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Yeah, they definitely do that. I would get really annoyed by men's erotica where they would imply that they can do just the very minimal of licking of fucking, and the woman just rolls from one orgasm into another. Uh? When does that ever happen? As for the squirting thing, it is definitely learnable - and the reactions that it gets from men is so much fun, that I would definitely recommend giving it a try. I didn't do it "naturally" and after research and talking to tons of men and women here over the years, I could experiment and it would happen on occasion. Now, I'm 100% sure how it works for me and it occurs every session with the right stimulation.
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LOVE this post! I am always concerned that I will disappoint by - well, it is difficult for me to orgasm with a new partner. When men say that stuff to me it makes me feel like I am under pressure and then it isn't likely EVER gonna happen. Stuff like that is why women fake it. 2022... it HAS be better, right?!
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I think the best way to respond to that is to say "Sure, and then we will . . .", and pile on some even more extravagant fantasies. You let him know that you know he is full of it, while keeping the mood light-hearted.
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a guy that knows how to please a woman doesn't even discuss the matter . . . you are dealing with the wrong kinda dudes . . . Yes, these men are likely to be in need of some sex education. And I would say ignore them if we were talking about first approaches. But IntendaDiversion indicated she had in mind men whom she felt had potential. I wouldn't suggest dropping them just because of this. The key is to gently disabuse them of the macho assumption that males should emerge from the womb knowing everything about sex, and that females have that expectation. Let them know you don't think less of them for having things still to learn. In the e-mail stage, I would suggest telling them that before getting physical there will need to be an honest conversation about expectations, it will need to be in person, and you aren't comfortable with discussing it in e-mails. If they won't respect your clearly expressed preference, then it's time to drop them.
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Regarding the "why", I think it's about a macho subculture that imagines sex as essentially a competition between men. In a competition, things are supposed to be designed to give every competitor an equal shot. Every runner starts on a mark that will have him run the same distance as the others. Goal posts are all same height. The assumption is that women's bodies are similarly all the same, so that any difference in sexual response reflects the male's prowess. They don't understand that they are pressuring you. They think they are just bragging on themselves. They don't expect these things to happen, or care. They just hope you'll buy into it enough for them to score. It sounds awful, but these aren't (necessarily) bad guys. They've just been under bad influences and have some things to learn.
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"I never email a man and tell him I cannot wait for him to fuck me for an hour straight ,or cum five times, or do oral for an hour, or hope his cock is huge, etc. I let it all unfold as it happens. Whatever penis size comes out of his pants, however long it takes for him to cum, how every many times he can get it up, etc. is just what it is and I don’t set up expectations ahead of time. " I like what you have written and you're being honest and true to who you are and what you are capable of. Dont feel pressured. At the end of the day, it is the man offering you who will have to prove he can really DELIVER the service he is offering. Some are just full of words but are only loud as an empty can, bragging their prowess. They have to be TESTED to be PROVEN! 
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Amen!!! Great post, and I fully agree.
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Good conversation and a good cuddle the rest will take care of itself. Able202
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Sometimes I feel sorry for men, they worry so much about if the woman they are with has an orgasm they can't focus on enjoying themselves. Maybe it's porn (and as someone else mentioned media) putting the pressure on them with articles giving them the idea that women are all multi-orgasmic and as a man they should be able to make it happen. I can't even begin to count how many men's profiles say they are more interested in making their partners orgasm than their own. They think that's what we want to hear. Sure I want a man to make me feel good....will not object to foreplay, fondling, oral sex, etc., but there are times, it's just not happening for me for various reasons. I may lend a helping hand or just enjoy it for what it is. It's not unchivalrous to cum when you are ready, as long as you've made a concerted effort for your partner to do the same.
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I like the sitting together...talking...cuddling,,,taking things slow and if it progresses, I know it's right. Pressure is the last thing I want anyone to feel...including myself!
