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Catfish in the Dating Pool
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Bring your happy self south and we can do some catfishing  "You've seen my descent, Now watch my rising!" - Rumi Some women are lost in the fire. Some women are forged from it - Michele K.
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gottaring replies on 2/4/2013 2:57 pm: I'd have given up on you too, if you gave me an answer like that, lol!? I don't worry about it. She still drops by once in a while to see how crazy I can get. We do have a lot of fun bloging LOL This is not meant to offend any one in any way.     
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Y'know I was wondering what that term meant. Interesting. I take people at face value. And those that were deemed worth enough to meet in person had to meet me in person pretty darn quick or else I quit chatting. Most catfish start gasping for air when forced to make chit chat face to face. The computer is their fishtank! Those of them that got by... oh well, I wasted maybe half an hour of chat and even if I got stood up (always made a lunch/coffee date, never a dinner or club date) I still had a nice lunch!
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If NYQUIL is a gift from GOD then what is ZQUIL?
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I have never heard of that expression, so thank you for the explanation. When I was single on here and looking to date, I was very cautious. My now husband and I emailed and then texted for ages before we met. If anyone pushed me for a quick meet I would back off as I needed to feel safe and be comfortable. I have met some bloggers lately but they mainly have been people I have blogged with for years. So I would always advocate being incredibly but healthily cautious. I have heard so many stories of people on here not being what they appear. However I have came across a few people who take suspicion to the Nth degree and I find it sad that the assumption is often that people are out to get you, or to be deceptive. These are the Aims and Objectives. Please read. of the group, Bloggers United! which I moderate. And a link to a post about my home town, Glasgow ,I hope you enjoy it!
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Catfishing is an intresting and disturbing trend to say the least. I saw the originaly documentary, and the more recent Manti Te'o hoax. I does remind people to be cautious with their feelings online, but also makes me wonder about the sick pricks that seem to feed on this. Don't compromise yourself! You are all you've got!
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Maybe it's me, but I have a fine tuned bullshit detector. And, as most of you have missed, the catfish is considered by most a delicacy. Go to New Orleans and see how bad folks think a catfish is. Catching one is, by most fishermen, a worthy challenge. Keep us on our toes? Yes. A worthy adversary? Yes. But would I mistake one for a tuna? No. Experience and good sence divide the two like apples and oranges. Don Dadda
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Trust, like respect, is earned, not just given. The more you chat with people, the more you learn about them! Reading their blogs n profiles can help. They give you glimpses of who they really are, most people don't lie on the profiles, but not all tell the exact truth! You can learn a lot from the way they write, how truthful they really are. Romance her heart, tease her body, enjoy the company shared in bed n out! Treasure every moment spent together, in good times n bad! Cum visit my blog, you're always welcum!  submokey Become a watcher! THINK PINK!
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NyQuil and DayQuil work for me! What the hell is social jargon? 
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In gottaring we trust? You've got my trust my sweet! Thoughts from the Garden...
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nyquil is a magic elixir. however my child shrugs it off like water off a duck. she is too young for the healing properties of rum too.
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Yes, NyQuil is a gift from God. So is benedryl. "To Be Consumed" Blog : I want to be your drug of painful withdrawals.
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Nyquil is a gift from god. A shot of whiskey in tea (iced or hot) or vodka in lemonade does the same thing. Or so I've been told Yeah, you know I have all sorts of opinions on the whole catfish phenomenon. First off I think that term is misleading because while whereas the *goal* of including the catfish is to keep the other fish muscular, in this case it's the opposite goal of the human catfish. Instead, their goal is to lull their target into a false sense of security so that they don't ask many questions and don't look below the surface. I've been watching this show like a fiend because, well because this is one of those things that fascinates me to no end. There have always been cases of deception like this since Laban swapped out his daughters at the altar (Genesis Chapter 29). Shakespeare's works feature people who masquerade as others and one of it forms the basis of a lot of French farce and Wilde's most famous play. So why is it such a big deal now? Because the Internet, and specifically venues like social networking sites, blogs, message boards and the like make it much easier to do. This is mainly rooted in the great desire that people have to connect in online venue, deeper even than the need to connect offline. People *want* to connect and this sets up the equation for an emotionally dangerous dance: one partner hide and/or lies about the things they think will keep people from wanting to connect with them and the other partner makes a tacit agreement to not question what they are told or shown with vigor. I think I've said here before that there were at least 2 blogs I was sure were FOS (one has since disappeared) and a couple of others I had my suspicions about. I even had a person confide in me about a situation they found themselves in here. Bloggers are no more immune from perpetrating or being taken in my a catfishing hoax. A tip? The best way to not be "fished" is to do some digging, get a person's first and last name, get their address, *Google that shit*. Compare what they say with what they have said in the past (catfish are *notorious* for not keeping stories straight). Compare it to their lifestyle (if they say they are lawyer but live in a working class neighborhood, something might be up). Does the person and/or their family seem to jump from disaster to disaster (serious illnesses, accidents, house fires, unemployment, suicides,etc) and recover quickly? Does the person seem to drop out of site unexpectedly only to return with a story of some new crisis. In the case studies I studied (a dozen now) and the situations I have personal knowledge of, the signs are *always* there. Even on the TV show, it's pretty easy to find whole swaths of spottiness in the deceptive person's story. If you are "dating" someone for 1+ years and you have never met them, you are not in love, you are not in a relationship, you are just diddling yourself and living out a fantasy. And that's the other reason this works, for a lot of the targets, diddling yourself while you imagine your "dream girl/guy" in bed with you feels much safer than being in a real relationship in the real world.
