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AFF Rant ( frustrated ) I just don't know whats worse, the site itself or the people on it. Let me explain..... First the site: I understand the folks running the site want to make money, but I think they like many others don't care what kind of scams they play along the way. Firstly the free membership, sure creating the profile is free but it is so limited it is pointless in all reality. Next has to be the phony view tracking. I was in a chat window with a friend when a notification popped up telling me she had just viewed my profile. Being the curious fellow I am I inquired when the last time she had viewed my profile. Answer.... more than a week ago! And I had seen the same notification quite a few times that week. It's no surprise so many women and couples get a rude or nasty response back from men for a rejection, the site has told the offender that their profile is being looked at daily by someone they themselves are interested in, implying a mutual interest on the receivers part. The offender then makes contact only to find no interest at all. WTF? I am by no means condoning bad behavior or rude responses, but I sure can see why they happen. Finally for today is the sites lack of effort to improve the site, the IM system is hit or miss, a lot of messages just don't go thru, Blogs are having issues, you can't see older posts, if you contact the site with a question, they point you to the faq section (like we didn't go there first) or just don't respond at all. Now the people: Without a doubt ALL are sexy in their own way. Some are fantastic, happy, and respectful people. The rest are questionable at best. The guys can be rude crude and outright disgusting at times and are quite obviously the major majority of site patrons, The couples in my estimation are at least 50% fakes, guys looking to cheat on their spouses or searching for an ego boost ( Someone is interested!!!! yay me!!! ) The ladies.... I got no real bitch with you, I know you get a ton of stupid one liners and gross propositions from guys and couples...... But if someone spends a bit of time on a message and you aren't interested.... could you please just politely say so. The folks with respect will understand, and those who don't have most likely been fooled by the site itself into believing you did have interest. Fakes and flakes.... The worst!! the folks who don't show or have last minute cancellations. A cancellation is fine on it's own, a little disappointing for sure but everyone has had something ruin their plans for a night. Shit happens right? It's the flakes that don't arrange another time for a playdate or their reasoning is overly lame and more of an excuse. Fakes are another issue, the guys who don't show without a heads up, the fake female profiles with poor grammar, and make no sense, the people who chat everything up like it's all good until a meet is suggested then disappear and make no contact or respond to you anymore. Some days it gets to be too much for a guy who battles with depression... to be rejected and ignored, when he is sincere and just looking to make connections, have some good times and maybe find love in the process. Of course I won't give up on building friendships here that expand beyond a good conversation and into the bedroom, I just wish both the site and the people here make some changes in how they do things and interact with others. The site could fix the issues instead blaming my computer, or ignoring the complaints. It could allow people to rate each other on such things as honesty, reliability, rudeness, and likelihood of further meetings. The people could just stop being DICKS - be respectful, be honest, be real, and treat people the same way you would want to be treated. OK end of rant thanks to those who read it it's not easy sometimes to bare my soul and let go of things but this helps Jay |
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I am reading people response to your rant and your answer to their comments, from what I have read, you keep focusing on your rant not on what they are saying, you have valid points, but you can't understand how a woman feel without being one, just like I can't understand how a man feel because I am not a man, But this site is by choice, you have the choice to meet, blog, comment, cam, respond to messages, send messages, and more, EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE, Yes I wish we could all treat each other with respect, sorry that isn't going to happen, yes we have people out there who are trying and doing things to change people way of thinking, but with so much hate, bigotry, malice, in this whole it is a fighting battle, Some people can be taught to rethink their ways and other can't , This type of behavior has been going on since this world begin, some changes have been made.
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1 post 6/29/2017 9:56 pm |
I reply to every message I get. Being on this site at all means I KNOW I will get crude messages and nasty replies to a polite rejection from jerks. It has nothing to do with self respect, replying to messages from men.. sending a simple answer is common courtesy and I pride myself on not being a bitch by just answering them. I find that because I do answer people, I get far more polite messages. If I am on webcam however, I do get a lot of losers and I tell them to fuck right off as they deserve, but to just ignore people is ridiculous. if I was out on public I would do the same,a polite no thank you. Some people just think they're better than others so they don't have to lower themselves or their standards to just simple say no thank you. I find the women to be the worst on this site, in all honesty. At least the men make an effort. The women al seem to think they're in such high demand they can be asshole cunts.
