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Tired of "The Interview"!
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Tired of "The Interview"! I've been on waaaaay too many first dates. I am sooooo tired of being the one asking questions to generate conversation and look for common interests. Usually, I'll share something about myself before asking the next question so I think men don't realize that they're letting me drive. I hate to drive. I love to be driven! I wonder why --when I stop asking questions-- men look at me blankly. Do they not prepare some questions to ask me? Usually, I am forced to break the silence and ask, "Is there anything you'd like to know about me?" Any ideas how to avoid conducting a job interview? {=}{=}{=} BiPolyBabe69 |
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7/18/2016 9:33 am |
Well You are too darn far away for Me to take You on a date full of conversation.. You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!
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You might want to require a live phone conversation before meeting and base your next steps on that. If they can't hold up their end by phone, then there's a very good chance they won't be much better in person.
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I'm actually not "choosing" men for dates. I figure if he lives here in SB and wants to meet me, I'm happy to meet. Once. My profile AND my autoresponder suggest asking me a question. It amazes me how few men actually do so.
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each of you bring a sexual resume, then there's no talking, just reading.
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You might want to require a live phone conversation before meeting and base your next steps on that. If they can't hold up their end by phone, then there's a very good chance they won't be much better in person. Also, I'm meeting men who are interested in meeting me because I honestly don't know who it is that will "get" me on a very fundamental level.
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sometimes a non verbal first date is just the price you pay. don't meet for coffee. go for a walk. it's easier to talk if you're not staring at each other the first time. or go bowling.........I know stupid but funny. make it not so here we are trying to see if we mesh. You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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sometimes a non verbal first date is just the price you pay. don't meet for coffee. go for a walk. it's easier to talk if you're not staring at each other the first time. or go bowling.........I know stupid but funny. make it not so here we are trying to see if we mesh. Most of my dates are a walk on the beach. I figure with that at least my dog and I get some exercise!
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I would think that for you, an intelligent and motivated woman, communication, not electronic of course, would be very important. An exchange of the "this is me" questions or just a description would be nice. I mean without the obvious venting like process.  It should be a two way conversation. Perhaps that should be a red flag for you? Just a thought. Bud Always Ready for Fun.
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I'm actually not "choosing" men for dates. I figure if he lives here in SB and wants to meet me, I'm happy to meet. Once. My profile AND my autoresponder suggest asking me a question. It amazes me how few men actually do so. Perhaps you need a multi-stage walk/date? Go for 5 minutes with you asking questions then turn around and head back. If there's 5 minutes of dead air on the way back, drop him at the parking lot, duck around the corner, and continue the rest of the walk on your own.
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I'm with @TheFunAsexual. If you're not selecting your dates, of course most of them are going to be duds. Most people in the world are not great matches for each other. That's why dating's hard. It's great that you're getting some exercise with your walk on the beach, but wouldn't it be more fun without a bad date sucking the energy out of you? Perhaps you need a multi-stage walk/date? Go for 5 minutes with you asking questions then turn around and head back. If there's 5 minutes of dead air on the way back, drop him at the parking lot, duck around the corner, and continue the rest of the walk on your own. This time around I'm looking for the man who really "gets" me, appreciates me and wants to make me happy, rather than the one I want to immediately "Hop on Pop" or is that "Hop & Pop." What I mean is that I'm willing to allow more time for desire to rise. I am convinced that my immediate hormonal reaction is a negative barometer for partnership. I wanted The Unavailable Guy from the first moment sitting next to him in the bar in Santa Barbara 1.5 years ago. I was willing to lie awake --and suffer multiple hot flashes due to overconsumption of alcohol and being off my meds (hormones) for five hours-- so that he could get an erection in the morning in order to fuck me. Then, I suffered another year, putting my needs second, to wait for him to love me. That did not work out for me. However, I waited, did not push, did not force, did not make sex happen with Sam in Bend, OR, and was rewarded with the MOST AWESOME FIRST TIME SEX EVER (with a man). I was also rewarded with a man who delights in making a woman happy. So the jury's still out. And I think I'm better off getting a walk for a first date than a drink. Let me know when you'd like to come out and walk with me. I'll give you more than half an hour
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