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Active Sex Life and Boring Friends Don't Mix
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Active Sex Life and Boring Friends Don't Mix It's been a while since I blogged and a lot has gone on in my life so I'm happy to finally have time to add a new post. A while back I got into a relationship that started as sex but developed into something more later. I guess the guy got tired of it and broke up with me. At first I thought I would just move on but I've realized I was very attached to this guy. I probably spent about a year getting over him and eventually really did move on. My medicine for a broken heart turned out to be lots of sex. I kept busy reaching out to former fwbs and met a few new partners along the way. I've even been going to a popular sex club nearby. I never assumed this would be a permanent change because settling down and having a family is one of my most cherished life goals. It's getting me what I need for now. But I've run into a few snags. For one thing I've come to enjoy having a very sexual lifestyle and am wondering if it's preventing me from having a more serious relationship. All my friends have lots of dates with these great guys while I'm calling up the next fuck buddy. Some of my friends have even started to hint that they don't approve of my sex life. I've kept it private but never felt like I needed to keep who I sleep with and when a total secret from so called friends. A few of us are still single or are interested in having very active sex lives without being judged for it. But the others in the group are starting to give lectures about being too slutty or harming their reputations and this is creating a rift in the group. We've all known each other since high school and none of us want our relationships to end but nothing kills the libido like knowing you're going to get a self rightious lecture the next day. My roommate has been great through all this. She has a boyfriend but has been incredibly supportive. But there have been parties or events we both didn't get invited to by the others. I still don't know how I'm going to resolve this but I am reaching out to my friends but realize I may see some of them less than before. If anyone has any advice on this please let me know. Abby |
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Our true friends don't judge us. Your sex life simply isn't their business, especially since a part of it is how you coped with emotional trauma. Honestly, the best way to resolve it is to keep being yourself and allow those who don't want to be your friends to drift away. Life really is too short to surround yourself with anything but supportive people. It sucks that your friends don't agree with your lifestyle choices, but if they judge you for this, they'll always be judging you for something. I speak from experience here. It's harsh to say, but if they don't want to accept you for who you are, moving on is the best option. Make some different friends.
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I hear you sex does it for me too!!
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That is one reason why I kept much of my activity here away from my closest 2 friends, who are fairly religious and disapproving of that. Its also why I partition off things for my real-life friends and those I meet on the vanilla dating sites. They know I'm on those sites, but if they knew that some of the girls I date were met from here, they would say something judgemental about it, so I don't tell them. Eventually you can find someone you'd be interested in having a real relationship with from either place, it doesn't really matter where you meet someone you really care for. If you find an immature one who would, then get rid of him. He'll judge you whether he says it openly or not. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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Bluelunarmonkey, Sounds like you suggest I want more than sex right now and need to move onto the next phase of my life? Maybe even agreeing with what some of my friends are saying? Abby
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