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Great post!  However, I feel there needs to be one correction. The men far outnumber the women on this site (not the other way around as you posted).
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Well said... squirt
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Very true ! Some people are not really living in the real world harboring such ridiculous ideas about women and the site as youve mentioned !! You can nearly hear those guys cocks deflate with disappointment as you point out the way things really are and how they work ! Its even a bit embarrassing that you have to explain it !! And worse, that many will continue to carry on as they have been doing, frustrated, horny and alone !
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Excellent post and right to the point. Your right, some people just think because it is an Adult site, that they can get away with the one liners when writing to the women here. I mean, how many men here actually walk up on the street, store, or even a bar, and just say, "Wanna fuck?" Some people need to learn some tact and manners.
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Ha actually I have had more offers of sex on POF than I have here Don't compromise yourself! You are all you've got!
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I feel people are able to use this site as they wish! Everyone is not out here for the same reasons! I dont think that makes them wrong just because your not seeking the same things others are! js
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1/19/2015 10:59 am |
Strippers and prostitutes "require" only one thing: money. Other than that... spot on.  Lol
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Men actually take the sites' advertisement "get laid in 24 hours" literally. Speaking of not living in the real world. Who in their right mind would actually believe that? Takes all kinds here.
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1/19/2015 11:25 am |
Good post. Respect is the key issue here and it goes both ways. Man's respect for a woman and a woman's respect for a man. You have both sides that seem to forget that now and then.
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Men actually take the sites' advertisement "get laid in 24 hours" literally. Not a real sign of intelligence here.
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 I've been here long enough to know what not to say when sending messages etc. This place may have it's faults but you can make it work with a little effort. 
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Missy great post..I hope everyone reads it..cuz it was spot on!!! Have a great day.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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I have to mildly disagree on a few points, though my differences are more on style than substance. “If men want to be successful here they need to accept that in order to get fucked they need to be respectful” - that makes it sound false and conniving. Men on here need to be respectful because that is how you treat other people, both women AND men. And there really is nothing wrong with a “wanna fuck” email, though I mean to someone you know well, and NOT as an opening gambit. A Good OldFashioned Sex Party Is This Sexy Let39s Have A PREBeach Party, on HNW [post 3312759] My Private Blog – Tell me All your Secrets
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yes, I have heard the complaints from men here that they are not meeting any ladies and they are not getting laid. I laugh at them. They deserve not to get laid or meet any ladies. They think their cock photos and their initial "let's fuck" emails will be enough of an enticement for the ladies.....lol, they don't get it! They don't understand they still have to work to get to know them and compliment them and cajole them. Yes, like most relationships it takes work....even on LesbianPersonals! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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"The World's Largest Sex Dating Site & Swinger Personals Community", that what it say at the top of every page... yet some believe the site should be narrowly defined how they want it to be. Everyone one wants respect, women and men, but some people come here with, or develop a sense of entitlement, as smart and sexy lady pointed on the me recently. If shit isn't working for you, then change your shit . People just refuse to learn, and think complain is going to help.The definition of Insanity: "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". There is a lot of that here, it just insane. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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You hit it right on the nose!! Great post!!
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This is my pet peeve as well. No, this is actually a sore subject that I've ranted about to death again and again. Don't they get it? They will attract more of us with honey than with vinegar of their rudeness and vulgarity. Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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"Great post", Missy!!
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No its not a relationship site, but you never know what will fall into your lap. I always tell people there is really no such thing as "NSA" on here. You think you're going to find someone to call up randomly and say "I want some pussy, come over" and she's going to do that? Yeah, good luck with that. I've had exactly one situation approaching that in all my time on earth, and it was because of the situation she was in that she went with it. 99% of the time otherwise a woman would feel disrespected if I did that. Theres always strings. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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I just love all those emails telling me I'm in the wrong place for relationships --- I'm all.. hmm, so where does a person that really likes sex find others that really like sex.... relationship, wise? Or those that are polyamorous --- to find other poly -- open minded people, if not this site??? And. my husband found me in the blogs, here. damn those stringless strings!!
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Your words are wise and true. Why is it a problem from some people to be respectful. I've never understood that either. It's understanding the purpose of the site and many don't take the time to comprehend or even care. Bud Always Ready for Fun.
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This topic is always a good conversation starter. While I completely agree that people can use this site for whatever purpose they choose and that good manners are always appreciated and welcomed, I'm still puzzled by one thing ... Why would anyone seeking an LTR join a site where the chances of finding one are slim to none? If you're single, attractive and serious about finding an LTR, then why not try your luck on a mainstream dating site? There's no shortage of sexually-charged people there and your chances of finding a relationship would be greatly improved. However, if you're married, attached, into group play, enjoy casual sex, have certain kinks or fetishes, bi or bi-curious ... then A F F and other "sex" sites are really your best bets. If your "kink" is dating, LTR and lasting connections, I think there are better options.
