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All Summer long
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All Summer long Hope all had a great summer and are, like us, looking forward to the fall. Cooler days and nights, Deer hunting, Fall bass fishing and holidays with friends and loved ones. We in our family have always been pretty open about who and what we were so we do not need to hide things from people we are close to and family members . I get told alot and sometimes asked "Your so lucky that you and your husband found each other and know you are both bi and poly and accept each other and like it. I wish I could be that way with my Partner , spouse etc." There is a easy answer and to why I found my great love and best friend. We were honest about everything from day one on. We both had decided separately before we met that we were just going to tell anyone we were romantically meeting and if they freaked out or no longer had a interest in pursuing a relationship that was fine. It's a big mistake many make trying to be someone they are not or selling themselves to a prospective partner. Because if it turns into something more than just a fun night your foundation for your relationship is built on a lie and that is no foundation at all and will lead to certain failure. You may not know that people are attracted to people who are interested in them not people who tell their life story or talk about all the great things they have done or have in their life. So be proud of your sexuality and your life no matter what it is and be honest. Many times in our lifestyle experiance we have been but do not do it any longer with a couple where the female is bi and the male is not and so many times a few days after that play the guy would show up at the door when my husband was home alone and say "hey I wanted to let you know I am bi but I can not play that way in front of or tell my wife she would freak out." My husband many times would ask why do you think that and sometimes it was" I just do most women do like it." Wow thats bullshit lets just get that out there many and more than you think like me think it;s the hottest thing on the planet. Or I have approached it by saying what do you think of that and she said "oh no that is not cool I would hate that" or "I know she would freak." Secret number two boys, men over many generations have taught a lot of women to say what we think you want to hear and not what we really think..... But I hope and think that is less and less as we should all be honest and independent and share our thoughts truthfully as women because they are valid and important and men's fragile ego's be damned. We are witches my husband and I and yes here in the south we are the trifecta of evil Bisexual, polyamorous, witches...But we believe "when a person lies a piece of the world dies" and I assure you your relationship will and if you are honest many doors open to all things you wish to experience for if no one knows what you are looking to experience then how can you find someone who is like minded.... Be good to one another and be kind to some one today......Karen |
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we totally agree with you that too many relationships start with a facade of what we feel the other wants to see. we took your same approach, all our secrets were out when we started - a this is what I am, if it turns you off so be it. unfortunately, it would have been nice to have come to this point before multiple marriages and hurt.
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