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Loved it - I personally prefer "above average" -- I think it describes me perfectly..... ~Live~Laugh~Love~
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5/7/2010 12:42 am |
Wonderful post. You're one of the few, genuine men who can see past the physical. It's almost like the analogy that eight inches or more means a man is "packing" and less than eight inches means a man is "lacking".
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Thanks for the nice compliment! You're right about the body image thing. When I grew up, girls would fight me for the food on the table, and where I'm from everyone is a little pear-shaped. I think it's good to promote healthy eating and good self-esteem, but no one is built the same way and I think women think men judge them too much on looks. I would say that 90% of the guys I know don't care, and 100% of them will have sex with anyone who says yes, and therein lies the secret to knowing you don't have to be Kate Moss to get a man's attention. I for one was really glad to see the arrival of plus-size models this year -- hot!!
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Loved it - I personally prefer "above average" -- I think it describes me perfectly.....
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Thanks! I've never heard of a guy label like MNM, except maybe FWB (fat white bastard). MILF! As I remember, it was a term that applied to our friends' moms when we were in school, so for that reason it's creepy. I never once got hot and bothered over a friend's mom. But as a general concept, I'm not ready for that one to go away just yet. Women with kids are just HOT. Those wide hips! Those hard nipples! It might be because my ex-wife was secretly not interested in having kids, that if a women I saw had them already, it just screamed that she was willing and capable. But in truth I haven't had a whole lot of luck dating women with children, I only managed it one time and her idea of a relationship was seeing me once a month, and demanding monogamy at the same time. Sorry! I agree about categorization though. Let's take them on a one by one basis instead of making harsh on-the-spot judgments. It's someone's character that's the sexiest part of their body.
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Wonderful post. You're one of the few, genuine men who can see past the physical. It's almost like the analogy that eight inches or more means a man is "packing" and less than eight inches means a man is "lacking". I'm definitely lacking. But you bring up a good point. Maybe cock size is the male equivalent of a woman thinking she's too fat. So we should do a study and see if men with below-average endowment, who would themselves wish to be judged on the merits of their personality, actually judge women on personality or waist size/appearance? I'll bet they don't, and maybe that's why I'm such a sensitive guy.
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Interesting theory. Maybe just like you can filter searches by age, race, and other attributes, you could then filter by IQ, so you would not appear in searches by people who can't read. After all, being smart or dumb is similar to a person's age, you look for people around your own level. Someone too smart makes you feel inadequate, and someone too dumb makes you feel preachy and parent-like if you're self aware enough to care. It's probably another difference between the sexes. I think women weed out candidates who don't seem intelligent enough to be good providers, or respected by their peers. On the other hand, men seem to appreciate a good flaky girl for a bit of a romp. They know how to have a good time and take your mind off your troubles. It is ironic that this site is ostensibly a meat market, a site where you would ideally go to find a fuck partner if you were faced with a cold lonely night (or a cold lonely year as the case might be). But the addition of women to the mix means that you will have more success engaging them with your mind rather than any engaging physical assets you might show on your profile page. I wish there were a feedback/rating system so you could sort out phonies from spammers and not even see the accounts that are newer than a couple of years, until they develop enough of a reputation that you could be bothered with them.
