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Ah, Youth...
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Ah, Youth... So I'm working with my trainer today and he seemed a bit distracted. Turns out he was anxious about a girl he had started dating- she was playing hard to get. She's 22, he's 25 and playing hide the sausage with a 32 year old as well. The stark contrast between the behaviors of these two women is what struck me and inspired this post. My point to Eric was that older women (generally 35 and up), know better than to play mind games. We have our shit together because we've been around the block and more importantly, we've used the knowledge gained to establish our own self-worth. What does this mean? Well, the bottom line is that we don't need you to reinforce our self-esteem. We just need you to recognize that it exists independent of YOU and your efforts. That doesn't mean you're allowed to drop the ball when it comes to compliments- it just means we don't need them as much as a younger woman who might not be as sure of herself. He wasn't buying it. And why? Because I'm (partially and temporarily) BALD, lol. Yeah- there's a dude out there who doesn't think I'm all that. I know- I was floored too (not). Where was the disconnect between 'Gottaring' and 'Hot Chick'? Sweet Eric doesn't understand that despite looking like I should be living under a bridge, and outside of the fact that I weigh more than he does (not by much, and consider that he's only 5'6), I'm actually a pretty cool dame. I also pointed out that the fact that my abs are invisible is immaterial since they are simply shadowed by my slammin' double-D's.  Come on, Eric! You're smarter than this! I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, though. He's only seen me in yoga pants and ratty workout gear, sweating and puffing like I was chasing The Precious. No makeup, no hair, no bling and no effort made to impress him. This, my friends, is one of the reasons he doesn't think I'm the greatest thing since protein shakes and Bosu balls. Because I haven't hit on him. And he admitted it. He's a good looking dude if you like ripped muscles, cheeky smiles and lashes as long as my arm. He's used to his fawning and falling and it puzzles him as to why I haven't. It's simple. I don't mix business with pleasure, and to take it a step further: Been there, done that. Yes, that's right, even my chunky butt has scored some GQ dudes in its day. But his annoyance with my reticence has morphed into his impression of me as 'unattractive'. Interesting how that happens, huh? Just like the guys out here who lash out after you reject them. Now mind you, I don't give a rat's ass if he needs to put a flag over my face in order to shag me for the glory of the country. I'd prefer he WASN'T attracted to me because then I'd have to find a new trainer. And no, this isn't a case of 'sour grapes'. But it's amusing to me on a few levels... Firstly, because I'm so used to you guys blowing smoke up my tuchis that I started to believe my own press, lol. How dare he not want to smell my ass (read the HNW post for clarification on that, lol)! Secondly, he is a typical 25 year old BOY who doesn't realize that, just because I don't look my best these days, it doesn't mean I have to sit in my house and sulk until my hair grows back and my ass shrinks to a socially-acceptable size. In fact, that's the worst thing I could do because it would mean that I measure my self-worth in the opinions of others. And I don't (contrary to the 'smoke up my ass/believing my own press' comment above). The point of all this? Thanks for asking! There isn't one. I'm just laughing at the ignorance and arrogance of youth  . But here's a laugh to see you off with before I head to the Brewer's game tonight: Eric and I joke freely and with as much smack-talking as we can muster while squatting and lunging. During the course of this conversation, I teased him about not wanting to shag me because he only likes 'Barbie Dolls', to which he responded, 'My mother always told me not to fuck Troll dolls.'  My response to him was, 'I'm not a Troll doll, babe. They have hair.' (Okay, you had to be there- but I'm funny, dammit!) But seriously, folks...If you had to give Eric a bit of wisdom when it comes to women, what would you tell the poor, deluded lad? When it comes to sex, I need a STRONG connection. Otherwise, the page just keeps buffering and takes FOREVER to load... |
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GOOD
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I advise young Eric to develop an appreciation for coffee. Just sayin'
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I'd have to tell him to find someone other then me to get advice from. I'm older then he is (not by much I'll be 32 in October). But I still haven't figured women or relationships out.
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9/13/2012 3:08 pm |
if I told him that I would have to do 100 more miles
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Hey!!! I resemble that remark!!! I am almost in the old folks home then??? Lmfao!!!! Careful what you write of your elders!!!  lol!