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Wow... I am not up on my social jargon, not am I up on all the latest trends and such. That's one of the best parts of being an adult! You don't 'have' to be cool anymore, you are just cool by default! I know I'm cool, and so are you, so what's the big deal?  As far as fakes, damnit G, I have discovered that there are waaaaay too many in life, and on this site. On this site though, it very much seems that the bloggers seem legit, and I dig that. I am who I say I am, even if I try to keep it vague and mysterious. How am I doing with that by the way?? 
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1/30/2013 4:05 pm |
I think the observation that the regular bloggers on this site are real is a good one. As you are well aware, it is often difficult to come up with regular blog topics that DON'T have some measure of your personality or personal experience embedded in it- whether you intended to put that in or not. The general topics of the blogs say as much as the actual posts about who you really are and how you live your life. Even the grammar and mannerisms come through. To fake that may be possible but it would be a tremendous amount of effort and for what gain? I am also out of touch it would seem. I immediately thought of "noodling" when you mentioned catfish. As for whether catfish are bad or not, I suppose it depends on my mood when they nip my fin... It is nice to see you back GR! 
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I am too naive to question everyone and everything - and probably too exhausting for me too? I take what people say and if they have lied to me, they have to sleep with their conscience, not me. So the catfish? Do what you want, just don't hurt anyone!! Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning Come visit my blog to know what I get up to from time to time: [blog 4jasmine2]
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If NYQUIL is a gift from GOD then what is ZQUIL? NAKED MALE Housecleaning, for the LADIES only !!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Stroking videos, Enjoy ENJOY Message me for more info.
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You are not alone on being out of touch with the latest social jargon. The first time I heard the term "Cat-fishing." I thought they were talking about Noodling... the art (or sport, it depends on who you talk to) of catching cat fish with your hands as opposed to a fishing pole and chicken livers. I can understand how it happens however, the internet allows us to let it all hang out as it were emotionally, without fear of that "look" or someone laughing in our face. I pretty much stick with my blogger buds, they are a LOT more real NyQuil is manna from heaven, as is Dimatap and Melatonin "You've seen my descent, Now watch my rising!" - Rumi Some women are lost in the fire. Some women are forged from it - Michele K.
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Did you know that in the south they catch catfish with there hands in the banks of the river?? They just stick their hands in the holes and the catfish will bite down on it. If you want to keep up on the jargon ask shyram93. She tied to teach one time how to put pics together. She told me use Microsoft paint. When I told her I could not find it at the hardware store. She pretty much gave up on me.  This is not meant to offend any one in any way.
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You should watch that movie "Catfish". It's all about an internet hoax played on a New Yorker. I don't know how much of it is true, but it was an interesting flick...even to me. 
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What's with all the fish talk? You know I hate seafood! When are you going to start blogging about beer and/or donuts? You know, something I can relate to... Seriously, good to have you back
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Thankfully there are very few bad fish in this LesbianPersonals sea.
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1) Speaking of NyQuil, have you heard of ZzzQuil? I guess the NyQuil people realized that a lot people were taking it just to help them fall asleep even when they aren't sick, so they created ZzzQuil, which has no medicine, but is a sleep aid. 2) Whenever I recommend this site to people (which is rare), I tell them to blog. If you're looking to connect with someone, the blogs are infinitely better for that than the "dating" side of the site. There may be a few catfish in the blogosphere, but I'm sure far fewer than on the rest of A.FF.
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