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I likely didn't answer your question as eloquently as others, but I stand by what I said.... for ME.... hello is hello, nothing more. I engage in politeness for that is how I was raised, I do not believe that it is an invitation for advances. now I also realize that I am a minority, and that many guys see it as an invitation to get fresh. I do not understand that mind set, so I'm unable to comment. saying she will never be interested is putting an unfair judgement on another person without knowing them..... more accurately I would have to say that I never expect them to be interested
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Heck if I know, though I will say that occasionally the thought crosses my mind that perhaps that politeness was more than just politeness. ....but then it tends to get killed pretty quickly as the logical side of my brain kicks in and kills that line of thinking through pointing out I have no basis for knowing what someone else's baseline level of politeness actually is ..... So with that in mind I can honestly say I haven't a clue when a woman is or isn't interested in me unless she actually tells me....  --- yeah, I fully realize that can just as easily go the other way and be turned into "how does a woman know I'm interested in her if I don't say so?" Though I can say that, personally, I'm not a fan of the "grabbing method" espoused by one of the current presidential candidates --- even though I've actually seen that method work before  .. (one of the many reason why I say, "Humans? bah humbug" )
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Ah yes, there is body language and you are correct that I don't really do the club scene....though I have just enough to know what you mean as well as know that it can be the most ambiguous and easily denied (or otherwise lied about for whatever reason). So that combined with all the potential legal outcomes of not getting a direct verbal/written form of communication (or in some states of this country a signed and notarized contract ) before proceeding just creates a whole lot of disincentive to start guessing at the intent --- no matter how much "fun" it means missing. .....or at least that's my way of thinking (for better or worse). 
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Personally I think it's all from some sort of new-fangled course that we were both fortunate(?) enough to be out of school before it was added to the curriculum ....you know sort of like some of the new, and utterly absurd ways they are apparently now trying to teach math -- not sure I want to know how bad that's gotten, given by the time my younger brothers made it to advanced math classes the terminology and method of instruction had been so badly changed that despite my degree in "rocket science" (aka aerospace engineering) helping them with their high school math was basically impossible. 
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10/24/2016 8:42 am |
No, it just someone showing kindness!
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Be Polite, Be friendly. It is nice when everyone is. It doesn't mean you want to take them to bed this minute but you might actually get to know them enough to decide if you want to be friends. Besides you can always tell them to F off latter if you need to. There you go That's all and none of it tragic.
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"Oh, I have the same rule as Kinky...avoid eye contact at all costs...I mentioned that in the post. My thing is...I shouldn't have to...or rather, I wonder why I have to. I agree, some people don't have the social skills to strike up polite conversation and let that be it, .... but creeps generally don't approach like you'd think creeps would.!" What do you mean? Please explain a little more. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- $20 on an Amazon order would bring some clarity to the discussion: Body Language Secrets by R. Don Steele But reading it is only the beginning. Watch TV on mute and you begin to notice the unconscious gestures. Gestures that say "go away", gestures which say "talk to me", gestures which say "I can't believe I just said that". The "avoid eye contact" ...yeah...."You are on ignore" Green and red table grapes were on sale last week locally for $0.69 per lb. I practice the being polite and friendly with everyone all the time. I make eye contact. How she(he) looks back or not tells me if I should approach.. The male is expected to show initial aggression and then back off....it's basic human sociology. Once you master the "being friendly", when that 9.5 shows up...and they show when your not looking...you are practiced and calm enough to fake it Yet, I don't want the embarrassment of being rejected publicly, so I wait for her signals and give signals back...a smile works. You can say almost anything neutral. If she is interested she will take it from there. As a man you are likely to be back on "buhbuhbuh" and she has you completely sized up in less than a minute. You already checked out her tits and ass so don't do it again during the interaction.  there's no smilely for lust.I find it's helpful to be in the moment enough to hear the emotion in her voice. The other day, I showed a woman the better quality lower priced tomatoes. I saw her checking me out from across he produce section. Polite and friendly doesn't mean she wants to hook up. Could be she's curious, flattered you checked her out, having a great day, feeling frisky....The woman has to decide if you are safe enough. Takes a few minutes of conversation and watching for signals. Then offer or not to exchange numbers. I do it with my smart phone. In this instance no phone numbers were exchanged.
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I'd just take a return 'hello' that she is a nice polite person. If she tried to engage in conversation I wouldn't read too much into it either because she might want to talk for many reasons (help, information..) ... I'd definitely see where any conversation goes and look for the body language for signs of interest  some blokes will think a glance of more than half a second means you want to jump them though 
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Some way, people meet in some way before the Internet . It could start by a look and smile but there is no guarantee. For me, I need to meet a few times. Some people are just friendly. Cum to my blog and respond.  Have a great kissing fun time. 
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What I want to know is...do most guys think a woman is interested in them simply because she's polite or nice to them? Is courtesy, politeness or niceness an automatic indicator of interest? If not, how do you determine whether a woman's interest in you? I don't think that someone being polite is an indication of interest. I tend to make eye contact with people around me and often nod or say hi and consider that to be "normal". I don't try to pursue a conversation even if I find them attractive when I'm out shopping etc. because I'm the type of person that is there to shop not pickup women. That's not to say that I wouldn't converse with someone but I'm not likely to pursue the conversation. There are always exceptions though. Like conversations with the checkout counter person or sitting in a waiting room or other place where I'm not moving through as fast. Most by far are not anything I saw as showing interest in me but there were some such conversations that were definitely more stimulating. I tend to determine interest based on body language and eye/facial expressions more then the actual words however there are definitely exceptions when the conversation is shall we say risque or suggestive though that can be just flirtatious behavior with no intentions intended. I have to admit to reading people pretty well most of the time when not distracted by other things anyways. I have been in situations where it was very clear the woman was interested but as luck would have it I was either married or otherwise involved and had to pretend not to see the signs.   Vive La Difference
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