changed my mind
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Posted:May 6, 2015 7:04 am
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I had thought of taking a break from blogging but I have changed my mind
for one I am addicted and I decided to shift what I had been blogging about to what I need to do to use the halt approach.. it seems to br working,.. THEME OF THE WEEK FORGIVENESS
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reheat anything
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Posted:May 6, 2015 6:53 am
Last Updated:May 6, 2015 8:07 am
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what does romance look like to you, mean to you related post
Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast. ~Marlene Dietrich
I personally have tested this quote and guess what it is good sound advice actually we should not reheat anything that upset us the prior day...
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what does romance look like to you, mean to you
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Posted:May 6, 2015 6:46 am
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I've been thinking about this thing we call love and romance. I know what my experiences have been concerning this love and romance stuff. Mostly it's been a let down for me, well I don't think those words describe the depth of my heartache my disillusions of it.
When we are young don't we all dream of finding love and we picture what its going to be like. We daydream of the perfect love, the perfect kiss, the perfect life.
I am one of those girls who had what is called the Cinderella complex.
I just knew that my knight in shining armour was gonna show up and save me from all my problems and fulfill all those dreams of Love and romance. Give me the love I never had. I was so disillusioned about it all.
It's so funny and ironic that
My first boy/girl party was on Valentines Day. There were candles, heart shaped candies and chocolates. This Mother really set a wonderful mood for this party This was also the date of my first kiss and when my first crush started. I tell you when he kissed me something awoke within me it was truly quite an experience for a first kiss.
It was also my first romantic moment. Maybe my last one too.
For some reason even when all the abuse was going on I still believed in love, that love exists that love can heal and solve just about everything.
You know I have my days of doubt, you know days where I wish I could give this type of thinking up.
I just can't it's to much of who I am to much of my belief system. However my definition of romance ,love and my belief system has changed greatly over the years.
It had to for me to continue to exist to continue to keep my family together. I am sure alot of you have had to do the same.
(You all know that my husband and suffers from aspergers if you don't know what that is you can google it and get the jest of it cause if you don't you won't understand me and the decisions I have had to make.)
For me to love someone who truly can not express love at least the way I thought it was when I was growing up has been a heartbreaking experience. There have been many times specially on Valentines Day that I have went to bed lonely and heartbroken and feeling so let down. I know there are lots of you here who feel the same way.
I know some of you guys already know this stuff but hey not all of us are so quick
Anyways
I had to find a way to deal with all of this.
I had to grow up, allow my definition of love and romance to change. This was and is by no means an easy task, but I found and continue to find away.
Here are some of them.
These days he loves me enough to give me the space to find my own way.
He loves us enough to get up at 3:00 in the morning and drive all that way to do a job he is not given any credit in to provide for us.
He loves me enough to space out when I get all mental on him.
He loves me enough to not indulge any of my moods.
He loves me enough to not criticize how my looks have um changed
He loves me enough to stay home most nights instead of hanging with the boys.
He loves me enough to not nag me when I just don't wanna scrub the house spic and span even if he has worked all day.
He loves me enough to never say he thinks my beliefs are incorrect.
He loves me enough to try and learn how to fake romance.
Does this make my heart jump with joy, no. Does it satisfy that inner who is still such a romantic at heart no, but when all is said and done I do feel loved.
I use to try and just forget that this day even existed but I couldn't being who I am. So
I have also changed the way I celebrate this day, it's about the love right, so I give all my loved ones poems, give all my friends valentine cards like we use to give out in school and just plain out celebrate love.
So please fellow Bloggers don't let Valentines day get you down, break your hearts like I let for so many years.
Accept the love that you are given, the way it is given and let it penetrate your hearts then spread that love around alittle to those you know need it.
Now Ive just gotta also say if you have someone in your life and are willing find out what love and romance means to them cant ya just break down and do it one night for them, maybe make one of their dreams come true??
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WORD OF THE DAY
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romance: is whatever you believe it to be.
