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Blogs > Red_Elf > Rewriting My Life

That's Gay! (A Primer)  

Red_Elf 51F
578 posts
5/17/2017 5:46 pm
That's Gay! (A Primer)

Oh, myyyy...this is irritating...same as saying something is a "girlie drink," or shaming men for having human feelings and/or desires, or the shaming of men for treating women who most would appreciate being treated.

Sooo...since grown-assed men think this is somehow appropriate and don't seem to know what words mean (see Trump in the dictionary), let me give you a little primer:

Your biological sex can be male, female, or intersex, meaning you can have both male and female parts. There is even a man running around with two functional penises. Biology is not as simple as male and female. It really isn't.

Your gender can be male, female, transgender male, transgender female, or agender. Usually simply referring to transgender people by their preferred gender is the most appropriate way to refer to them. If they want to talk about being transgender, you should leave that part of the conversation to them.

Your sexual orientation is heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, and/or aromantic.

Choosing to talk to a woman like she's human isn't gay. It's respectful. To some people, that really actually matters. It matters to me. If you can't handle it, you get absolutely nowhere with me.

Taking someone to dinner isn't gay, it's sweet and/or romantic.

Cooking and cleaning aren't things that are gay. They are survival skills.

Having a tender heart and caring about other people isn't gay. It's called being in touch with the humanity of others.

If you are a grown-assed adult male, get this figured out in your head, because when it comes out of your mouth, it just sounds like verbal vomit and makes you seem like an asshat.
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ProfPlayful 53M
3861 posts
5/17/2017 6:31 pm

 Such words are the product of a judgmental culture.

I am sad to know this bigotry still exists in America, even in the 21st century. I had such hopes . . .
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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
5/17/2017 8:16 pm

 I had always that thought it was in reference to something in and around the turn of the 20th century.You know straw hats bicycles built for two.
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porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
5/17/2017 8:50 pm

 I wish they would listen, I often wonder what men are to do with their feelings? What is wrong with showing kindness?


Red_Elf 51F
617 posts
5/17/2017 9:05 pm
    Quoting porterpiper1:
    I wish they would listen, I often wonder what men are to do with their feelings? What is wrong with showing kindness?
I always date the biggest sweethearts...the ones who are the first to pitch in when their friends need them, the ones who are supportive and kind to everyone around them.

If being a kind person is out of your repertoire, maybe don't bother hookers, either. Just go get a damned blow up doll. Sex workers don't need your shit.
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FMAOPLS 70F
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27112 posts
5/17/2017 10:39 pm

 Well said. Unfortunately those who need to learn and understand this will likely not see this excellent post.
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Red_Elf 51F
617 posts
5/18/2017 8:49 am
    Quoting FMAOPLS:
    Well said. Unfortunately those who need to learn and understand this will likely not see this excellent post.
You'd be surprised how often people tell me they rethought things when they've read my blogs. See the one on M & Ms.
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FMAOPLS 70F
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27112 posts
5/18/2017 4:25 pm
    Quoting Red_Elf:
    You'd be surprised how often people tell me they rethought things when they've read my blogs. See the one on M & Ms.
I'm not referring yo bloggers, but the general membership of the site.
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discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
5/19/2017 11:34 am

 I don't get the usage of "gay" as a negative term for "nice". I understand it as a negative term for "homosexual", even though I don't understand or approve of the bigotry behind that usage. There's also the obsolescent meaning of "happy and carefree", and the now-uncommon use as a name. (My wife used to go to an optometrist named Gay.) In the modern sense, gay shouldn't be used for anything other than as a neutral abbreviation for the five syllable word "homosexual".

Besides the word "gay", I don't understand why any kind of nice or necessary behavior would be treated negatively, except maybe in a case where tenderness breaks the mood in a kink scene. I'm nice, and proud of it.


Red_Elf 51F
617 posts
5/20/2017 9:16 am
    Quoting discreteSteve62:
    I don't get the usage of "gay" as a negative term for "nice". I understand it as a negative term for "homosexual", even though I don't understand or approve of the bigotry behind that usage. There's also the obsolescent meaning of "happy and carefree", and the now-uncommon use as a name. (My wife used to go to an optometrist named Gay.) In the modern sense, gay shouldn't be used for anything other than as a neutral abbreviation for the five syllable word "homosexual".

    Besides the word "gay", I don't understand why any kind of nice or necessary behavior would be treated negatively, except maybe in a case where tenderness breaks the mood in a kink scene. I'm nice, and proud of it.
Some people like to justify, and promote, being asshats...because if being a asshat isn't okay, it means they'd be expected to change...and who likes change?
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