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Okay, look, you aren't accepting boundaries. Pissy? No. See, that's how it goes, though. Women are assertive and you come back and criticize them for it. The next thing that happens is women are criticized for being "too easy." I'm assertive. I've had enough of this bullshit. Your thickheadedness on the topic isn't making it any better. I make the world a better place EVERY DAMNED DAY. There isn't a soul in my everyday existence who would dare deem otherwise, because they know me, they know how dedicated I am, and they know how I spend the vast majority of my time. Your assertion that I don't is misinformed and assumptive. ...just as your assertion that you are entitled to responses from women is misinformed and assumptive. The women here tried to explain it to you. Obviously, you are stuck on being correct rather than learning something new. Good luck with that!   MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Dude, you want me to subject myself unnecessarily to abuse to change the culture? How about this...you teach the men in your life to respect women. When male asshats online are the exception rather than the rule, things will change. Until then women are told they aren't assertive enough and blamed, and told they aren't sweet enough/polite enough and are too much of a bitch and blamed and no matter what they are blamed. Fuck that noise. You change the culture of men! MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I agree no woman should have to deal with abuse of any kind and I think taking a break of about 5 yrs has caused me to forget how rude the world could be at times. If I approached you at a bar and offered to buy you a drink, would you just ignore me and turn away? unlikely... and why? Because it would be rude. You'd be polite and say no thanks right? Why is ok to act this way online? and not in the real world I'll never understand how we will ever create a better world to live in if we all act this way A better analogy is this: An online profile is like the resume you prepare for a job. Your initial contact is the cover letter. Many companies never respond (waste resources) to people who aren't in the ballpark for the job. Period. You can get 350 resumes and cover letters for one job...you just dont' respond. Online dating is the same way, but with one caveat...women don't respond because men are assholes when offered polite refusals. Until the culture on that changes, no woman with any self-respect should put herself through that crap. It's ridiculous. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I agree no woman should have to deal with abuse of any kind and I think taking a break of about 5 yrs has caused me to forget how rude the world could be at times. If I approached you at a bar and offered to buy you a drink, would you just ignore me and turn away? unlikely... and why? Because it would be rude. You'd be polite and say no thanks right? Why is ok to act this way online? and not in the real world I'll never understand how we will ever create a better world to live in if we all act this way I often have men hit on me as I walk down the street. Do you suggest I engage with them, too? They are pretty fucking creepy! They are strangers. Of course not! People also are bigger assholes online because the mirror reflex is not being activated. It is the NORM to ignore strangers you don't want to interact with. You aren't going to change that norm with your blog post, and not should you, because there is ZERO reason for women to subject themselves to abuse they have not signed up for if they have any self respect, at all. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I hear ya. This website makes me feel like I couldn't get lucky in a wet paper sack if my life depended on it. I suspect the site is a money maker, and nothing more, to whichever conglomerate owns it now. The site structure hasn't significantly changed in the entire time I've been here (12 years I think). The standard membership has gone from "okay" to utterly useless. Sometimes, I wonder how many more years this place really has. But like Red Elf said, maybe you need a break. Stay connected with your friends here, but try some of the other adult websites. Good luck out there.
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First of all, you sound like you need a break. It happens. Take it as needed. This site needs a complete overhaul, obviously. They've been milking the same infrastructure for probably 5 years too long with very little alternation. Please keep in mind that there is absolutely no reason for women to subject themselves to the emotional abuse fairly typical of ANY type of rejection when it comes to men. My auto-reply tells people I won't respond unless I have a reason to do so for this very reason. The people on this site with profiles don't owe you in any way, shape, or form. No reply, by and far, is our best bet, always.MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life . Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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It's always good to have a rant now and then!  
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