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In other words, you have to PUT YOUR ROMANCE GOGGLES ON in order to SEE something as romantic, otherwise even the most romantic gesture from your partner is in vain. Please take a second to think about what has just been said. LET IT SINK IN. It's a very important concept.
that is not my defition but from a website I want to give credit to but if I do I am sure this post will be blocked
ps: this was just as much for me as anyone else.
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vulnerability
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Posted:May 6, 2015 6:39 am
Last Updated:May 6, 2015 8:10 am
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t strikes quick and deep
this emotion of grief.
my emotions are still on a roller coaster ride,
the longest ,tallest, quickest one I have ever been on.
I am all strapped in safe and sound
trudging up the the steep climb feeling courageous and strong, even having moments of happiness without tears following
then it happens
a sound, a tv show,or a thought will jerk me sideways,
as if I have been hit upside the head with a brick
and I am sent rushing down the steep hill
feeling scared, weak and out of control.. so vulnerable.
vulnerable now that is a feeling I do not care for.
being a survivor of abuse and neglect I have had to work on this and have come along way, well I thought I had. this feeling of vulnerability at times is paralyzing to me..
but in the famous words of Tom Petty..
I won't back down !!
so if my mood seems to change frequently well remember you only get snapshots of my thoughts on a given day..
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joke of my day
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Posted:May 6, 2015 6:35 am
Last Updated:May 6, 2015 8:13 am
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Two tall trees were growing in the woods.
A small tree began to grow between them.
One tree said to the other: "Is that a of a beech or a of a birch?"
The other said he could not tell.
Just then a woodpecker landed on the sapling.
The tall tree said, "Woodpecker, you're a tree expert. Can you tell if that is a of a beech or a of a birch?"
The woodpecker took a taste of the small tree.
He replied, "Neither. That, my friends, is the best piece of ash I have ever put my pecker in."
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Interesting stuff
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Posted:May 5, 2015 10:49 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 9:24 am
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Interesting Stuff
The Tree of Forgiveness 1882
Edward Coley Burne-Jones
Well I've been searching again, and have found some pretty interesting stuff on the subject of forgiveness. I found this little myth and painting to be quite intriguing. I hope you find it as enjoyable and inspiring as I did.
There are a few versions of it on line some say she committed suicide, others say she died of sorrow. Some say she appeared out of the tree while others just say flowers sprang out. No matter I found it to be beautiful and very romantic.
I guess this Edward Coley-Jones did too, the myth inspired that beautiful painting.
Phyllis was a Thracian princess who had a crush on a boy - well, that's not fair, it wasn't a crush - they were in love. The boy's name was Demophon, and he was a of Theseus. They were in the middle of their love affair when the Trojan War commenced, and Demophon went off to join the effort. After the war was over, Demophon started home - but his boat sprung a leak so the voyage was delayed. But Phyllis couldn't know that. She waited for him by the shore day after day, but after nine months she died of sorrow in a place named Enneodos. Athena took pity on her and changed her into an almond tree. When Demophon came home, he hugged the tree (feeling her presence, or just being a hippy), and the tree burst into flowering blooms instead of leaves. Every year the Athenians dance in Phyllis' honor. The name "Phyllis" means "leafy."
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THEME OF THE WEEK FORGIVENESS
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Posted:May 5, 2015 8:21 am
Last Updated:May 13, 2015 8:09 am
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this weekend I had to go to the ER for an hypertension event... they gave me some paperwork I had never seen before full of great advice so this weel I must focus on that.
the one that hit the clostest to home was called HALT
H= HUNGRY
A = ANGRY
L= LONELY
T=TIRED
so I am going to work these steps but I have included on of my own forgiveness and letting go...
I believe that if I do my anger and loneliness will go down drastically
No matter how much we want things to stay the same, life is all about change. Sometimes change is for the better, and sometimes its not.
But no matter why things are changing, we need to be able to let go and move on. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, a painful breakup, a business failure, or a treacherous betrayal, holding onto pass pain and resentment will only hold you back.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. ~Paul Boese
"The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present."
