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Blogs > kerri_cd > kerri_cd's klutter

Now what?  

kerri_cd 55T
0 posts
8/6/2014 12:47 pm
Now what?

I have purged all my girl clothes, I'm tired of sneaking around behind my wife's back. I've been married too long to let dressing mess up the marriage.
Don't get me wrong, I still would like to dress like a woman and be one for a guy or...
I just can't seem to find the time to really enjoy it like I would like to.
So, how am I supposed to deal with my fantasies and desires now?
Therapy says, share fantasies with my wife, I already did and it turned her off. So what do I do now?
I have thought about telling her the whole truth, but I am afraid of how that would turn out.
Any thoughts?
Kerri

Gery12012 68M
Ask me for a photo
16 posts
3/26/2015 4:57 am

 Kerri,
I Love my Wife as well.... I don't want to hurt her... So I can't be myself, so I'll be another person whenshes' not around.
Its a lie to her, but thats' all I can do.


TallSexy81 41M
96 posts
8/7/2014 6:24 am

 If you can't admit to yours spouse who you really are, you are not only hurting yourself, but her as well. That I'm certain will change things between you, but perhaps for the better (I'm an optimist at heart). You should never worry about hiding part of your persona like that, maybe you and the misses can find something naughty you enjoy together. I really can't see her being completely oblivious to it.

Live a comfortable lie, or live as being who you are boss. I'd take who you are over a lie everyday, and twice on the weekend.


kerri_cd replies on 8/8/2014 4:58 pm:
nice, thanks for the input I really do appreciate it.
I'll have to do something about it some day..
Thanks again.

TallSexy81 41M
96 posts
8/6/2014 1:01 pm

 If you didn't tell her the whole truth, then you haven't really shared the depth of the fantasy/desire with her. She deserves to know it all if it truly bothers you.

Don't stop being you just due to others disapproval, even if it is as hurtful as a partners disapproval. Have you perhaps thought of including the wife in therapy? I more sanctioned environment to air your indulgence may make it easier to fully be supported in sharing.


kerri_cd replies on 8/6/2014 1:45 pm:
thanks just chicken on what might happen if I admit I have been bi my whole marriage.

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