Rambling Thought
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Posted:Mar 8, 2011 6:50 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2011 5:15 pm
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So I really have been thinking about why I keep my profile up, and blog here and there. I know where I live is not an easy place to meet a lot of people. Though Im not saying that is why Im here in the first place as I enjoy chatting now and then. Sure this site does have its pros and cons just with any sites.
So I guess in the end in shouldnt matter that its a sex site because all that it says is that Im more openminded with things. Im wanting and willing to learn if I dont know something.
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Why Are Men So Angry?
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Posted:Feb 28, 2011 1:04 pm
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2011 9:04 pm
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Ok ok I just read this and had to share this in case no one else reads it. I am copying and pasting.
Men in their twenties and thirties are fed up with women, but author Kay Hymowitz says you can’t blame them when women are demanding equality except when it comes to romance.
About a week ago, The Wall Street Journal published an excerpt of my new book, which argued that the new stage I call pre-adulthood—the twenties and early thirties—was not bringing out the best in single young men. Some men didn’t like it. As in, “cancel-my-subscription-the-writer-should-contract-such-a-bad-case-of-carpel-tunnel-syndrome-she-never-writes-again” didn’t like it.
But a lot of the responses unwittingly proved my point—and another one: Men are really, really angry. Consider: “We’re not STUCK in pre-adulthood, we choose it because there aren’t any desirable American women. They’ve been bred to abuse men.” This fairly typical response that appeared at the Seattle Post Intelligencer website: “Sorry ladies. In the age of PlayStation 3s, 24-hours-a-day sports channels, and free Internet porn, you are now obsolete. All that nagging, whining, and stealing our hard earned cash have finally caught up to you."
Shocked? I wasn t. During the last few years researching this age group, I’ve stumbled onto a powerful underground current of male bitterness that has nothing to do with outsourcing, the Mancession, or any of the other issues we usually associate with contemporary male discontent. No, this is bitterness from guys who find the young women they might have hoped to hang out with entitled, dishonest, self-involved, slutty, manipulative, shallow, controlling—and did I mention gold-digging?
(“Give Modern Women the Husband They Deserve. None.”). Or read popular bloggers like the pseudonymous Roissy, a ferociously caustic dissector of female “sluttiness” and “shit tests” (attempts to manipulate men). There are dozens upon dozens of gurus and counselors who publish posts like “42 Things Wrong With American Women” while chat forums ruminate over how “American Women Suck.”
Women may want equality at the conference table and treadmill. But when it comes to sex and dating, they aren’t so sure.
So, is this what Susan Faludi famously called the backlash? Is it immaturity, as my own book seems to suggest? Is it the Internet as an escape valve for decades of pent-up rebellion against political correctness? Or, is it just good, old-fashioned misogyny?
A bit of all of the above, probably. But there’s another reason for these rants, one that is far less understood. Let’s call it gender bait and switch. Never before in history have men been matched up with women who are so much their equal—socially, professionally, and sexually. By the time they reach their twenties, they have years of experience with women as equal competitors—in school, on soccer fields, and even in bed. They very reasonably assume that the women they are meeting at a bar or café or gym are after the same things they are: financial independence, career success, toned triceps, and sex.
That’s the bait; here comes the switch. Women may want equality at the conference table and treadmill. But when it comes to sex and dating, they aren’t so sure. The might hook up as freely as a Duke athlete. Or, they might want men to play Greatest Generation gentleman. Yes, they want men to pay for dinner, call for dates—a writer at the popular dating website The Frisky titled a recent piece “Call me and ask me out for a damn date!”—and open doors for them. A lot of men wonder: “WTF??!” Why should they do the asking? Why should they pay for dinner? After all, they are equals and in any case, the woman a guy is asking out probably has more cash in her pocket than he does; recent female graduates are making more than males in most large cities.
Sure, girls can—and do—ask guys out for dinner and pick up the check without missing a beat. Women can make that choice. Men say they have no choice. If they want a life, they have to ask women out on dates; they have to initiate conversations at bars and parties, they have to take the lead on sex. Women can take a Chinese menu approach to gender roles. They can be all “Let me pay for the movie tickets” on Friday nights, and “A single rose? That’s it?” on Valentine’s Day.
