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Why are you here, anyways?
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Why are you here, anyways? So, I wrote a blog entry aimed at men complaining about not getting any responses here. A near flame war broke out in response, while I was MIA on a backpacking trip with a group of friends, roughing it on a rugged trail, with subzero temperatures, elevation, and distance. Those were the least of the problems we encountered, because we also ran into an unusually substantial amount of snow that made the trip infinitely more rugged, and we were lucky to make the last mile to breaking camp in the dark only because we managed to weakly link to Google maps on one of our phones...then I come back to this silly flame war caused by an inflammatory MRA type commenter who couldn't comprehend the point of my entry to begin with (while everyone else got it, including male humans). So, flame war aside, one part of the argument was interesting...which is...what is the purpose of this site? One person argues it's just so men can get what they want, regardless of how shallow and unlikely. Another commenter stated it's a site where people seek relationships. Is it, or, like nearly all good human interactions, in person or in writing, is it a reflection of the transactional nature of human interactions? I mean, you read a story, right, and you come to it with all your history and background--how gender impacts relationships, how much you understand the culture being written in, your understanding of the landscape, the people, the time period, and you come away with your own understandings about the story. This happens even more rapidly in other mediums when you can literally respond back and forth--in person, in text online, on twitter, SMS, and anything else. That's just what happens in communication, in general. Well, what happens when you have a website where you advertise people are going to get laid, but you have the typical unbalanced ratio of women to men that happens in most sex positive communities that don't regulate participation of single males? The women make the rules, right? So, now you have a site advertising sex, but you have women making the rules--their bodies, their rules. Suddenly, the transactional nature of relationships starts determining the purpose of the site, rather than the advertised outcome. Human beings decide what they want, not the site's CEO. Just like every other site with stated goals, the outcomes are moderated by the people, themselves, who are involved, people who are, in this case, often highly selective, and willing to go without if they don't find what they want. I've personally met some dear friends, at least 2 other bloggers, some sex friends, some platonic friends, and recently a super hot neighbor that I have banged a couple times and plan on banging a lot more. Obviously, I have my own objectives here. I've seen multiple people who've married people they met on this site for sex originally. Is this what is advertised? Not really. So how do you use this site? Especially, why are you here and how has this site met your goals, or caused you to rethink them?   MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=} |
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Over all, it's a great social networking site, where you can say Fuck and not worry about being thrown off of it. Other than that, you can meet some very wonderful people on here.
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It's a good place to talk about sex openly. I have met some people from here because of that.
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That's a really good question.I post a blog from time to time.Even if I had someone in every city. Writing about who I am doing ,how and when I am doing them is a rather fruitless endeavor at best.Heard one story you've heard them all.I've read all the profiles locally.I am just not more than half of my age to send any messages. The best part though is reading all the stuff women are doing and saying about their sexuality.It's the exact same thing men had been doing for years The difference being it annoyed the living crap out of a good majority of women for the longest time.It's good to know all the double standards when and if any opportunities come along! Using more than all the road!
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"Suddenly, the transactional nature of relationships starts determining the purpose of the site, rather than the advertised outcome." This is one of the best, if not the best, explanation of what goes on here that I've read.
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