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Other bloggers can post anything they like in their blogs. I won't be doing a Brokeback Mountain spread in any of my posts. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Other bloggers can post anything they like in their blogs. I won't be doing a Brokeback Mountain spread in any of my posts.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Women also use very short messages as initial contact. The last 4 I have received were: “Hi there, I’m ----- I like your profile”, “Hi, I like your profile”, “wanna play” and “Hi”. But it seems like no matter what a guys says, respectfully, as an initial message someone is going to crap on a guy about it. Double standard much? When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I agree with the eye candy as in our friend Nightsoul1962 shows the eye candy on Thursdays, but in saying that I see enough DICK PICS so how about some sexy bedroom eyes or some chests and hell some ladies like to see a nice ASS..but this is just me and if I want to get close to see a dick pic I will ask as I'm not shy.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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I met all 4 and not "just for sex" and did things with them 'in and out of the bedroom'. In my time here I have found the men and women aren't all that different so I comment about the inaccuracies of the generalizations that are posted sometimes. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Women also use very short messages as initial contact. The last 4 I have received were: “Hi there, I’m ----- I like your profile”, “Hi, I like your profile”, “wanna play” and “Hi”. But it seems like no matter what a guys says, respectfully, as an initial message someone is going to crap on a guy about it. Double standard much? I would like to hear from the guys what they think of when a woman says she wants to see some eye candy but not dick pics. Being smart assy here but I think most guys think that eye candy is explicit pics...Note I did say 'most' guys....there are, of course, exceptions....I do agree with you, Lala...eye candy for me is not a dick pic....there are some very sexy pics of guys on this site with not a dick in site.... Read RESPECT WE all NEED to do Better and Re Petition to Stop Transsexuals from Using Female Profiles
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Interesting, red! That you actually met and had fun (in and out of the bedroom) with them, despite their initial, very short messages to you. I actually delete messages from guys who only say 'hi sexy, how ya doin?' Maybe it's the difference between men and women or maybe it's because we ladies get a dozen such messages every day. I don't know. Course, the messages I receive are usually from guys clear across the USA from me or way below my age parameters...indicating they haven't taken the time to read my profile. I would like to hear from the guys what they think of when a woman says she wants to see some eye candy but not dick pics. Being smart assy here but I think most guys think that eye candy is explicit pics...Note I did say 'most' guys....there are, of course, exceptions....I do agree with you, Lala...eye candy for me is not a dick pic....there are some very sexy pics of guys on this site with not a dick in site.... I don’t have any pics other than what is on my profile and I wouldn’t send anything more revealing if I was asked. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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"So my question, who understands the difference between 'idle flattery' and 'sincere compliments'? Explain your understanding of the two." Pretty simple. Idle flattery is not sincere, it is just an opening line or offhand comment that has no real feeling behind it. It is intended to start a conversation on a pleasant footing. That doesn't mean that it is not a true statement though. Sincere compliments are heart felt, for instance, I used to tell my Wife she was beautiful. She was to me as I was in love with her. She wasn't what you would call pretty, but to me she was beautiful. Vive La Difference
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They might be saying "Hi Sexy" to every woman they contact, after all, you typically only contact then because you find them attractive in one way or another. You can't think you're the sexy woman on the site, right? Eye candy, I got nothing to show compared to the guys on nitesouls blog....mine would be considered more of an "eye sore".
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Quoting BiggLala "Great explanation. As I said, I don't bag on the guy because I'm sure he is just trying to be 'nice' and polite; however, I've exchanged messages back and forth where the guy couldn't string a sentence together without a 'beautiful' or 'sexy' thrown in...for good measure, but the 'compliment' didn't fit and wasn't necessary to the conversation. Maybe I'm being a bit pissy and annoyed, but my ego doesn't need to be stroked that way." I don't like it when people pour it on excessively either. It makes you wonder what they want... though sometimes it is obvious. That type of complimenting gets annoying. Vive La Difference
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Brokeback Mountain because those male beefcake models all look gay to me. Like they'd enjoy each others' company more than yours. Not that there's anything wrong with that... I bet it's one big party in that firehouse! And they don't have to pay a stripper, either. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Hi BiggLala... thanks for the post... I luv women... all kinds of women... I'd rather compliment someone on their writing skills because you don't know if the pics they post are real or not... but, you do know that the responses they post took an effort... I've never been an exhibitionist, so, it doesn't enter into my realm of possibilities to put something out there... if you want the real thing... that can be arranged... so many profile pics are all about that... have a great day!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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Idle flattery is said before you know the person, it is something said to start a conversation, they hope. A sincere compliment is because you know more of who that person is. Beauty and sexy is about a lot more than just looks. It is about who that person is as a person. You can not truly know a person without getting to know what makes them tick, their likes and dislikes. What drives them to be the person they are. You have spent the time to get to know who they are and what they are about.
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well, I'd say idle flattery is always politely positive, where a sincere compliment can be, but it could also include un-flatteringly negative wording with positive intent...... E.g. using "BITCH" as the acronym: Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Creative, Honest (or any of the other backronyms for bitch)
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They might be saying "Hi Sexy" to every woman they contact, after all, you typically only contact then because you find them attractive in one way or another. You can't think you're the sexy woman on the site, right? Eye candy, I got nothing to show compared to the guys on nitesouls blog....mine would be considered more of an "eye sore".   WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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Maybe their not the no neck fire hydrant armed guys that these people are hooked on displaying pictures of.People that post pictures of the perfect human physiques male or female posing alone or in some sexual entanglement tend to live in a fantasy world.It's no wonder that peoples expectations are through the roof here.Even if it's possible to fulfill those expectations.The amount of mirror time would never warrant anytime to go out anywhere.God forbid any hair is out of place or a tan line disappears. That just an observation that I feel safe enough to make since I am at least 20 years older then the target audience. There are more stand offs and stalemates created here everyday.When people can climb down from their high horses and start acting like normal people maybe that's when some connections might be possible. Just a thought! It's not my fault if most of you men think you have to show your penis so we can find you interesting........believe me, we do take for granted that y ou have a penis. Gardenboy, for example, post some of the most sexy pictures of himself, which are very pleasing to the eye. If you guys don't do it, somebody got to , as we have our needs too!!!!!! BiggLaLa to you  WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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The physican "goods" are unremarkable, and I'm not a exhibitionist...so... Besides, I keep reading that the mind is what you ladies would like to see, with the endless complaints when men show you what they consider to be the "goods". Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Yeah, I can get that entirely --- and I'd also say using negative terms as compliments generally requires knowing each other incredibly well so there is no misunderstanding of it being intended as a compliment --- or an inside joke....or even a term of endearment. The latter two of which could particularly be used with the overly and unjustly used terms like "bitch" or "ass" or any of the other multitude of terms individuals with overly thin skins will try to pin on someone as revenge. PS It can be sooooo entertaining to see the reactions individuals have when they are trying to be insulting an mean .....and you just respond with a smile and friendliness
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Good luck in what you're searching for.  ~  ~
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An opening email without a lot of compliments or flattery is a good test for finding out who is genuinely interested in talking to you. If you flatter a woman and she flatters you back, you're not always sure if she is being genuine or just being polite. My opening emails to women here are pretty quick and boring because I just want to see who's interested in starting a conversation.
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