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Personally I don't read anything into it. I just think they are being polite.
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Wow! Grapes are a very good price there!
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that seems to be a rare thing these days, but really, nothing should be put into it, unless your standing there with a conversation going for a half an hour, then maybe, just maybe there might be something there. but again, on just a chance encounter, I'd say no. .
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In my experience, most men cannot read subtle signals from women, and also are not adept enough to send them correctly. Otherwise, there would be no need for the John Gray books about Mars and Venus. LOLOL
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Kermit must have felt that way after giving Miss Piggy his number. LOLOL (I miss Jim Henson.)
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10/8/2016 10:00 pm |
yea gods, if I woman doesn t talk to me.. I don t think there is any thing that will , could , should ever happen.. face piles of trials with smiles.. MOODY BLUES please feel free to visit my blog happy blogging
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I'm polite and nice and I pretty much cut the guys off-at-the-knees because I am usually in a relationship with someone I pursued, and I am up front about that. If someone is attracted to me and starts to show me signs I start talking about my relationship and then tell them I have friends I can fix them up with. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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I don't read anything in to it. I just say hello and keep moving. I use to be good at reading signals but times have changed. In my teens and 20's it was a lot easier to start a conversation with women but today with all the crazy's running around women are a lot more reluctant to strike up a conversation with a stranger. To be honest....men and women are wacked and most have a bus load of baggage. Just recently there was a new girl started working at a local grocery. I got the feeling that she was "sending out signals". I went through her check out and was the only one in line. I like going to do my grocery shopping at around 10 PM when no one else is there. Anyway, we start talking and she proceeds to tell me she is a single mom, has 3 kids and is losing her job because the company is moving to Mexico. She was just working at the grocery for extra money. I'm like ...whew, TMI !!! Most of the women I've dated I was always in a situation were I was around them on an ongoing bases and got a chance to get to know them first. In my teens and 20's and my clubbing days it wasn't unusual for me to have women come up and start talking to me first or you keep making eye contact and that kind of gives you an opening. In an everyday situation like at Wally world it's not that cut and dry. I think environment and situations play a big role in meeting members of the opposite sex. Hope this helps! 
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it might to him but everyone is different so I green light to him maybe a yellow to someone else and yes a green light to another. So with that said what is better plan of action A. presume it a green light and strike up a conversation. Or B. do not say anything and miss out on what could have been a good thing. Your call
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Is Polite the Green Light? No, not necessarily. If someone breaks the ice with a polite question, casual observation or simple greeting--and doesn't seem creepy--then feel free to respond in kind. I think most sane people can discern between a polite reply and a hint that you might want to hear more. If you're not looking or your creep-o-meter is faulty, kinkyfem73 has the right idea: ....avoid eye contact at all costs!! I think you made the right call. Someone who doesn't know how to approach a woman like a grown ass man probably doesn't possess the social skills required to make good company.
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This is a big problem for guys because all girls so their interest differently. I had this really hot girl that I use to work with tell me over Facebook that she had the hugest crush on me when we worked together but she avoided me like the plague so I thought she hated me. Then there are the girls who are all over you but when you ask for their number they act like you slapped a baby. That's happened to me before too. So I understand why guys just plow ahead sometimes. It's just easier to let a girl know you're interested and give her the opportunity to respond instead of waiting for a signal that may or may not come.
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10/9/2016 1:57 am |
LOL. thanks for making me sound like some kind of he man , or sexy guy.. no , no woman has ever , in my 63 yrs of life , ever looked at me , for me to initiated a conversation that I would have felt comfortable enough for me to do. ROTFLMAO.. but thanks again for making an old man feel good.. I ain''t that guy.. never was never will be.. . face piles of trials with smiles.. MOODY BLUES please feel free to visit my blog happy blogging
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If the woman isn't handing me her phone number, within a reasonable length of time, ìt is what it is. People are strange when you're a stranger."
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The only way I've been successful at reading "signals" from women is to add large amounts of alcohol and see what happens. Other than that, I call BS on the reading signals from a stranger for the most part because you can't confidently read someone's body language if you don't know what they're normal behavior is like.
