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Blogs > Red_Elf > Rewriting My Life

Entitlement?  

Red_Elf 51F
578 posts
3/10/2016 8:30 pm
Entitlement?

So, I know that both men and women deal with attitudes of entitlement in their intimate relationships.  I really want to hear about your experiences. 

Here are some of mine:

1) Men who feel entitled to a response for their online messages. No.  You are not entitled to a response from a stranger online anymore than you are entitled to sex after dinner.  Period.  The minute you start behaving as you think so is the minute you confirm that my decision to NOT respond to your message as more than a necessity--it was critical.

2) Men who are under the impression that just because they like me, that I will like them back, or show interest. No.  Just like in the real world, or in high school, just because you have the hots for a woman does NOT mean she has the hots for you.  We like who we like just the same as you.

3) Men who are under the impression that if they behave a certain way that they are somehow owed sex, or need to be "allowed" out of the "friend zone." NO ONE is ever OWED sex.  NO ONE.  Females are not machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out. 

4) Men who think that because a woman identifies as a slut, or identifies as being interested in having sex that it means that woman ought to have sex with him. See #2

5) Men who are under the impression that I should change how I act to suit them.   Yeah, just no.  WTF?  Way to illustrate you are a controlling man and you think that women are just put on earth to be your puppets and make YOU feel good.  Yeah, fuck that.

So these are some things I've seen.  What about you?
MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .

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sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
3/10/2016 8:41 pm

 Nothing about this site or anything to do with it is etched in stone.

you are correct by the way.

I fully agree with you on what you've said, it's all common sense except to those who have none.


ladyaberlin 47F
Ask me for a photo
49 posts
3/10/2016 8:47 pm

 Yes, I've gotten those too. You're right about all of them.


48846stud 56M
13 posts
3/10/2016 9:08 pm
    Quoting  :
you could ask me for sex any time little miss flower lmao if only I was 1700 miles closer .
I had a woman that acted that way claimed she loved me but wanted to change everything about me made me feel like I owed her all it made me was miserable


Red_Elf 51F
617 posts
3/10/2016 9:37 pm

 Sounds like entitlement, also, stud. No one has a right to change anyone, claiming they love them. That's not love. It's control, because feeling entitled to do so.
MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .

Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}


Red_Elf 51F
617 posts
3/11/2016 11:53 am

 I can't claim it as mine. My frends say it sometimes. I've found it written as "girls" rather than females. As I don't believe in referring to women over the age of 28 as girls, I changed it to say females. If you Google the phrase, you may be able to track it back to the originator.
MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .

Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}


discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
3/22/2016 6:21 am

 There are some reasons some guys think they're entitled to a reply.

One is that they simply don't understand the demographics of the site -- they don't get the idea that men greatly outnumber women here.

Another is that the site has had "get laid tonight" as an ad catch phrase, and they actually believe it.

Yet another is that some of them think they're so amazingly hot that they can't imagine that women would pass them up. (But if that's really the case, why hassle with a web site, rather than looking in person?)

Anyway, good advice.


Red_Elf replies on 3/22/2016 2:29 pm:
Hi,dear. I'm glad you found me. How's the missus?

discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
3/24/2016 3:33 am

 Hi,dear. I'm glad you found me. How's the missus?

She's wonderful. Are you by chance a former sort-of neighbor?


discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
3/24/2016 4:15 am

 Oh, I just realized who you were! Silly of me to take so long to figure it out.


Red_Elf replies on 3/24/2016 8:19 am:
I enjoyed seeing how long it would take you. You always seem to find me.

discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
3/27/2016 2:35 am

 You always seem to find me.

I get the impression that you're worth finding.


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