-thanks for listening my wonderful friends.
much love
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wishing
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Posted:May 5, 2015 7:34 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 9:24 am
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I am really looking forward to mothers day so dang this is gonna be along week.
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joke of the day
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Posted:May 5, 2015 7:16 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 9:24 am
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Life isn't like a box of chocolates ...... It's more like a jar of Jalapeños. What you do today might burn your ass tomorrow."
Assigned to a Terrible Place
A Priest was being honoured at his retirement dinner after 25 years in the parish. A leading local politician and member of the congregation was chosen to make the presentation and to give a little speech at the dinner. However, he was delayed, so the Priest decided to say his own few words while they waited.
"I got my first impression of the parish from the first confession I heard here. I thought I had been assigned to a terrible place. The very first person who entered my confessional told me he had stolen a television set and, when questioned by the police, was able to lie his way out of it. He had stolen money from his parents; embezzled from his employer; had an affair with his boss's wife; had sex with his boss's 17 year old on numerous occasions, taken illegal drugs; had several homosexual affairs; was arrested several times for public nudity and gave a VD to his sister in-law.
I was appalled that one person could do so many awful things. But as the days went on, I learned that my people were not all like that and I had, indeed, come to a fine parish full of good and loving people."
Just as the Priest finished his talk, the politician arrived full of apologies at being late. He immediately began to make the presentation and gave his talk:
"I'll never forget the first day our parish Priest arrived," said the politician. "In fact, I had the honor of being the first person to go to him for confession."
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which do you prefer
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Posted:May 2, 2015 4:45 am
Last Updated:May 5, 2015 7:28 am
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HAPPY MAYDAY , HOW ARE YOU CELEBRATING SPRING THIS WONDERFUL WEEKEND ??
my family and I are having our first cook out of he year. Steaks, hamburgers and hotdogs etc etc ....
have a great weekend no matter you choice to do
Which do you prefer charcoal or pro pane ?
we do charcoal I enjoy the flavor it adds.
much love
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tag, you're it
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Posted:May 1, 2015 9:08 am
Last Updated:May 2, 2015 6:38 am
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To Whom It May Concern!
I am hereby officially tendering my resignation as an adult.
I have decided I would like to accept the responsibilities
of a 8 year old again.
I want to go to McDonald's and think that it's a four star restaurant.
I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud puddle and make ripples with rocks.
I want to think M&Ms are better than money,because you can eat them.
I want to play kickball during recess and paint with watercolors in art.
I want to lie under a big Oak tree and run a lemonade stand
with my friends on a hot summers day.
I want to return to a time when life was simple.
When all you knew were colors, addition tables and simple nursery rhymes.
But that didn't bother you, because you didn't know what you didn't know
and you didn't care.
When all you knew was to be happy because you didn't know all the things that should make you worried and upset.
I want to think that the world is fair.
That everyone in it is honest and good.
I want to believe that anything is possible.
When we thought the worst thing in the world was if someone took your jump rope from you or picked you last for kickball?
I want to be oblivious to the complexity of life and be overly excited by little things once again.
I want to return to the days when reading was fun and music was clean.
When television was used to report the news or for family entertainment.
I would walk on the beach and only think of the sand between my toes and the prettiest seashell I could find.
I would spend my afternoon climbing trees and riding my bike.
I want to live simply again.
I don't want my day to consist of computer crashes,
mountains of paperwork, depressing news,
or how to survive more days in the month than there
is money in the bank, doctor bills, gossip, illness and loss of loved ones.
I want to believe in the power of smiles,hugs,
a kind word, truth, justice, peace, dreams, the imagination,
the advancement of mankind and making angels in the snow.
So....here is my checkbook, my car-keys and my credit cards
I am officially resigning from adulthood.
And if you want to discuss this further, you'll have to catch me first, cause.............
"Tag! You're it."
I am officially resigning from adulthood.
And if you want to discuss this further, you'll have to catch me first, cause.............
"Tag! You're it."
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