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the healing process
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the healing process THE HEALING PROCESS Never believe someone who says that moving on is easy. When someone shouts at you about being so stuck to someone and to just move on, tell him that it’s not as easy as it sounds, but you can. And you will. Remember that nothing takes overnight, it may take days, months or maybe years, but it doesn’t make you weak or dumb, maybe your just taking your time. But here’s the thing, you only will the moment you start to realize and … accept. (i’m not really sure but this works best for unrequited love people) 1. Stop expecting. Stop believing. He talked to you today and you started thinking that he really really really likes you and then the next day you started ranting about how he left you hanging but in the end, it just boils down that every pain in your heart is because of your OWN expectations and hopes. You don’t want to get hurt but you just keep coming back, if you keep doing so, if you keep on believing, if you keep on forgiving him, no such thing called “move-on” could happen. It’s like you’re opening a raw wound in your heart over and over again. Believe me, your wasting your time thinking about him because he’s not thinking about you. 2. Take it little by little, step by step. Just like what I said on the introduction, take your time — but don’t take too long. The time will depend on how you take it in and how you accept it. If you still like him, don’t push yourself to un-like him in such a short span of time, it won’t do any good, except pain. Remove the things that reminds you of him little by little, pick up the little pieces of your heart, one fragment at a time. If someone asks if you’re still affected, just smile and hide it for awhile, it will help — if you can fake smiles when your hurting, how can it be so hard right now? 3. Don’t let him control or hurt you again. Stop making a fool out of yourself. Don’t let him make you feel worse. Maybe your affected about everything about him, but don’t let it show. It will subside, someday, you’ll realize. Show him that letting you go is the biggest mistake in his life and stop telling yourself that maybe you are the one who made a big mistake for not telling him how you really feel. If you see him with someone else, don’t compare — always remember, you are unique and you are worthy of someone better. 4. Cry. Let it out, it’s okay to cry. Let it consume you for awhile but not for toooo long. Don’t get it bottled up or you’ll just break down. It doesn’t mean your weak, let it be something to tell you to start over again, to tell you that life goes on. 5. Treat yourself something nice. This really works. Doing something you love or something you want makes you occupied that makes you forget it for awhile and soon it will make you feel again that there are still wonderful things in life. Read a book, eat sweets, find a good movie, have a day-out with friends. 6. Surround yourself with love. Being broken makes you feel like love is just for losers who are far too dumb to believe, makes you feel bitter and keeps on telling to yourself, “boys are just good at the start, they’ll leave you anyway.” It’ll make you think that love isn’t real, that the magic of love may not really work for you, but if you talk to your real friends, confide in you family, it’ll make you feel that there is still love — unconditional love — and that you can still find it even in the littlest things in life, not just in boys. If you keep doing so, love will heal everything, maybe find someone who’s really the one, and will make you forgive the man who broke your heart but, also made you realize that you’re stronger than you’ve ever known and that you are much more than what he made you feel~ Don’t be afraid to fall in love again. Love is a process you have to learn and you have to adapt with. And love means taking risks. |
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1 post 10/31/2014 12:32 am |
i hope this make sense. so it really works to others.
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