Far worse in the bait and switch category is women’s stated preference for nice guys and actual attraction to bad boys. Now, clearly this is not true for all women. Many, maybe even most, want a guy with the sweetness of a Jimmy Stewart and sensitivity of Ashley Wilkes. But enough of them are partial to the Charlie Sheens of this world that one popular dating guru, David DeAngleo, lists “Being Too Much of a Nice Guy” as No. 1 in his “Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes Men Make With Women.” At a website with the evocative name Nomarriage.com, (“Brutally honest dating advice for the cynical, bitter, and jaded,” and sociological cousin of Nomarriage.com, the most highly trafficked pages are those asking the question why women don’t like good guys.
PlayStations and Internet porn? For a lot of guys, they seem like the better way.
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Discovery Liftoff
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Posted:Feb 24, 2011 2:42 pm
Last Updated:Feb 28, 2011 1:05 pm
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For the first time I actually sat and watched the Discovery Lift off. I must say it was pretty interesting. My actually watched it with me. Much better as we watched it online and not CNN. Sometimes its just amazing to think about everything that has been improved, or just how far things have come.
Time came out with a good magazine called. "100 Ideas That Changed The World" History's Greatest Breakthroughs, Inventions and Theories. Its actually some good reading.
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grow so quick
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Posted:Feb 22, 2011 1:03 pm
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2011 2:43 pm
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I have been going through my poems and as it is my sons 10th birthday today I thought I would share this one.
Little Boy of Four
A little boy just the age of four
hair the color of golden brown
smooth as silk for mom to run her fingers through
to calm him down after a night with a bad dream
when she can say the magic
I Love You
His eyes are the catch of him
he gets in trouble and looks at you with
long darling black eyelashes and the deepest brown eyes
that makes his whole face just too hard to resist
the face that just looks at you and says
"But I didn't do anything wrong"
A little boy of four
not even set out yet to really explore life
his heart his filled with the love of trains
if you should ask him anything
he could tell you everything.
He's my little boy of four.
©deepinnersoul
I perhaps will have to sit and write a new one
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Why Women Cry
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Posted:Feb 21, 2011 8:31 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2011 12:43 pm
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A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?" "Because I'm a woman," she told him. "I don't understand," he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will." Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?" "All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say. The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.. Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, "God, why do women cry so easily?" God said "When I made the woman she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world,yet gentle enough to give comfort. I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her . I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. I gave her the sensitivity to love her under any and all circumstances, even when her has hurt her very badly. I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed." "You see my ," said God, "the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."
This was something someone shared with me awhile ago and I just found it.
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Too intuned
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Posted:Feb 20, 2011 5:48 pm
Last Updated:May 5, 2011 8:11 pm
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Perhaps when a person such as myself is to in tuned with people and things it causes problems. I am either reading people too much and saying things they dont want to hear or reading things that arent there at all because they themselves are not being clear.
I will use an example; someone starts a conversation with me a little over a year ago he knew I had a . I'm not going to go into details. As much as I am really not understand all of it right now I would put his handle here and call him out but Im not that mean. We had talked many times about meeting. Now he says he doesnt think its a good idea cause he is worried about me feeling used cause he just wants NSA sex. Um ok, so how do you chat with someone for a year and not meet? Sure I have chatted with one other for a lot longer but he kept his word and I eventually met him. Yes I have seen this person on cam, honestly I have a good read of people.
But like I said being in tune with people can sometimes be a bad thing. And whatever he was trying to do play some kind of game or whatever it is the worst thing anyone has done on this site yet.
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Super Mom/Woman
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Posted:Feb 20, 2011 2:20 pm
Last Updated:Feb 21, 2011 6:30 pm
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Being a single full time mom with a who has aspergers often makes you feel like the world is on your shoulders. I pretty much take care of everything. When things break I am not calling anyone I am the one who fixes them. Sure it may seem like something is always going wrong and I can never catch a break but sometimes you just have to deal with it.
