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Do threesomes ruin relationships?
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Do threesomes ruin relationships? I've known of incidences where loving couples have experimented with adding a third person for a sexual experience only to find that it caused jealousy and arguments afterwards. How do couples who are committed to each other handle all the emotions that come after a threesome? Is there always jealousy? A girlfriend of mine explained it to me this way, she said.... "My husband was enjoying himself too much!! He never got into it that much when he did that to me!!" My response to her was, "Why did you do it if you were going to judge every move he made?".... It seemed silly to me for her to agree to a threesome if she was going to behave this way afterwards. They have since divorced over this. Should the third person be a stranger? A friend? Is there room in the "loving" bedroom for a third person? THANK YOU GUYS FOR FOLLOWING MY BLOG |
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Been there done that... I didn't even asked for it and yet I fucked her harder than I fucked my wife... Really? How did you measure the strength I put forth in fucking your friend's pussy than the one I use to fuck yours? LOL
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I can see it being a short term solution by adding something to the relationship, but nothing long range, also both parties have to be in the same place both mentally and emotionally. It always looks great on film but sometimes real life is a little bit more complicated.
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Be careful what you ask for in life...
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6/8/2016 11:11 am |
I would think you could always stop what you started before ruining the relationship. Have yet to try it but I think the more the merrier. 
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That would question my love for the person I married.That carries a degree of pain and the thought of were we went wrong. Using more than all the road!
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I have had threesomes. I am unsure if I am just wired different, but I don't experience jealousy with a great deal of intensity. However, I don't do threesomes anymore because of that very reason. Every single threesome I had resulted in one person becoming jealous, and it having an impact on at least one relationship. Now, it wasn't always the couple relationship that suffered, but I don't want my friendships to even be harmed. So, for me, experience tells me to avoid, avoid, avoid. Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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I'm only familiar with MFM threesomes in which I'm the 3rd. IMHO these playdates are a very positive experience for both partners. Hubby enjoys watching and the Mrs enjoys putting on a show. And it's primarily a physical experience. These couples are motivated by making each other happy, so jealousy and drama never enter the picture.
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Good answer Phil!!!! There is more to the story but it doesn't all need to be said... but I agree. If you're in love with someone... why risk it? THANK YOU GUYS FOR FOLLOWING MY BLOG
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I believe that women and men see it different ways. I enjoy watching, dont mind being the third wheel. Women on the other hand, and I only speak from those women I have talked to, over think the entire encounter minute by minute and it only lights one of two fires. Jealousy or enjoyment. I dont know what the split is on those fires but in my experience it is typically jealousy that overcomes. Even for me, as much as I enjoy the entire experience I like time the following day to have her to myself, show her our level of intimacy compared to that of the encounter. First time threesomes on a Sunday evening when you both have to work on Monday is not a well thought out plan.
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I never could share my toys.
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Well since I am a single male, I have only had experience in being the third part in a mfm. I really enjoy pleasing a female with her husband's permission of course. I am only their for friendship and fun and would never ever disrespect the marriage of the couple. For some reason it is a huge turn on for me to see the female play with two males. I would recommend if a couple wants to entertain a third person they must discuss it in detail and come to agreement it is just for fun and they both are on the same page. I have met a couple couples on here and I can tell you I was on my best behavior. .
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As was stated earlier, there has to be maturity as well as a very stable and trustworthy relationship for it to work. Years ago, I was in the lifestyle and knew couples who it worked for and also some cases where it ended in divorce. For those it worked for, there was maturity and they had a stable relationship. For those it didn't work, there was already some jealousy and lack of trust. The latter had some notion that getting in the lifestyle would strengthen their relationship, but once they decided to cross into the lifestyle it (their relationship) was bad (or over) from the get-go
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6/9/2016 6:40 am |
Human nature is what it is, jealosy will happen no matter what words are said. Open is lalaland most often for any person with feelings.
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6/10/2016 5:59 am |
I would want to stick to one-on-one, Kitten. I understand and agree with the maturity and understanding aspect so many of your writers talk about. But I have found that trust is always such a fragile thing. Regardless of the relationship trust, maturity and understanding...all it takes is that one moment, that one thought, that one action to erase trust that may have taken months/years to build. While talking things out and communicating may be the ultimate remedy...since that trust is so fragile...why risk it? I would much rather concentrate on satisfying my partner and learning new ways to do that all the time to maintain intimacy and desire. Of course, your other fans are totally welcome to their opinions...who knows? Maybe they are right? I just know what would work for me. Hugs
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I have had the wonderful experience of being that third person. I became very close friends with both members of the couple and joined them a number of times. One of the most amazing parts was when they shared with me the way they used my name and our experiences to add an extra level of intensity when they were alone. As the third, a critically important role is earning the trust of the husband in my case. He needs to know that I respect the boundaries and that I am only there because of his trust in me. We shared an amazing friendship filled with laughter, passion, tenderness and fun. It added a magical dynamic to their marriage that I would have never imagined and it was incredible to be a part of that. Everyone is different but with the right people threesomes can add a special level of excitement and enhance their trust and committment to each other.
