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Hello, yes love to please my partners and not get any in return....but mine is different situation...my dick cannot work as it is damaged, so I can ever hope is that the lady is well pleasured....
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Permanently? Hell no. But on occasion, or even regularly, sure. we have done it both ways. One time it's her turn, another, mine. Most often we each get satisfied. normalisoktoo recently wrote a post about just liking the act of fucking irrespective of orgasm. Orgasm is not irrelevant, but it isn't mandatory either, and it isn't the ONLY thing. I think foreeverhard2 gave a thoughtful answer- it's a give and take relationship. No keeping score. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Sex has to be mutually enjoyable for me, otherwise it becomes a frustrating a slightly empty experience. 
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. It keeps the fire smouldering
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I am absolutely a pleaser. But I often wonder if I've grown into a pleaser because of my own issues. I have very rarely ever been able to achieve an orgasm the first time I'm with someone. Maybe it's nerves or confidence...I don't know. I've accepted it and work around it. I'm never disappointed anymore because I truly enjoy seeing the pleasure in others. I know my time will come. I'm at the point now where I enjoy an evening every now and then with just pleasing her. It's kind of like a gift. I give and don't expect nor want anything in return.
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I feel like sex is about mutual pleasure. That being said... If we are having sex on a fairly regular basis, I don't mind simply giving a blowjob, or doing the whole "edging" thing until he eventually comes. But esp given the last few months with a partner who seemed to lose all interest in actual participation from him, and only taking from me, NO... I refuse. Because truthfully, pleasing another truly turns me on! So for heaven sakes: reciprocation! Legally, it's questionable. Morally, disgusting. Personally... I like it. Your body may be a temple, but mine is a playground. Think weird things happen to you? I beg to differ: If a bear shits in the zoo A small something to add [post 3181492]
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1/11/2015 8:04 am |
I do enjoy and find a lot of pleasure in knowing I am pleasuring my partner ... I love to give oral, or an intimate massage and not be on the receiving end ... that being said, I would get very frustrated if it was always that way ...
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yes, my sub loves to please me!! But, as a Dom, I too like to control her orgasms...I like to bring close to orgasm to only to stop....edge play....she begs and begs...then I allow her to cum...and boy does she ever!!! I think if you have a healthy relationship with somebody, you will love to please your partner!! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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In the past, I have given without expecting anything in return. It honestly left me feeling used because it wasn't a 2-way street. I had to change if and how I did that. I've realized that I want to please just one person, do things just for him, make it more personal. But I will admit that I am like you. I can start out with the best of intentions and end up begging for him to fuck me.
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I know many gay men who are willing to 'suck and go' with no reciprocation, but I'm not sure how that would work with oral with a woman. That act is more intimate, it's not like she can pull down a zipper and haul it out for a quick blow-job. I suspect men advertising that either have psychological or physical issues or really low self esteem, and even then are counting for more once they start. There is a greater implied intimacy between men and women than between two men, and I doubt many women are looking for nothing but that from sex. I have taken care of a partner with no immediate return, but the reciprocation was certainly there at a later date. I wouldn't think that there would be many women who wanted or expected oral sex as nothing but a tongue to get them over. Most women need more build up than that anyway. Sex is seldom as direct and cut and dried as that with a woman in my experience unless there is some underlying psychological problem involved.  Lust brings you together, love keeps you there, sex keeps the mechanism lubricated. 
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Its a give and take type of thing, I like to go down, but hey, what the hell? What about Cockosarsus Rex? He get hungry too!  I don't to it just to get head, though it doesn't hurt, but yeah hey, I want something at least.   Hell I'd even split the difference and use one of her hands with mine to get somewhat off-ish Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts! 
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ive spent most of my adult life tryin to please before my own satisfaction,
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I have pleased someone else and not gotten the same back, usually if we don't have enough time for the both us to get a turn. But that is only on the rare occasion.
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I would not advertise as giver or taker only. i would be there for mutual pleasure. That said, I get huge joy form giving and would not hesitate on giving only but at some stage I would want the favour returned.
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intendadiversion replies on 1/12/2015 12:47 am: So did you send that guy packing? in a manner of speaking. When it is a long term relationship, it's a little more complicated than that. Legally, it's questionable. Morally, disgusting. Personally... I like it. Your body may be a temple, but mine is a playground. Think weird things happen to you? I beg to differ: If a bear shits in the zoo A small something to add [post 3181492]
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intenda, i am truly about shared pleasures. but i do get the most incredible satisfaction and pleasure from crawling between a woman's legs and making her cum. i would definitely like to go further and me cum too. but...........there are women i have met and seen that i would be most happy to just give them incredible pleasure and then them be on their way. what about you?
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I like things to be mutual unless circumstances prevent that from happening. If that is the case I am ok with pleasing my lover.
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I love to always give, but I also love and need to receive as well.  Funny women are incredibly sexy!
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hey i am not going to complain if it happens it happens just going to smile and be happy that she is happy
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I'm looking for mutually beneficial encounters. While I understand some men can get pleasure out of pleasing me, I NEED to make sure they are pleased as well. Only receiving oral would not be something I was interested in. Yeah, they enjoy it, but like you, I too need the dick during the encounter. I am single, there are no 'IOU' situations when it comes to sex. Either I am pleasured every time or I can, will and have move(d) on. As some of my lovers (all if they were questioned I would imagine) can attest to, I give a much better BJ after I have been stimulated the right way. I give more during sex as well after I have been pleasured. To sum up, I would not be happy either only giving or only receiving oral. I want the whole experience.
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That's tough to answer in a way that will convey my feelings. I definitely am a pleaser. I love to eat pussy, and I believe I'm quite good at it; tender at first, circling your clit but eventually exploring every part of your pussy. The taste and scent, drives me crazy!! I'm always listening for those moans that mean (don't stop) or your hands on the back of my head, meaning (more pressure). Knowing that you are being turned on by my oral which is making you WANT my cock, makes the idea of oral even hotter for me. So I like to please but have no problem getting my cock involved. This is the tricky part. I seem to not always cum anymore. This by no means diminishes the experience for me and makes me last and last and last usually giving a better experience for the woman. As long as she doesn't require the money shot as proof of her skill as a sexual woman, we would get along just fine.
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Never! I'm just elated that pleasing someone sexually pleases me. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Hello, yes love to please my partners and not get any in return....but mine is different situation...my dick cannot work as it is damaged, so I can ever hope is that the lady is well pleasured....
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I adore your curiosity, N... Please never lose that. A guy usually has to be 6 and a half inches to give my epiglottis the friction that I enjoy but I enjoy 7 or 8 or even 9 inches which I can keep down for 17 seconds. I'm very proud of that ability and my partners are suitably impressed. 
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I love giving oral to my lover as foreplay. It does turn me on, and I don't need genital reciprocity immediately; but I do get very hard and aroused and do like to fuck at some point afterward. But again, it doesn't have to be within five minutes, or even within the hour. The longer I wait, the harder I'm going to cum. Now there's another aspect to giving oral with no expectation in return: that is the pure satisfaction of pleasuring and finishing a woman. That's not quite the same pleasure as sexual release; but it's a great feeling nonetheless. Pleasing a woman, taking her to the top of the proverbial mountain and assisting her in reaching sexual nirvana is a very, very powerful high.
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