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What an ASS! Body image, the 9th Virtual Symposium I know I'm average at best. Several women I have been with have said I am handsome, but I know better  I've come to accept what I am and how I look, it ain't gonna change  Flashback to 197late something. I heard a girl in school...one of the hot girls...say out loud as one of the "hot" guys had just walked by "OMG he has such a nice ass!"  I wasn't involved, just passing by as well. But I thought about it later...weird....girls like a guys ass the way we like a girls ass?? It was then I realized I had no ass I never really thought about it before but man...completely white man's ass. I didn't like that. It was bad enough I wasn't popular, chubby and had only a few friends, but now I don't even have an ASS!!  I knew I wasn't going to be one of the "in" crowd because I was chubby but I didn't really care, I preferred doing the things I wanted to do plus I didn't have the other necessary "tools" for belonging to that "in" group...money, car, clothes etc. Looking back I can see it certainly affected my self esteem... a thought inspired by another post earlier  Being the first offspring from my parents I had no one to clue me in to certain things about growing up, thus I was a bit of an easy target for teasing, being chubby didn't help with that either I suppose if I had someone to look up to while growing up I may have had a different outlook on certain things but I don't think it would have been much help. My own perspective about my body image was a negative one and it was reflected by my self esteem. Probably why I developed a sense of humour early on These days I truly value my sense of humour as being quite above average and a great asset to my personality I now know why I had to endure such body image issues when I was younger...it gave me something I value greatly today I have said many times 'Things happen for a reason, you may find out at some point or you may NEVER know the reason why, but there's a reason'. I now know ASIDE from all this, I would like to mention something I noticed in a couple other posts about self image being imposed upon others. Unless it's a positive comment people should learn to just STFU. I'll never understand how an adult can say something so harmful to a , just wrong  are to be nurtured in a positive environment, a place negativity does not exist Everyone is on a different plane of intelligence. Some people's plane has not taken off yet!!  |
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Great post, Kittylikker! I was kind of on the fringes of different groups in school, so I got picked on some too, mostly just for being an outsider. The jocks picked on me for being too skinny and too bookish, and the brainy kids dissed me for being a farm boy and so on and so on. Kids can be damned cruel to each other, and that hurt sticks. I fought back by being a smart ass. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Hmm... Why is it that now I want to refer to you as Mr.A$$? Great post, KL! I was a nerd all of my life but became quite popular once my curves began to develop, but I didn't like that kind of popularity and fought back with my best weapon - sarcasm. Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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a very interesting post. It seems that many of us here have similar identity issues. Many of us were the chubby one, like you, I learned early to be smart and funny. 'Cause you get be intentionally funny if you're dumb. Red lipstick and "fuck me" shoes. What more could you want?  
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You're very entertaining! "To Be Consumed" Blog : I want to be your drug of painful withdrawals.
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You're a handsome man and you know it  Added to that, you're a good writer, very funny at times, caring, and an excellent photographer.......pretty much the perfect image to me WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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By this post you seem well adjusted and insightful. I'd say that puts you ahead of more than half of the population. And in a sense of humor and kindness and I'd say that you're in the top percentage. Just be you. Thanks for sharing.
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Kitty well to say you are handsome! Don't care what your thinking right now.. My topic is asses too! You have a great humor which I like. Your an awesome person! hugssssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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It's far better to have no ass than to be an ass! Like you, I feel that if someone can't say anything nice it's generally best not to say anything at all. A few people call this being dishonest; I see it as being respectful to others.  
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Well here's the thing, we choose to accept if people are trying to make us feel bad about ourselves, or choose to not accept it. It's pretty much that simple but it is hard to de-program ourselves of societal pressure and just be happy with ourselves. I read "The Four Agreements" a while back and it freed me from what others expected of me. It defined what I should expect of myself. And I try everyday to do that very thing. Some days I'm successful in my eyes, some days, not so much. I agree that people should STFU if they don't have anything nice to say to a kid. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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I totally agree, remarks made to children, including teenagers affect how a person views themselves. On thing i remember a boy in middle school said, she is pretty from the face down. Seriously, that girl heard the remark. Just think what you says affect people. I have learned to choose my words wisely especially if someone want advice...............thegrls Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls
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By this post you seem well adjusted and insightful. I'd say that puts you ahead of more than half of the population. And in a sense of humor and kindness and I'd say that you're in the top percentage. Just be you. Thanks for sharing. I gave you a prize once, flowers....
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Glory be! You seem to have united the formerly fat kids who became smart asses -- and I proudly count myself among that group! As for actual asses, and the shapliness thereof... it seems that our experiences have shaped us into who we are today, and I rather like us, as a collective group... Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Thanks NS, I really appreciate that!! 
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