Oh the pain!
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Posted:Sep 15, 2009 2:22 pm
Last Updated:Mar 17, 2012 1:02 pm
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Went with a friend for lunch as backup for a blind date she had.
I sat at another table near where she and her blind date had lunch. It was horrible to watch! Nice enough looking guy, he just seemed to stammer and stumble his way through trying to compliment and flatter her.
She didnt do any better with her attempts at being funny - it look awkawrd, I swear I think I winced more watching those two on a date than I would have watching a bukakke video starring my mom.
Anyone ever been out and seen a friend or a stranger, on a date and fumble EVERYTHING?
How do you politely and discreetly tell him/her - RELAX, you're fucking things up by trying?
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A weight off my shoulders!!!
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Posted:Sep 15, 2009 12:31 pm
Last Updated:Apr 6, 2011 3:55 pm
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October 1st is less than 3 weeks away, that's the date I am officially seperated. Moving on, and moving out to a place of my own.
I still love my husband(soon to be ex), though its a platonic loc - love him as the father of my 2 . I dont and havent harboured feelings of physical love, lust, desire for him in years now and he's aware, or should be, that it was and continues to be his actions that caused this.
I'm not saddened, or afraid or scared. I'm relieved that the responsibility of being his care giver is over.
I'm looking forward to moving on and trying to do the best I can, for me!
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Long scary few weeks
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Posted:May 19, 2009 4:52 pm
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2009 12:27 pm
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I had NOT been to mexico, none of my coworkers or family had either.
Some how I contracted Swine Flu (H1N1), thankfully I am fine, 100% healthy but holy crap was that ever a frightening event to go through.
I finally feel like myself again, and am truly thankful to have my health.
Now if only I got get some good, hard, sweaty , steady ONGOING sex
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Strippers......
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Posted:Apr 24, 2009 2:19 pm
Last Updated:Apr 6, 2011 3:55 pm
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.....Interesting conversation with some girlfriends about strippers. I have never personally cared if my man went to the strip club with friends, hey I've even gone with him before.
A few of my lady friends were complaining that they HATE when there guy suggests he may even go near a strip club. Their guy(s) though do not complain if she is going out with the gals to see male strippers.
Which brings me to my curiosuity. Would you be offended/annoyed/hurt if your partner went with friends to a strip club?
On a side note, I havent been to see strippers in a year or two, as women in Canada though, we DO get ripped off.....male strippers only take paper money.
So next time you ladies are going to see male strippers. Take a trip to the bank during the day, trade in your $5's for 4 American $1's LOL
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Question for the Bikers or those who ride (bikes)
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Posted:Apr 22, 2009 2:09 pm
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2009 12:26 pm
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A girlfriend of mine is a single mom with 2 young . She's been seeing someone she says is a great, decent, nice, good looking guy for about 2 months now.
He is a part time dad who see's his one week on, one week off.
Oh yeah, my question! My freind had told me about a date they had monday night. She and he went to the park near her place, she brought her , he brough his along. I guess its a 20 min trip to that park for him.
She told me that he arrived at the park with his on the back of his motorcycle. I was floored!!
I've ridden a bike for over 7 years. Why would anyone ride THROUGH THE CITY with a under 10 on their bike?
Is it just me or is this guy nuts??
There is a great element of risk with riding a bike, especialy for the passenger who isnt even old enough to be out of grade school.
With a bike, you h ave not only got to be aware of the road your are riding on, you have to be aware of Everysingle car/truck/van driven by people who may or maynot give a rip if they cut you off, slam the brakes etc.
Am I out of line for thinking her new man lacks certain judgement in the care of his ?
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Maybe I should have put out....
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Posted:Apr 22, 2009 1:59 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2009 6:03 am
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Didnt do more than chat and talk to somone I thought was quite nice on my first meeting (for coffee) with someone from LesbianPersonals.
He has written, replied, called or tried to get in contact with me since.
Oh well his loss!!
On the plus side I did run into a very nice man over lunch Tuesday. I literally ran into him as I was trying to find my phone which was ringing in my purse. Walked right into him, thankfully he is tall or I'd have mowed him down LOL
I bought him a coffee and stepped totally out of my usual comfort zone and chatted with him for about 30 minutes.
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Emailers
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Posted:Apr 20, 2009 8:32 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2009 12:19 pm
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Thanks to all who have emailed me regarding the blog.