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I could write a book on this subject and I've written multiple posts on my blog about it. I too don't like the BBW title but I understand wanting to put out there the "size" topic. The truth is that some men don't like large women. And that's ok. It's their prerogative. I have preferences too. It was a complete revelation to me however, when I joined this site, how many men either a)find size irrelevant (my favorite playmate is this way) or b)prefer size. Some days are better than others but in general I seem able to key into the fact that, regardless of my size which is sometimes bigger and sometimes smaller, this body of mine delivers enormous pleasure - both to me and my playmates. It also carries me through this world, through this amazing life that I have crafted myself. It just seems pissy and lacking in gratitude to not be thankful for that. The other thing I'm very aware of is that I am far harsher on myself than I am on others. The very thing I might condemn myself for on a bad day is something that, when I see on others, I either don't notice or it matters little in how attractive I find them. And yes, I would agree it's a similar issue to men's penis size. While I would be lying if I said I didn't have a preference, it's certainly not the defining criteria (not even in the top 10) of what I look for in a man. Damn man...I love your writing! Always tell the truth Use kind words Keep your promises Giggle and laugh Be positive Love one another Always be grateful Forgiveness is mandatory Try new things Say please and thank you Say your prayers Smile ~Author unknown
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I could write a book on this subject and I've written multiple posts on my blog about it. I too don't like the BBW title but I understand wanting to put out there the "size" topic. The truth is that some men don't like large women. And that's ok. It's their prerogative. I have preferences too. It was a complete revelation to me however, when I joined this site, how many men either a)find size irrelevant (my favorite playmate is this way) or b)prefer size. Some days are better than others but in general I seem able to key into the fact that, regardless of my size which is sometimes bigger and sometimes smaller, this body of mine delivers enormous pleasure - both to me and my playmates. It also carries me through this world, through this amazing life that I have crafted myself. It just seems pissy and lacking in gratitude to not be thankful for that. The other thing I'm very aware of is that I am far harsher on myself than I am on others. The very thing I might condemn myself for on a bad day is something that, when I see on others, I either don't notice or it matters little in how attractive I find them. And yes, I would agree it's a similar issue to men's penis size. While I would be lying if I said I didn't have a preference, it's certainly not the defining criteria (not even in the top 10) of what I look for in a man. Damn man...I love your writing! You bring up a good point, that size matters for some people. Personally I find "sexy" is in the mind more than in the body. Some women just carry themselves with a powerful sexual energy and I completely admire that. But size matters for a lot of people I think, be it the size of a penis or clitoris, breasts, ass, muscles, or their height, and it's a shame because I think we pass up some real treasures by being so shallow. I think that we end up being so picky because of monogamy. Stay with me on this one. I think we feel like, if we're going to have only one sexual partner for the rest of our lives, someone who fits our sexual tastes is very important. I find that in a more open relationship, who the person is matters the most since like Katie, she can get her fill of large cocks whenever she likes, but I know that she's in love with me.
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SUNNYLASPER I have always belived that it is what is inside a oerson that counts but we all have this thing about what we see first and we do let it get to some of us me I have realy tried to stay away from because I was bought up that wat the shell fades but what is inside it will mostly stay the same anf to me so i do not forget you sound sexy very virtus and know where you want to go twell301 lets have a bottle of wine sometime soon post2307337
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SUNNYLASPER I have always belived that it is what is inside a oerson that counts but we all have this thing about what we see first and we do let it get to some of us me I have realy tried to stay away from because I was bought up that wat the shell fades but what is inside it will mostly stay the same anf to me so i do not forget you sound sexy very virtus and know where you want to go twell301 lets have a bottle of wine sometime soon post2307337 Though seriously... it must suck to have a keyboard with no punctuation on it.
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You've summed up my feelings on the label perfectly! ***
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You've summed up my feelings on the label perfectly!  Thanks for reading! And posting! It is always lovely to hear from you!
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Wow I honestly hadn't even thought of BBW being used as a pre-emptive strike to scare off shallow people. Brilliant! Last year around Christmas I met a woman online and she described herself as a BBW. We got along really well and had a public meeting in a cafe to get to know each other better and... OMG she was totally in no possible way even remotely BBW. She was definitely beautiful, and petite and large-breasted but in no other way could ever be attached to the BBW label, and I always wondered about her self-esteem after that. Now I think, maybe she was warning people off if they were looking for Barbie. I am glad you have good body image issues. I find women very appealing who love themselves and realize they are sexy (...to a point!!). And I'm exactly 5'9" so we are exactly the same height.
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I love this post of yours. I wish more men could see us as more than just our size. I don't refer to myself as a BBW, because it sounds like I am putting myself in a box, and I don't like that. I have chosen 'large' as the description on my profile, but if anybody asks me, I just tell them upfront that I am fat. I don't find the word 'fat' offensive ... it is just an accurate decsription of myself.
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