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Is courtesy, politeness or niceness an automatic indicator of interest? "automatic" Not necessarily. But it could be. If not, how do you determine whether a woman's interest in you? If there is some indication (hard to say exactly what it may be, just a gut thing in most cases) that a conversation could take place I will participate. From there see if there is enough to keep going. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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**raising hand** Ooooo . . . oooo . . read mine!, read mine! and then in my soft low Capt'n Jack voice - "look into my eyes darlin." When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Oh, it wasn't the fact that she was talking to me about her job and kids that I took as a signal. It was what she did on previous visits that made me think that. It seemed every time I was in her sight and I would look up she was looking at me and would make eye contact. The night she was telling me about her situation was the first time I went through her line. Before I checked out, every time I would come to the front of the store, you know, going up and down the isle's, she would walk toward her register like she wanted me to come through her check out. There were 2 cashiers on duty and they were both just kind of standing around. It may have been nothing and I wasn't reading anything in to it but, I just got that feeling. How would you take that? Just curious, from a woman's perspective.
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This is a very good question. I put it right up there with men who don't know a woman but feel as hough they have the right to say, "why don't you smile" (because I don't want to motherfucker). I have a strong suspicion that if you ask men if they take a woman being polite as being a signal , they'll say no. Some because they are smart enough to figure out it will make them look bad if they say they turn a woman's polite nod or word into an opportunity to come on to her  However, I think most men don't interpret what they do as pestering a woman because we never see what we do as wrong, we always have a reasonable (to us at least) justification for our actions: she held eye contact for a little longer, she brushed up against me as she went through the open door, etc. That's a human behavior that reaches across cultures. I bet that if you surreptitiously followed most guys who say they don't do this, you'd see them do it and if you pointed it out to them, they would give you 100 reasons why you are wrong, not them. I also bet the tendency to do it is increased if a man is hanging out with male friends. Am I saying that every man does this? No, but I am saying that a lot of men do this and legitimately don't realize it.
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Cultural difference alert: this is my UK experience... It's context dependent. If a woman, who's a total stranger, says hello in a setting where members of the opposite sex go to meet, and is ready to engage in conversation then I'd take that as an expression of interest. I'd probably try to find some common ground, talk about things they're interested in and suggest having a coffee, exchanging numbers. In the situation you described, where a woman is looking at me but avoiding eye contact that tells me they may find me (or part of me) attractive but don't want to engage socially. That's cool. Read my blog here guy4frot
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So you are always a RED LIGHT, that a sad way to be. So what is next, maybe you should carry a sing that says unless I talk to you first don't bother. Oh wait that would mean you have presumed or assumed that, that person has some how given you a green light. So you best option it not to talk to anyone and hope they do not presume or assume that you are approachable in any fashion. that going to lead to a lonely life, but that seem to be were you are heading.
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Politeness is far and few nowadays that people get mixed signals easily to it. Hate to admit it but I've had alot of cases where if that's all it takes to cheer them up and get them interested most of the time they've gone through or in depression for some reason normally. That and still puzzled why some nowadays think of it as flirting when in alot of cases it's just common courtesy. As for signals whether a person is interested or not I've got better luck of understanding morse code. At least I can understand SOS in that. XD
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So you are always a RED LIGHT, that a sad way to be. So what is next, maybe you should carry a sing that says unless I talk to you first don't bother. Oh wait that would mean you have presumed or assumed that, that person has some how given you a green light. So you best option it not to talk to anyone and hope they do not presume or assume that you are approachable in any fashion. that going to lead to a lonely life, but that seem to be were you are heading. Look, we're all sorry that you've been hurt and humiliated in the past but this is no way for a grown man to act. This is embarrassing. 
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YW 
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men are not great at reading signals. so if he looked and you smiled politely, he's going ot keep staring to see if you do something with more of a tell in it. like a big old, hey sailor, c'mere and let me suck your dick sign in neon so, being polite is often enough to get you stuck. and get a burner. give that number out until you're really sure. I say this, but I don't do this. I keep meaning to do this..... however, i'm not as sexy as you, so it's not as often that the issue presents that's my excuse......okay? You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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pretty simple in my world there is Less than 1% chance she will ever be interested, so for me... hello is only hello
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