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What a girl wants
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What a girl wants While it's true that this is a "sex site", I for one am completely incapable of having sex with someone with whom I have absolutely no connection/chemistry on a mental level. Maybe it's just me, but I feel it's a given that anyone on this site is wanting sex. Hell, those not on here want sex, they just don't have the courage to say it always. So, in short, I want sex but it needs to be with someone I connect with. Newsflash.... messaging or IM'ing me with crude comments ("do you like 8" cock?, wanna fuck, nice tits, etc) does not get me excited. Any 15 year old can come up with those lines. I want and need a man who can hold my attention and challenge me intellectually. There's nothing sexier than sincerity first and foremost. Someone who has a mind of his own and is not part of the sheep herd, yet is smart enough to be open and willing to not only hear others thoughts and opinions, but to actually consider them and change his own occasionally if he thinks that another is valid. Or, just to say "that's an interesting way to look at _____" and not judge another for their thoughts. No, I'm not trying to change anyone, nor be changed. I will decide for myself. But I am open enough to hear another side/opinion of any given concept. Is it too much to ask the same respect from someone else? Anyway, a really great conversation without the mention of sex at all is by far one of the best ways to turn me on. I know I'm not the only person, female or male, for whom this is true. I just wish more of you would realize that this is not "One size fits all" shopping... Life is about the journey, not the destination. Make it a great journey! {=} |
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well put!! I for one am not sure what to put when replying to someone online I think is nice or attractive I don't hardly mention sex well once and awhile I may say nice ass. So ty for your advice
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good 2 know
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It's what sex does.They come in droves and attack any offer like vultures to some dead animal.They brag(lie),cheat ,pass horrible judgments, unfounded preconceived notions, make connections and leave,Turn people into jaded wrecks and carve a larger divide between men and women and so on and so on and so on.That's what advertising sex does to people.It isn't gender specific either.Maybe your asking to much or in the wrong place. I am precluded for one of those very reasons.I do better on a vanilla site because this B S here is so savage and virulent.I 'm happy! Using more than all the road!
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Nicely said....we all know what kind of site this is but it doesn't mean you have to lower your self to what a 15 year old would say....respect is important and starting a creative and original conversation with the other person that does not include any heavy sexual content in it but at the same time allows the person to imagine something sexual themselves, would grab there attention and curiosity to be interested in you....no need to be rude or anything, just be smart and fun when you talk to another person.
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1 post 6/29/2016 1:02 am |
That was very nicely written!!! I could not agree with you more, we all have had those occasions where the night ended up in the sack with someone with little or no knowledge about them at all. How long did any of those last, lol, usually long enough to get your clothes on and get out the door!!! Well, here is my two cents for what its worth, there are a lot of people who could some improvement here!!! To have an encounter that is worth remembering or even grow into something more requires a little more effort than rude, crude, barbaric tactics that men are so well known for.. To win some ones admiration and make them really want you is almost like an intellectual game of chess. Like you said, everyone wants good sex, but how do you get to that? Again, Just like you mentioned before, you have to stand out from the crowd. And I do not mean by being the loudest, or by one upping everything that is said. or by being rude and inconsiderate. All of that will usually get you nowhere. Instead, be patient, listen to what is said, respond with interest, respond with answers that make others think, don't talk about yourself and how good you are, and lastly, do not say anything negative, at all!!! Negative is just that, negative, and no one wants to hear negative. If you are a positive person and give positive feedback to everyone around you, you don't have to agree with what they are saying but encourage their ideas and points of view, and remain somewhat humble about yourself, you will find that women are very attracted to that. You have stimulated them intellectually and now have their attention. That is when the anticipation of what could be begins to grow within them and nothing sexually has happened at all !!! The longer the anticipation grows between two people or the longer the journey is, the more fulfilling the sex can be. A mental or intellectual connection creates a much more fertile breeding ground for physical attraction.
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