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Damned if we don't! Damned if we do
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Damned if we don't! Damned if we do I had a much longer post written earlier but it got lost in trying to save it. So, I shall try this again but without the stories of my first time I had sex with a man and others. I will try now later to recreate the last part of my blog. In the question I asked about why men call me "Gay" or "Bi" for my status as in Orientation as being Straight and yet having sex with men. A few comments said they were confused about this considering I am Male by sex. So having sex with men makes me automatically Gay or Bi. Making no difference in the clothes I wear. Not so fast buckoo's! When I dress as a woman I see myself as a woman in my mind and heart. And I have all the wants and needs (yes, even sexual) of a woman. As a man, I will only have sex with a woman, as a man. And when I am dressed as a woman, I will only have sex with a man as a woman. I will NEVER! have sex with a man, as in me penetrating a man, when dressed as a woman. Nor while I am in boy mode, I will not have sex with a woman when dressed as a woman! So I am neither Bi-sexual or Gay! My Sexual Orientation is STRAIGHT! Here is an explanation I found that does a great job of explaining. I am coping it from: http://LesbianPersonals.com Gender identity and sexual orientation are not the same. Sexual orientation refers to an individual’s enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attraction to another person, whereas gender identity refers to one’s internal sense of being male, female, or something else. Transgender people may be straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or asexual, just as nontransgender people can be. Some recent research has shown that a change or a new exploration period in partner attraction may occur during the process of transition. However, transgender people usually remain as attached to loved ones after transition as they were before transition. Transgender people usually label their sexual orientation using their gender as a reference. For example, a transgender woman, or a person who is assigned male at birth and transitions to female, who is attracted to other women would be identified as a lesbian or gay woman. Likewise, a transgender man, or a person who is assigned female at birth and transitions to male, who is attracted to other men would be identified as a gay man. Being a Transpgender woman basically means I think of myself as being a real woman Also from the previos site. Transgender is an umbrella term for persons whose gender identity, gender expression or behavior does not conform to that typically associated with the sex to which they were assigned at birth. Gender identity refers to a person’s internal sense of being male, female or something else; gender expression refers to the way a person communicates gender identity to others through behavior, clothing, hairstyles, voice or body characteristics. “Trans” is sometimes used as shorthand for “transgender.” While transgender is generally a good term to use, not everyone whose appearance or behavior is gender-nonconforming will identify as a transgender person. The ways that transgender people are talked about in popular culture, academia and science are constantly changing, particularly as individuals’ awareness, knowledge and openness about transgender people and their experiences grow...... Many identities fall under the transgender umbrella. The term transsexual refers to people whose gender identity is different from their assigned sex. Often, transsexual people alter or wish to alter their bodies through hormones, surgery, and other means to make their bodies as congruent as possible with their gender identities. This process of transition through medical intervention is often referred to as sex or gender reassignment, but more recently is also referred to as gender affirmation. People who were assigned female, but identify and live as male and alter or wish to alter their bodies through medical intervention to more closely resemble their gender identity are known as transsexual men or transmen (also known as female-to-male or FTM). Conversely, people who were assigned male, but identify and live as female and alter or wish to alter their bodies through medical intervention to more closely resemble their gender identity are known as transsexual women or transwomen (also known as male-to-female or MTF). Some individuals who transition from one gender to another prefer to be referred to as a man or a woman, rather than as transgender. People who cross-dress wear clothing that is traditionally or stereotypically worn by another gender in their culture. They vary in how completely they cross-dress, from one article of clothing to fully cross-dressing. Those who cross-dress are usually comfortable with their assigned sex and do not wish to change it. Cross-dressing is a form of gender expression and is not necessarily tied to erotic activity. Cross-dressing is not indicative of sexual orientation (See Answers to Your Questions: For a Better Understanding of Sexual orientation and Homosexuality (PDF, 1M  for more information on sexual orientation.). The degree of societal acceptance for cross-dressing varies for males and females. In some cultures, one gender may be given more latitude than another for wearing clothing associated with a different gender.The term drag queens generally refers to men who dress as women for the purpose of entertaining others at bars, clubs, or other events. The term drag kings refers to women who dress as men for the purpose of entertaining others at bars, clubs, or other events. Genderqueer is a term that some people use who identify their gender as falling outside the binary constructs of “male” and “female.” They may define their gender as falling somewhere on a continuum between male and female, or they may define it as wholly different from these terms. They may also request that pronouns be used to refer to them that are neither masculine nor feminine, such as “zie” instead of “he” or “she,” or “hir” instead of “his” or “her.” Some genderqueer people do not identify as transgender. Other categories of transgender people include androgynous, multigendered, gender nonconforming, third gender, and two-spirit people. Exact definitions of these terms vary from person to person and may change over time, but often include a sense of blending or alternating genders. Some people who use these terms to describe themselves see traditional, binary concepts of gender as restrictive. So the short of this is: We are either Called Transgender's or Transsexual's Not Bi or Gay, or even just Tranni's We are the Gender you see and read about here in our blogs and questions. I am Danielle! I maybe male by sex. But my gender, when dressed, I am a WOMAN! I do not have sex with men as a man! I do not have sex with women wen dressed as woman! I am not Bi! Nor am I Gay but a transgender woman! Then there was the question of kissing . I love it. It gives me a romantic connection with the man. So why wont men kiss me when having full sex or even just a blow job? i have some conclusions. Kissing is an act of intimacy that they do not want to have with me. They believe that with No Strings Attached they are opening themselves to a Long Term Relationship. Some think Married or not, that have a significant other believe if they do not kiss then they are not cheating. I am sorry to say sweetie, you already are! With or without the kissing. My last conclusion is All they can see is a man in a dress. No amount of perfume, make-up, or clothing will change their mind. Guy's, Look at the illusion I am presenting to you and keep it in mind. And keep your hands out from under my skirt. and as long as you see me as woman that is what I am! So to be short. Guy's I will let you fick me (if you are not too thick) But do not expect me to fuck you! After all I am the woman and I expect to be treated as such!   Life is short and I like who I am! |
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You go --- GIRL!!! I've always defined Transgendered as those aroused by dressing as the opposite sex. ( I'm a transgendered female, born female. ) I've just never considered having different labels as straight or bisexual --- with that. I feel since I'm into girls I'm definitely bisexual versus straight. I more or less just consider myself pansexual --- I see no gender, just the person. For I sincerely believe we all are both. I feel we all have male & female in us --- we balance in different ways. I mean why else do men have nipples?? They are on you in the womb before gender is assigned.. they are a female, trait. I just love your post though, gets you to think about it. Thank you.
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