Men: Want more results? Tired of wasting your time?
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Posted:Dec 15, 2013 3:07 pm
Last Updated:Nov 16, 2016 8:34 pm
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I'm always amused when I read an angry statement on a man's profile such as "there's nothing but fakes on here," or "no one here answers messages." Although I'm sure this is true in some cases, I believe it's more likely a result of the effort one expends. And I'm sure that women are just as guilty, so men, please don't take offense.
Some men seem to be of the mindset that every woman on a site like LesbianPersonals is just waiting to hook up with the first man to come along. Men, we're not much different here than anywhere else, with the exception of being open about our sexuality. We want to know what it is about you that would make you a good partner; whether for one night or longer term. We want to know what you're looking for, what you enjoy, and more if we're looking for something besides a NSA relationship. We'd like to see that you can form an intelligent, articulate paragraph or two about yourself. It's not enough that you have a cock, unless that happens to be all we're looking for; as in, "just shut up and fuck." Even then we have some criteria. And how about a photo of some type just to catch our interest?
If you take the time to read a woman's profile, you should have a good idea what she wants and whether you'd be compatible. READ the profile!!! And put some effort into yours!! I don't understand why someone would pay for a membership and write two sentences about himself, nothing about what kind of woman he likes, and a bunch of "prefer not to say" responses. Unless you anticipated failure.
And should you reach out to make contact with a woman, you might find you're more likely to get a response if you put forth more effort than, "hey what's up," "what are you into?" (which I always reply to with "intelligence"). If you're 35 years old and she's stated she's looking for someone in their 50's, how likely is it that you're going to get any reply other than a hostile one??? It seems that younger men think we older women are just dying for some young cock. I'm sure it's magnificent, and if and when we are, we know where to find you.
As for me, a well-thought out profile and an intelligent and interesting
message from a man who's read my profile, knows what I want and feels he fits the bill is what gets my attention. And it's why I tend to adore "older" men.
Women - any thoughts or comments??? What would make you more likely to respond to a man's profile or message??
Men - are we asking too much? Is it just a numbers game or do you really want to meet the right women for you?
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Posted:Nov 30, 2013 1:34 pm
Last Updated:Nov 16, 2016 8:43 pm
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I'm sure the subject of social media etiquette has been beaten to death, but I'm still amazed at some of the assumptions and responses I get here. There's really no good way to tell someone that you're not interested, but I attempt to be gracious and tactful. Given that, I don't expect to receive a rude reply in response to my "thanks, but no thanks."
Men (and women)...please respect the fact that not everyone, male and female, is on this site because they wish to fuck indiscriminantly or meet everyone who contacts them. If that's your thing, I don't judge you. Take a few minutes to read the profile and respect a person's limits, whether it be age, marital status, or "relationship" goal. We're all on here because we're seeking some type of sexual compatibility or freedom not found on the vanilla sites, but some of us would like to find it within the context of a meaningful relationship. If I change my mind for a night, it's my perogative, and I know where to find you...
Social sites are ALL an exercise in rejection to some degree; but do we really want to try to fit a square peg into a round hole (no sexual innuendo intended, lol)? Just because you're not right for me, it doesn't mean you're not perfect for someone else, and vice versa. So please, stop with the insults, arguments, multiple emails after you've received a polite response.
My next rant is going to be about those who blow your email and phone up with interest, call or text regularly, and then go MIA for no apparent reason when all seemed to be going well. No explanation, no wedding invitation, nothing. Or the people whom you finally realize just want an email or texting relationship, but never intend to come out from behind their computer. Shouldn't you indicate up front that that's all you want so you don't mislead people???? I guess we can group them together with those who don't reveal that they're married, those who have a hidden agenda, people who don't show up or cancel at the last minute, those whose pics are ten years old, blah, blah, blah. We've all been there, but I feel fortunate to have met and corresponded with some awesome and top quality people.
It pays to know what you want and to set limits accordingly...
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