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Is it insecurity or rudeness
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Is it insecurity or rudeness Normally I have always tried to email someone back that has emailed me by responding to the email and starting a conversation; or saying "Thank you, but no thank" to those that I am not interested in. I only think its polite to at least acknowledge someone trying to contact me BUT I have changed my mind.....the last few gentlemen that I have said no thank you to can not take the "rejection" even in a nice way and have to be rude and say very mean and horrible things to me.....Why? I have emailed men and have gotten no reply at all or a "Quick Reply" saying NO which I have deleted and then moved on. But there are some out there that get very offended and say horrible things to or about me that aren't true, then they block me....not giving me a chance to explain my reply. So is this an act of insecurity on the man and his need to degrade a woman when she has "rejected" him or are most men on this site just Assholes? |
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There seems to be a lot on here that don't understand what "No thank you" means, and they've probably already been shot down several times to boot. But most it seems, keep doing the same thing over and over, and just don't get it !
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I never reply with a "no thanks." Most men read this as an opening and miss the whole "no" part of it.
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It is very much insecurity. Its actually called projection. It is a psychological defense mechanism. Once they feel rejected they automatically project all the feelings they have about themselves outward towards you. It is very sad, but there is nothing you can do about it. Ignore this and move on.
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When I first joined this site, I would respond to all my emails with politeness. But what I would receive in return because of the 'thanks but no thanks' reply was not worth my politeness. I no longer respond to mist emails sent as I see no reason to invite someone elses negativity it immaturity. I'm interested in men not little boys, but there seems to be a lot of little boys running wild in A*F*F. Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!
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Their misguided lack of discernment is often followed by outrageous behavior up to and including verbal abuse and physical fits of rage similar to laying on the floor and flaying arms and legs! Using more than all the road!
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I'd say it's probably disappointment more than anything. This site has an incredibly skewed male to female ratio and requires excessive effort to engage female members. And, as mentioned, most women do not reply when they have no interest. While it's probably the smart move given the rude behavior exhibited by many men, it's still discourteous. So after after all this effort and poor treatment, when a woman FINALLY deems a guy worthy of a response, it turns out to be a rejection? Well, I'm afraid that's what some may view as adding insult to injury. How people respond is certainly a reflection of their character and there is no excuse for rude or hurtful behavior. Those people have no business pursuing any kind of human interaction. But I wouldn't read much more into it. You don't know each other, so let's just say it's plain ol' disappointment intensified by the challenges men are subjected to on A F F .
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Acknowledging is nice n proper way But u r absolutely right, if one say "No Thanks" few ppl don't understand or take it as rejection, w/o understanding that may be other person is not feeling comfortable....... So finally, No replies if not interested but yes No reply at all is quite disappointing.
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If a guy makes the effort to write an email that indicates that he's read my profile and fits what I'm looking for, I'll reply. Sometimes I'm not interested, sometimes I am, but it's worth a reply. Most of my "declines" have been accepted with grace. Only a few have come back with a knobheaded reply. On the other hand, if a guy can only make the effort to write "hey sexy" or he's obviously not even read my profile, I don't bother with a reply. My effort at a reply is directly proportional to their effort at initial contact.
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Recalicitrant72 wrote: Let's face it, if you can introduce yourself to strangers with your junk hanging out and that's normal, the usual standards of etiquette don't apply. And I believe we have a winner! 
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I'll vote for immature, insecure assholes
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There are many reasons why people end up on a dateing site some lonelyness,too much work, or just can't get a date due to being a jerk. It is sad that you being so nice in writting back to either say yay or ney  but it is a big world out there with millions of throughts and feelings and each person acts and thinks differntly. I wish you the best on your journey of pleasure.,and have fun
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