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Well my dear, I've seen it both ways. I have truly always been mature for my age, yet with the ability to preserve the kid-at-heart attitude. Umm, maybe having kids helps with that, but hey! Stop rolling your eyes at me! Oh, back to the point... I have seen a few 22 year olds with some major mileage on their minds, and several (including one I used to be married to) 30somethings or older, that just think they never have to grow up, and act like GD teenagers! My point? I don't know! Oh, right, nevermind. My point is that although the majority of people act their age, some don't. I like a woman who is past all that petty shit and knows what she's all about... and wanting a compliment or not, won't die if I don't realize she got her hair trimmed 1/4 of an inch today. But... still, some people like the challenge of someone who is immature, or at least, pretends to be. Or they just say fuck it, I never liked you in the first place haha
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9/13/2012 12:13 pm |
It's funny everyone says they're "mature for they're age" but once you hit the 30 mark you never see anyone 25 or younger who really is "mature for their age". Seems like 30 is the age where people really start to "get it" until then there's really no wisdom or advise you can give someone, they have to figure it out for themselves.
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Stupid youth...I am amazed by how both men and women who are under 30 react to older people...and I don't mean my tyupe of OLD, I mean people who are even one year older than them. Its crazy! While not all young people are like that (recall my college student from last year) the majority are. It was funny, I was joking with a co-worker the other day. She's 22 and H-O-T. I asked her if she thought I was good looking, and begged honesty, not just politeness. She said I was but not in a sexual kind of way...Huh?? She explained that she liked the way I look because it is dignified and mature and Dad-like. OMG, the kiss of death...lol...But sexual?? Nah...sorry...Sigh...its like you said...they really don't understand do they?
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You tell him attitude is no substitute for a small penis. Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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Leave poor urlacher alone! I mean Eric! lol! Shagging him would only make him believe more he is god's gift to all! Lmfao! In a few years, 10, he shoud actually realize what he missed and what a fool he is or was! Lol!
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gottaring replies on 9/12/2012 8:25 pm: "I'd sooner screw a rancid banana. He's really a sweetheart- he's just young and idealistic. Plus, he's one of those guys who is SO good looking (and he knows it) that he expects women to fall at his feet. The only man I've ever prostrated myself before was nailed to a cross, lol. Besides, he's too short for me. As in, 'I shit bigger than him after starving myself for two days' kind of short. Lastly, I'm not into training boys to be men in the sack. I know i'd be doing a favor for every woman who came after me, but it's not worth the work. The binder, slide show and diagrams alone are a pain to cart around." I so agree with you - some things are just not worth the pain and aggravation. For me, good looking is as good looking does - it's so much more important than the looks. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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I would not waste any advice on Eric.. he's a baby, and a whining one at that, and babies can't hear anything except their own yowling. Maybe in five years, he'd be old enough to sit at the grown up table and listen to advice. Goodness, I wonder if my Young Man was ever this shallow? If so, I'm so glad I missed it.
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Charmer is so right. One thing I have learned, both in nudism and swinging - is that it is the "whole person" who counts, so much more than the package they come in. The body is almost guaranteed to change over time - the heart, mind and soul - not so much. There are a lot of people who have a lot to learn, and the best teacher is time, and experience. You are a very wise woman, Gottaring. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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9/12/2012 6:48 pm |
My history precludes me from giving anyone relationship advice. Larry King has done a better job at marriage than I have. Eh, he's 25. He might as well enjoy it while he can. It's a young man's game. Eventually you hit 50 and become beaten down and bitter, spending your money on cheap beer and kleenex, while wasting all your time watching spanking porn and on adult dating sites. Or so I've heard.
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As usual, you have given me some stuff to ponder. One question, though? If this deluded boy wanted to "boink" you, would you let him? Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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If he's got the looks and a decent character, tell him to take his Ego and Cockyness change it to Confidence and Respect. With the right 'Damsel' he may just learn a thing or two.
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You know (and this will be hard to believe coming from me) but I probably wouldn't give any advice. He's a25 year old gym rat and I bet he'll always have that frame of mind. He'll be that sad 45 year old dude who is all pumped up and running with dim 25 year olds. If I *had* to tell him something it would probably be be kind to every woman, treat he the way you'd treat one of your sisters or mother because you never know who she might become or who she knows.
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At 25 they know everything ...lol...I know I thought I did at his age . I would tell that ripped abs and bulging muscles are all well and good . But if he doesn't develop that muscle between his ears more he will have a long road ahead . I would also tell him to learn to open the gift and not just look at the wrapping paper before he decides he doesn't like it . River I guess it's just the cowboy in me  
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Older guy advice to the young lad - Take advantage of the hot vixen in the gym who could teach you a thing or two. Don't waste time on the 20-something - she'll think you are cooler when you have the confidence to rock here world (i.e. after learning to be a man from a hot woman like gottaring). Playing in the double d amusement park would be great for both. As for troll comment - his was not funny, but your comeback was amazing. You're out of his league. He should grow up and wake up.
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you had me at yoga pants.
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