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Perhaps you should start a "How to Properly Communicate with Women: For Men." blog. I would certainly read it. I think men here, sometimes myself too, are too focused on the physical aspect of sex and partnership. We thrive with the doing as that is how we normally act, and not the conversing. Which we do, but not as part of our main focus when we find a person attractive. Men react more physically as so we tend to foolishly believe that our female partner will want to react the same. Much to our disappointment. When faced with my own initial interactions with women that faced the same issue I had to wonder, and a lover of mine answered. "Men are like fire, quick to be aroused and easily extinguished. Women however, are like water and take awhile to heat up. But once they are, they last longer. Hope that helps the dudes out there.
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I'd love to see everyone here for relationships vs sex copy this post and post it to their blogs ----- maybe then, some would realize that this is a place to find that and have long term relationships. Be it one on one. Just for fun, or more than one --- PERIOD. Maybe then they'll stop with their: "You aren't in the right place.. THIS IS MY FANTASY -- random hook ups only " 
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Exactly right on.
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Amen! I actually have had better luck on here than dating sites. Sex is a big thing in a relationship and getting that out right away actually saves a lot of time. I sent an Angel to watch over you last night, it returned in a hurry. I asked why, it said "Angels can't watch porn." Thanks for fucking traumatizing my fucking Angel! Don't bother trying to figure me out. Not even the little voices in my head understand me. It's pointless!
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1/22/2015 8:34 pm |
My method is not contacting women at a all. I wait for them to contact me. So far hasn't worked out that well. Oh we'll, I'm not extremely thirsty at the moment, I just hate rejection so I don't email girls at all.
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1/22/2015 10:18 pm |
I doubt you experience much rejection when you email guys here. You're a total hottie.
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as someone who has been on here more than 12 years first several years i didnt have any pictures to post so men took a leap of faith to meet me. This was an adult dating site..Meaning you didnt have to be looking for marriage, yet for some if they connected while they were dating why not? I was best person at someone i met on here we dated for a year i would not have settled down with him so he came back on here and met his future wife. He asked me to be their best person and i was when they got married...If some man or woman is stupid enough to fall for the hype the site is luring people in with than thats on them. People should respect peoples rights...I was dog sitting for my sisters dog so i put in my status no meets while i am dog sitting some man had the nerve to tell me i should be on another site..me??? who meets and has fucked men..i ripped him another and blocked him..people do whatever feels right and make this site your own    je ne regrette rien
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I enjoyed your article. First time reader. I think respect goes both ways and ultimately leads to better and more meaningful / lasting sex
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I'm here because I'm looking for a relationship. And cannot have a relationship without good sexlife... Vanilla dating sites seem to collect men looking for a mother or a cleaning lady  Only universal or also in Scotland Where to start my day or is it month Of course I39ll change I39ll do whatever you like Heatseeking missiles  Squirter's life
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1 post 1/25/2015 11:55 pm |
Aww this is a wonderful post. It really puts it into perspective. I too believe that the only people who will "get it" will be the one's who already knew the concept of 'respect' to begin with. I feel as if this post should inspire people because respect does work.
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I've been a member for years. It's terrible in canada A lol. Totally different mindsets here. I used to bitch in the states, fuck I never knew how good I had it til I tried using the site in Canada. Big difference.
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Great post, shame most of the people it addresses seem to have an inability read people's profiles and blogs in the first place, expecting people to fuck them without an update face pic and informative message, and either learn or willing to learn something new other than the just size of their cock that day.
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I found the man, I'm pretty sure I'm going to end up calling THE Love of My Life here. It took 13 years. Though I had known of him and interacted for 7 years, and been friends probably 3 years of that. I've always said, I kept reverting back to this site because you could see men's true intentions here much better (though there's still the great hazard of them lying and using false identities). BUT if a guy is on other mainstream dating sites, you will probably find him here too ... and this is where you are more likely to see what he is really after. Ditto for dating guys "in the real world" ... Once I see certain sexting behavior, I've jokingly confronted them and found out they have a membership here too. Frankly, the man who's going to make me crazy in love with him is going to like sex, and if single, is going to end up trying this site out. And I want the one who enjoys sex most in a monogamous relationship and doesn't have to fuck every idiot woman in sight to feel like a man. I gave up on trying to fix the bad behavior here on the profiles and emails, because they serve as a easy way to weed out the assholes. And 
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Just the nature of this site opens up many possibilities. From straight forward relationship to " do you want to fuck". Two extremes . Most wish to play within these borders. We deal with them from our idea of "sexual place". Those of like mind we gravitate to . The others we don't. Love the blog .
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This site will always serve different purposes for different people and their success will vary depending on their expectations. This should be on the LesbianPersonals bible!!! Very well said.
