've been surprised by some that I had written off, and been unpleasantly surprised by some 'perfect' people. One thing I do like though, is brains, not in a sandwich or anything, but in her head will do just fine. If it works well, then that's a bonus. I suppose that's too easy though. Grace would be important. I can't define it, but I know what it looks like. It's nothing to do with clothes or anything outside the person. I've seen it in people in suits and sweatpants. It always commands my respect and sometimes, awe. You can see it in how a person looks at others, carries themselves, all that.
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Not sure if I have a particular type. I've been surprised by some that I had written off, and been unpleasantly surprised by some 'perfect' people. One thing I do like though, is brains, not in a sandwich or anything, but in her head will do just fine. If it works well, then that's a bonus. I suppose that's too easy though. Grace would be important. I can't define it, but I know what it looks like. It's nothing to do with clothes or anything outside the person. I've seen it in people in suits and sweatpants. It always commands my respect and sometimes, awe. You can see it in how a person looks at others, carries themselves, all that. Grace, I have none. I'm the biggest klutz ever.
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