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6/12/2016 3:55 am |
I actually tried a threesome in college, it was hilariously bad. the two girls got into an argument and I ended up ducking out of my own bedroom. One got jealous of my attention to the other and it all went downhill. Ever since it's been one on one. The human body and brain can hardly handle a single sex partner if they are really good in bed, so why get greedy? if you're good enough, that should be all we need.
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6/12/2016 2:15 pm |
Being single, I can't say for certain how someone should feel about such an arrangement and dealing with the aftermath therein. My innate sense of sexual gratification would immediately scream "Yes!" to getting the chance to have two women at the same time. But then my sense of empathy would kick in and I'd have an issue with myself over my actions. High-minded morals and carnal desires are like water and oil, true, but humans are complex and full of nuance. Having said all that, would you, Ms. Cuddly "Wildcat" Kitten, enjoy a threesome yourself? MFM? FMF? Seems crude of me to ask, I admit.
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me and my gal love 3somes  time
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I think it is possible, but the two people of the same sex have to be more attracted to each other than to the one of the opposite sex, i.e. fmf where the females are very genuinely into each other and the guy is ok with not being the center of attention.
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I LOVE the last part of the question, but before I get to that EXACT question, I am going to give it a twist, and hopefully it will open some eyes, and remove some of the possible stigma from that might be an underlying issue concerning guilt, or appropiateness of such relationships. Be prepared, the modified question, and the answer, may open some monds, and temove some hestiations
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Instead of "is there room in a loving bedroom for a threesome", lets change it a bit, to a spiritual question, because this might remove some of the underlying issues. Lets make the Question: "does GOD BLESS INTERRATIAL, DOM/SUB, MASTER/SLAVE GROUP (more than 1male, 1female)SEX? To the suprise of most I will take my answer right from the King James, or Holy bible. The answer is a surprising "HELL YES". I refrence the interracial relationship of Abraham, and Sarah, and Hagar. Group interratial sex right in the bible. And it was blessed in multiple ways, not just the birth of Ismal, for which Sarah praid, but also the birth of Isriel, from Sarah, long after her child bearing years had past, as proof of the righteousness, of both Abraham, and Sarah. Gods own words. How could Abraham, be still righteous, if interratial sex is wrong, or a sin. How could Sarah still be righteous enough for GOD to create one of the recorded miricales with the birth of Iserial, if dom/sub, master/slave group sex is a sin, or wrong. Some will say that we have no record of Sarah being present during the act, so lets address that issue. At this period of history, one of the factors in determining the power, social status, wealth of a clan, family, man, was his family, servant, herd of animals. The numbers. From this Sarah wanted a child for Abraham, but she was barren, so as master/slave, dom/sub, she gave her maidservant, Hagar to Abraham to bear a child with. For Sarah this is a win-win situation for her, if Hagar has a child, at the worst, Abraham has another servant, if not recognized as his son, and at best he has a recognized son. We know that Sarah was a very beautiful woman, why?, because the bible tells us so, good enough for me. So how do we know Sarah was there? Because it was too importatant for her, she would want to know that everything that could be done to increase the chances of Hagar becoming pregnant were done, she would want total relaxation, and yet also total excitement for Hagar, to increase the probability of child bearing. To think that she would not try to help Hagar to have her body as ready as possible for Abrahams seed is just niave. She would be there to help in any possible way, as this was so important to her. Hope this has helped to open the mindset of any parties that have been considering any of the aforementioned situations. Just remember there is no place in the bible that it has been recorded as WRONG TO LOVE. I'll close with that thought.
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For the mind warped that say the old testiment no longer applies, lets look at the words of a prophet called Jesus: "I come not to remove, or put away the old testament, but to fulfill it with a new testament" the old testament is still to be used as a history to guide the future. So the King James, or the Holy Bible, confirms that interratial, dom/sub, master/slave, group sex is not sinful, when done with the correct mindset. Some will say, but what if it is not the correct mindset? My answer, the seed bears the true fruit of the seed. So, the answer to the question, " is there room in a loving bedroom for a threesome( or more), the answer should be YES there HAS to be. Just remember, the question stated "LOVING"
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Do threesomes ( or more) ruin relationships? Not "loving ones". Because "loving" ones want the happiness, joy, that only more than one can provide.
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Unfortunately, I have some typos in my posts, hope that Kitten can edit them, or someone can post instruction as to how to edit them out. Thank you all for reading.
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