Yes I am aware that using a blog forum to exress my thoughts is a substitution for expressing myself to another person.
No, I am not comfortable sharing this level of personal honesty with even a best friend....I have hinted around my home situation with a select few friends. I dont want and am not comfy with them knowing all the details of why I would choose to be on a site like this.
Hiding - yes sort of. Then again isnt everyone? No one I have ever known walks around with a sign displaying to anyone and everyone EXACTLY what their thoughts or feeings are, or their sexual preferences.
Comments are always appreciated, so is a differing opinion.
Megative, plain nasty people.....don't need that at all thanks.
Sad when you need to make yourself feel better by trying to belittle someone else.
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Jumped right in!!
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Posted:Apr 20, 2009 8:17 am
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2009 12:25 pm
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I did it!
I went and actually had a meet & greet with someone from LesbianPersonals this morning for a coffee before work (thanks for the I have someone to be tip)
I felt like - STRANGE, not guilty, not scared , not dity....just a mixture of a little nervousness and alittle excitement and a little of "Do I still remember how to do this?" my first date in over 20 years.
All I have to say is that patience really is a virtue, I've talked with this man since early March, finally our schedules meshed to actually sit down face to face.
He was great, totally laid back, at ease, though dressed professionally for work, He was casual too. Put me very much at ease after getting over the initial nerves.
What is going to come of this...I dont know, we never discussed that. For now I am just THRILLED i met someone who was just as nice and reassuring in person as He was to talk with.
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Flattery, great for the ego!
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Posted:Apr 18, 2009 6:52 pm
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2009 12:19 pm
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Trip to the local grocery store was an ego boost!!
Nice looking young fella helped take my groceries to the car, he was flirting away with me the whole time.
WAY too young to me to even consider, I have his age, but the attempt was good for my ego.
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Meeting for coffee.....
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Posted:Apr 18, 2009 12:07 pm
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2009 3:49 pm
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......Honestly, is it really feasable or safe to meet someone for coffee with the intention of it leading to sex?
Is it THAT important that a woman puts out as soon as you meet her? Of course sex is fun, or atleast I remember it being fun!, Yet why is it some how implied that going for a coffee means the HE atleast gets a blowjob out of it?
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Throbbing, massive, pounding.........
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Posted:Apr 18, 2009 10:27 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2009 12:19 pm
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.......HEAD ACHE
And I am not sure why, but it's had me awake since 5 am.
To answer another comonly asked question...Yes I do drink alcohol, and I dont mind if other do as too.
Living with a functioning alcoholic hasnt made me fear or dislike alcohol or those you drink it. Like everything else in life, the key is moderation. I dont think anyone would want to be around someone who does anything to excess.
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Words and Language
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Posted:Apr 16, 2009 7:29 pm
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2009 10:56 am
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I am NOT an english teacher, NOT a proof reader nor am I a writer.....Call it a pet peeve, but spelling counts!!
If you're a male over 30, you should know the words to use to convey your meaning. Nothing pieses me off more than reading I've PEEKED your interest. Grab a 9th Grade education, the word is PIQUED!!!
I've been married over 20 yrs, when I was single decades ago ( I am so old LOL ) I did date men of different races and cultures. I am not prejudice at all, and never judge a book by its cover.
Now here is where I become blunt.....If you are fresh off the boat, you aren't going to appeal to me. I dont want to be your tour guide, your introduction to canadian women, your cultural attache or your interpreter.....
North American men are the ones I am interested in talking with.
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Why am I here?
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Posted:Apr 16, 2009 6:54 pm
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2009 10:57 am
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I seem to get asked that question often, so to save on typing and re-typing it over and over I will explain here.
This isnt a pity party or an attempt to solicit hugs,condolences or friends.
Basically for the past 5 years I've been party to the sex life in my marriage steadily decreasing and decreasing and decreasing. Its nothing like it was when I first met my hubby and nothing like the first 7 years of our marriage. I'm into year 21 of wedded "bliss" now.
What it boils down to, I am married to a functioning alcoholic. He prefers the bottle/can/glass to having and maintaing a happy and active life, let alone love life.
I've suggested counciling, treatment, re-hab, drinking less, more physical activities, a change of jobs...all to no avail.
With two young adult , I dont want to show them I am a quitter and have given up on their dad.
At the same time, I want the fun back in life. I dont want fun with just any man / couple though. I want a conection, a geuine enjoyment of that person(s) company.
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