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Blogs > wittywoman > Cricket's Chirp

Diversions are just not enough maybe?  

wittywoman 54F
779 posts
5/30/2015 9:02 pm
Diversions are just not enough maybe?

So the events from my last blog kinda served as a wake-up call. A reminder of who I am - or rather - was. Armed with this renewed vigor I went to Vegas.

YUP - VEGAS!!

I hadn't been there since my mid-20's and at that time I had no money. But this time - I went with family. I just so happened to be there when an old high school friend was there too. He and I dated back then - he even took me to the prom but that was about the extent of it at the time.

Now he's married with two , runs his own small business and is all over social media. His sense of humor has only sharpened and he still has comedic timing.

But there wasn't anything there for me. No spark, no interest.

Of course there was for him. He was politely pushing the entire time we hung out. Sometime being very direct. It didn't bother me. I'm very good a diversionary tactics. I took it as quite a compliment.

But I don't do married men. Really. And though he respected that he still pushed. He's not happy in his marriage and very big on phone sex. He wants at least that much from me but I still am declining.

The truth is I'm just not into him. Simple as that.

I guess I'm just greedy for the compliment maybe? I can't be honest about my disinterest. I guess I'm afraid to make him think less of himself or be disappointed in me? Or worse - change anything about himself in hopes that it would spark my interest. So I keep saying no, I keep diverting his comments or leading questions and I do my best to make sure he doesn't think there's hope.

But tell me, what on earth should I be doing differently? If you were the one pursuing what would it take for you to stop without costing the friendship?
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1ALLNYTR 59M
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248 posts
5/30/2015 9:19 pm

 Sooooooo,as long as you are not saying the words "NOT INTERESTED " he is thinking he can wear you down. Tell him and send him on his way. Who cares about a high school friend you havent seen or thought of in 20 yrs


wittywoman replies on 5/31/2015 9:50 pm:
Ahh but I have said those words. Some are just more persistent I think.

And don't forget - I am woman. Caring kinda comes with the territory most times.

kittyliquor519 58M
2730 posts
5/30/2015 10:15 pm

 Just the fact that you aren't interested...doesn't take much intelligence or awareness to realize that

Curious, while you were here in Vegas why didn't you stop by and say hi?
Everyone is on a different plane of intelligence. Some people's plane has not taken off yet!!


wittywoman replies on 5/31/2015 9:52 pm:
Well Liquor, I was on a family trip. Even if I knew ya...

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