Yeah I do have bad days, yeah I can snap at people which can get me in trouble but I really try to stay away when I am in those moods.
I wonder if super woman would really be able to handle everything. Or how she would? Not just in a comic book life she is in.
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Another World
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Posted:Jan 18, 2011 6:35 pm
Last Updated:Feb 21, 2011 8:22 am
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A poem I wrote awhile ago
Would you tell someone you are
Damaged goods if they said
They wanted to care about you
Tell them not to waste their time
As the age difference is such a gap
Almost 15-20 years
It is not about people being together
All the time that makes the difference
Perhaps it’s about the distance
That adds loneliness to the soul
When a person looks at your face
And sees a deep sadness and are
Able to see right in
They wish just to be able to
Take their hand and run it down
Your face across your lips and
Through your hair as than one
Another’s eyes lock and remain locked
And for that time for that moment
You are lost and have forgotten all
In some other world
©deepinnersoul
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When You think
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Posted:Jan 10, 2011 3:14 pm
Last Updated:Jan 27, 2011 6:08 pm
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Sometimes when you think you and someone else might be a good match, does it not seem like its either they are not interested in you. Or before you can tell them you have an interest in them someone else has beaten you to it. Or than the one that usually you might go good with is usually the one that tells you "oh sorry, if only you didnt live so far away."
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My curious mind
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Posted:Jan 10, 2011 2:41 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2011 1:48 pm
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Ok my curious mind has been wondering this question for quiet sometime now. Thought I'd throw it out to all you bloggers and see who might know. Oh I suppose you all might want to know what I am curious about. LOL
Who or how did the dictionary get started and when? And how is it the words we know got their meanings? Was it someone said "ok this is just going to mean this, and that's that." I did search and this is what I found.
It is from a question and answer thing:
No one person gets this credit. Samuel Johnson is most often credited with this task, but it's not true - not even he claimed it to be so. One of the earliest known dictionaries - and it's still around - was written in Latin and compiled during the reign of Augustus. The Chinese had a dictionary in the third century B.C.
In 1604 Robert Cawdrey created the first English language dictionary and in 1656 Thomas Blount also published a dictionary. Johnson didn't crank his out until 1755.
In 1806 the Americans put the British to shame when Noah Webster compiled his dictionary of the English language. It became a best seller and drove the British Philological Society to begin compiling a comprehensive dictionary, which would later become the Oxford English Dictionary. It took more than a century and several different editors to get the thing published in full form. The first edition was actually worked on from 1860 to 1952, though plans went back earlier. The most famous editor was James Murray, a man of working class origins. However, he neither began the project nor saw it complete. He did, however, create a successful methodology for getting the project done.
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Sometimes
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Posted:Jan 9, 2011 7:33 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2011 1:49 pm
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Maybe it is just me I dont know. But it seems sometimes that when you really need someone the most even for just a shoulder to cry on or for a hug or to talk to that you can trust no one is around. Tomorrow is Jan 10th it will be 17yrs since my dad has passed away, yeah I know thats a long time. I was 12 then and I was a daddys girl. I lost my grandfather in 04 he and my grandmother were like my other parents.
I guess Im writing this because Friday my grandmother passed away.
When you really need someone sometimes there is no one. Yes I have my who is 9 but he does not understand any of this.
Anyway thanks for listening blog world
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Old cartoons
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Posted:Jan 5, 2011 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2011 9:52 pm
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You know whats strange, is now a days all these cartoons are more violent than what I use to watch. Such as bugs bunny, daffy duck, the smurfs, and Im sure you all know plenty more. But stop and think about those cartoons really they were a lot better than cartoons are now a days. Its kind of sad really, they dont even show the old cartoons anymore. If you want you have to find them either on dvd online or once in awhile youtube.
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Rambling mind
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Posted:Jan 2, 2011 2:48 pm
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2011 7:45 pm
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Is it not a part of human nature to be wanted,needed,and cared about? Meaning all areas of ones life, such as mom/dad=, friend=friend,lover=lover,and so on. One doesnt want to walk around feeling as though they are only wanted,needed,and cared about by their . A person needs more. Or do they?
Is it a need or just a want?
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