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OK. Women, I can't wait to meet you, talk to you, connect, touch your body, kiss you, ignite some passion and see where it goes. I follow good thoughtful instruction well  Great post, pity the men who need to read this the most, won't. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Men should not, when an orgasm happens, stand up, raise their two hands and scream, "Gooooaaaaaal!" This was a gag on the TV sitcom "Friends". Monica was talking about her exes, and she called one of them "the 'I win' guy." She said that when he climaxed, he would cry out "I win! I win!" She added that while they were together, "I didn't get to win once."
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You are what you are and damned if anyone should make you feel less for that. What is teh saying its not getting to the destination its the journey. Sex is that its all about how much you enjoy what is happening and not the cumming, I got a new one today, never had any form of communication and he sends I love you Oh wow I should rush to him  An orgasm a day , makes you so much happier at work and play
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Such pressure, as you perceptively describe, is always counter-productive. Sex without pressure is the only way.
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Up until now, I've heard of squirting as a rare talent prized by some porn producers. So, lil_whimsical, and any other ladies who have experienced it, does it feel better? A lot better?
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Interesting... women have told me off for not "selling" myself in my profile and here you are complaining about men who try to sell themselves too hard The fact of the matter is that the site is very competitive - men are contending against at least twenty other men all vying for the attention of the same woman. It's a sex site, so you're "selling" satisfaction. How do you judge satisfaction? Orgasms. And it's an arms race - if one man says he will go down on you "for hours" then every other man must too otherwise he'll be left out. Though I believe that if you know what you're doing it won't take hours Women do the same - "I give the best BJs" is a very common line in women's profiles. Now I'd say that anyone who measures satisfaction purely by orgasm is missing out on the more sensuous possibilities, but there are plenty of people (men and women) who don't think beyond "You came, you enjoyed it" 
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Yeah, they definitely do that. I would get really annoyed by men's erotica where they would imply that they can do just the very minimal of licking of fucking, and the woman just rolls from one orgasm into another. Uh? When does that ever happen? As for the squirting thing, it is definitely learnable - and the reactions that it gets from men is so much fun, that I would definitely recommend giving it a try. I didn't do it "naturally" and after research and talking to tons of men and women here over the years, I could experiment and it would happen on occasion. Now, I'm 100% sure how it works for me and it occurs every session with the right stimulation. "I do this, you cum. I do that, you cum. I turn you over and do this and you cum harder than you've ever cum before" I know what sex is like from the male perspective, I'm curious about the aspect of sex I'll never experience - the woman's experience. Which is why I like the blogs
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Because most females here suffer from short attention span! So we have to throw ALL THE GRENADES in one bag and throw the In her direction. all for her then complain she has too many emails to read... So she just DELETES Them and asks "Wheres the real men? " Smh ~Linc was here.~
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I agree it is best to enjoy each other's company and then let things unfold naturally.
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Sometimes I like to talk about what's going to happen. I might say softly in her ear: "I think I want to brush my fingertips gently across your skin. But I just can't decide where. Maybe your neck? Or maybe your shoulder? Or your shoulder blade, along the ridge and over the tip . . . ?"
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your posts....brings Queen's song..."Under Pressure" to mind! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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FINE! I take it all back lol!
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Agree take every experience and enjoy it. Borntobeefree72?* Know what you want, ask for it! The pleasure is worth it.
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Every woman is different. I will tell a woman that I will stay with it as long as she wants trying to help her cum as often as she can or wants, but no one is so good that they have magical dicks or tongues. The most orgasmic women in the world have bad nights or just don't want to cum that much that night. All I can promise is that I want to help you to the best orgasm you can have, and with luck maybe it will be different, but that depends on the spark and the moment as much as skill. You are a woman, not a performing seal, I want you to enjoy being with me the most you can, not teach you to spin plates on your nose. "I will make you cum and cum and ..." Think he might have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell too?  Lust brings you together, love keeps you there, sex keeps the mechanism lubricated. 
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