Sexless Marriage. What do you do?
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Posted:Mar 25, 2016 8:05 am
Last Updated:Aug 18, 2017 2:46 pm
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How many people live in a sexless marriage?
I post on the EP site where there is a group for sexless marriage. It has over 50k members. It seems to be half woman and half men.
As with any marriage the situations are all unique. I too live in a sexless marriage and it is a type of prison.
There are so many people that live in sexless marriages, yet it is the best kept secret. No one seems to ever really discuss it openly. I used to work with a lot of women, and they often told me of there lack of sex and how they would masturbate. They made it seem that it was just life, work, and other responsibilities that were blocking their connection with their husband. I wonder how bad it really was.
For me, my wife has some medical issues which have killed her sex drive. Many of her issues are quite common: obesity, depression, anti depressants, menopause, no ovaries, stress at the job, and lack of sleep.
We have talked about it and she says that she misses sex but has no desire. She has even talked to her dr and tried medications, specifically hormone therapy. The side effects were too much and she stopped the medications.
Our relationship is decent. We are good friends and do a lot of things together. I dont want to get a divorce. (I dont want an X. People say such terrible things about Xs) I still love her and wish we could have a complete marriage.
So what does one do? I know a lot of people go have secret affairs. Lots of men seek other men for instant gratification. Of course the men would prefer women, but there are many men who seek the same thing.
Five years ago I told her that I could not continue to live with no sex. We had a long calm and detailed conversation about it. She realized that she could not condemn me to live with no sex for the rest of my life. We decided that I could see other people. She did not want to know the details. She knew that I had some experiences with men and we talked about that too. We discussed that I should join LesbianPersonals.
I met a guy who I wanted to be with on LesbianPersonals. She went with me to meet him and his wife. It was not for all of us to play, but just to see who he was. After that I saw him twice. A few weeks later she asked about him. I told her that I had seen him twice. I did not tell her when, as she was busy and it fit in my schedule. anyway......
So time went on, and I met a few girls and a few guys. What I found out was that I cant just do sex. I need there to be a real connection. I actually have to like the person and want to have sex with that person. It is never a replacement for sex with my wife. Our marriage will be without that wonderful bonding that sex makes. I miss it so much.
At this point, I come here to chat mostly. Now I am blogging. See how that goes. I chat with women mostly. Women will talk about anything. They will have a conversation. Men just want to talk about sex, have cyber sex, or send me a picture of their cock.
There are other details and complications that I may discuss in the future....
thanks for reading....
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The bisexual issue
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Posted:Mar 8, 2016 4:56 pm
Last Updated:Aug 18, 2017 2:47 pm
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This issue of bisexuality is so funny.
The girls dont want bi guys, yet all the guys are bi. So if that is the case, and that is the case, what can we do?
But some guys, most guys, will vehemently scream t hat they are straight. Sure, uh huh. But the thing is that I get messages from these very same guys seeking sex.
I have seen this issue talked about and some guys state that they are not bi and they even resent guys hitting on them. Yet these very same guys will message me for sex, or sex talk.
Ladies, most of the men here, and most of the men in reality are bi. I guess it depends on ones definition of bi also.
I am not trying to convince you ladies that you should date bi men. I am telling you that you do date bi men.
I do have one question though. Why would you not date a bi man. I know it is a preference and I can accept that. But what is the reason? I could think of many, but what is yours?
I do know some ladies that date bi men and even prefer bi men. I wonder why that is the case.
anyone out there? LOL
kisses to all!
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