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Well said
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cool
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misssquirtalot, what if your wife has gambled everything away. what if you have many children of numerous ages & cannot afford to leave her so that you can continue to support the kids as best possible. wisest choice of many - only for the kids. picture of my cock instead of my face is because of this. I am here simply to look for someone to have sex with as I don't want to touch her any longer. Is that such a bad thing I am doing? BTW - squirting, my lord I want to be able to get a girl to do that on my face.!!!
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Ditto
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I had my longest relationship with someone I met here, so it can be anything two people want it to be. I only do monogamy, so the whole NSA thing is off the table for me. Sharing a vagina with other men is not in the cards....  "My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur
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Some of us want a relationship and the awesome fuck all in one package... Still trying to find it though lol Well said Miss If it was good, its great but if it was bad then you call that experience E-4-N
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Good article. very well said.
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While I have never been one to disrespect anyone.I do question motives. Having and speaking your own mind can make people angry for some silly reason.People forget that if you're going to dish it out you need to be able to take it also.What you've written is really only common sense.Just as the saying, "It's what's on the outside that really counts!"JB Using more than all the road!
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Its sad if people become members of this site looking for a sold relationship Its fun to log on and look for like minded swingers that have a passion for good sex without any commitment One can pre plan a kinky trip abroad and this is the site to find those people. That's what its all about!
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Soooo... Why do 99% of the women on this site choose the disrespectful and self absorbed guys? Let's face it, we are for the most part, all experienced adults here. We can all assume who the disrespectful ones are going to be! Not many on this site have lived that sheltered of a life! We see it every day and shake our heads, thinking to ourselves.. how could she/he even be talking to that person? Maybe.. you like how you look together? Who knows... it's just how it is!
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There's nothing like a woman that see's thing for what they are and not what ppl expect,.. you knocked it outta the ball park with this post. Is my point valid,.. I dont know,..depends where your head's at when you read it
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2/7/2015 12:35 pm |
I've read most of the comments but admit to skipping a few. My wife says "men need a hole, women need a reason". When I was married to my 1st wife, we were chatters in chat rooms. Met some really nice people, and actually had cookouts and makeout sessions with them (how juvenile is that????) lol but we were friendly with them and they only lived 45 mins from us. When our marriage became rocky for other reasons (she didn't want children and I did), we drifted apart. I met my current wife (wife number 2, who's picture in my avatar), in a sex chat room called High Society Chat. We talked for four months, met in person, and had mind blowing sex. Three years later, we married, and have been together for 14 years. It's Great! Did I use the site to find a wife? No, i used it to find a sex partner and it evolved into something else..... KwildDD
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The truth has been spoken. Well done!
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I agree guys and girls deserve respect weather here for FB FWB or what ever treat each fair and you will get what you are looking for here
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2/12/2015 7:02 am |
I have told so many people that this not a website for relationships.
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2/13/2015 9:37 am |
I do,see many profiles with women looking for a relationship and seem dissociated that so many men are not. Hey, to me this is a place to meet casually not develope a monogamous LTR.
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2/14/2015 12:19 pm |
Well said. This site is for whatever anybody wants to get out of it. The fact some think it's just a matter of signing in and they'll be laid then they need to get a reality check. I find chatting for weeks to see if click for a long term friendship is better than any one night stand.
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Agree entirely. You have to give respect to earn it. Treat people how you want to be treated. Women are beautiful.
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So very true
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in 2013 I met a great guy from LesbianPersonals he was the best. We were together for almost 1 1/2 years. We decided that it was time to move on. Any woman that gets him is very luck I have met a few guys from this site that would go for a relationship LadyTeddieBear 
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 Is this a relationship site?? I always thought it was a bellybutton sex site?? Well said McMiss, hopefully some men who need to read this will take the time to do so!
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I totally agree. Very well said. Those guys who spend all their time complaining that they are not getting laid don't realize that they are their own worst enemy. They probably tried that approach in the outside world, and fell for the guarantee. They ALWAYS blame it on the women, and are too stupid to see it's their own damn fault. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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This topic is always a good conversation starter. While I completely agree that people can use this site for whatever purpose they choose and that good manners are always appreciated and welcomed, I'm still puzzled by one thing ... Why would anyone seeking an LTR join a site where the chances of finding one are slim to none? If you're single, attractive and serious about finding an LTR, then why not try your luck on a mainstream dating site? There's no shortage of sexually-charged people there and your chances of finding a relationship would be greatly improved. However, if you're married, attached, into group play, enjoy casual sex, have certain kinks or fetishes, bi or bi-curious ... then A F F and other "sex" sites are really your best bets. If your "kink" is dating, LTR and lasting connections, I think there are better options. Yes, it may be true that the odds of finding a long-term partner here are not good, but every long-term relationship has to start somewhere, doesn't it? The cads may outnumber the nice guys here - but then I only respond to nice guys. The proof is in the members I know here who did find their partners, and have either been together for a long time, engaged, or married. All because they took a chance on this site. If you don't look for it, you'll never find it. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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I think you get out of it what you put into it.
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