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Nice guys finish last.....  

Nightraith1978 46M
7 posts
11/24/2016 5:16 pm
Nice guys finish last.....

So, for a large portion of my younger years I was the epitome of a nice guy...and as you can imagine, my luck with ladies was limited, and when I did have success it was normally marred by the fact that I was usually taken advantage of in the long run. Now I have a tendency to put forth a bad boy attitude and then treat my woman better than they originally thought that I would, but in the long run I continue to be taken advantage of or made to look like a fool.....which is even worse. So what the hell's a man supposed to do? Be an asshole? Well this is one man that still treats her right and will continue to not let others actions dictate my actions.....of course it's also a man who ate Thanksgiving at the folks house with nobody to introduce to everyone.......what's a guy supposed to do?.......

1chellee 37F
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222 posts
11/24/2016 8:29 pm

 Have you thought about the type of women you seem to attract?

There are some men who only pick bad girls and get burned because of it...


Nightraith1978 46M

11/24/2016 9:36 pm

 Thanks for the feedback ladies, I've considered the same ideas in the last few months while I've been single. I am taking my time and choosing my women a bit more carefully, doesn't exactly come easy when I have been celibate for the last 7 months...lol.


northshoretake2 50M  
1626 posts
11/25/2016 2:25 pm

 KtMnDu wrote:
I also suspect we all have our definition of what a "Nice guy" is and what a "Bad boy" is

I'll take a stab. I believe the "bad boy" appeal is due to his authenticity. "Nice guys" look outwardly, try hard to please others and seek validation. Words like needy and tiresome come to mind when dealing with such men.

The "bad boys" could care less what you think about them. While there may be many red flags, the one thing women don't worry about is whether they're needy. And on the rare occasion when they do something kind or thoughtful, women know it's sincere.

Again, bad-boy appeal comes from authenticity--not from being an asshole. As aflower2c explained, it's not very complicated: "Just be you." So if you can avoid trying to prove you're a nice guy, then I think you'll have more luck making a connection.

$0.02
Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.


lyavu 50F
1538 posts
11/25/2016 7:03 pm

 I will say be yourself. There is someone who will appreciate you. Am used to guys treating me like crap it's hard to tell which guy is gonna be nice. Do they exists?


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