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30 ways to touch towards instant orgasm  

rm_rawdogg00 49M
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9/7/2007 9:22 pm
30 ways to touch towards instant orgasm
Once you know your own body you can begin to communicate to your partner. But being able to listen as a partner is important as well. Sure you can read those articles about the "30 ways to touch towards instant orgasm," but we're all wired differently. That "secret move" you may have mastered on your last partner may not feel so great to your current one. So learn how your current partner is different, find out what makes him/her tick and go from there.

Every comedian in America knows that guys hate to talk after sex, but if good sex is your final destination get used to it. Just a little, "What felt good? Did you like it when I did X?" will do the trick. Here's an analogy you guys can follow: pretend you are a football coach getting ready for the big game. What do they do? They watch the scouting videos (i.e. communication) and change their playbook in order to adjust. Learn from each encounter and change it up for the next time, it'll keep getting better and better.

Having good communication applies to you girls as well, but as always, girls are more complicated. Of course here I am talking about that bizarre tendency to fake orgasm. I have no idea how this started, but I am guessing it is some socially constructed relic of the old patriarchal days. But we're in the 21st century now, and you all have the right towards mutually fulfilling sex. So, since we are talking about sex as a dialogue, what do you think faking will achieve? Sure I can understand there are times you "Just want to get it over with," here faking is fine. But faking it at the wrong times only hurts yourself. You are falsely informing your partner what feels good reinforcing his/her "bad habits," and coming nowhere closer to that "good sex" we are talking about.

One crucial thing all of this advice requires is that one be comfortable with their body. How can you let someone else love your body if you can't love it yourself? So during this whole "get-to-know-yourself" period, spend a good amount of time just looking at yourself, and learning to love what your mom and dad gave you.

Finally, let me just reiterate my point from above: good sex is all about communication (not the only thing, but a huge part of it). Not satisfied? Ask your partner to help you out. Something feel good? Tell them to keep doing it. Something feel weird? Tell your partner to stop. Something you like that he/she is not doing? Ask them to do so. You practice abstinence? Tell your partner you don't want to go there.

Having good sex is as much about talking as it is listening. Also, when having all this good sex keep in mind my last sex article: wear protection and be safe.

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