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Am I closed-off/close minded for not accepting his offer? Fuck no. You don't wanna, you don't wanna. No explanations or defense needed. Could this still be a pleasurable experience...in the name of real/fake scientific study? Doubtful. I mean really, first time oral with someone you're not attracted to and knows nothing about you? Just go with it to receive physical stimulation, and possible pleasure? Why not save yourself the trouble and get a straddle mount for your magic wand? God I feel like Heathen leaving comments like this! 
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OKAY, am gonna admit something I havnt ever really said before, receiving oral, BJs at least, dont do very much for me at all. Watching others get them, yeah, that works for me , but maybe it is cuz I havnt found anyone truely skillful at it? OR, the fact that despite all my early fun times, yeah I started as a pre-teen, I didnt receive a BJ until I was age 18, and there were 10 gals before her that I had had funn with by then, including ME giving oral, which I was taught to do by the 1st gal I ever had real funn with, but SHE didnt give ma BJ, the subject never even was mentioned. And I know part of my issue is that ME cumming in a gals mouth seems somehow wrong! But that said, I have received many unsolicited BJs since my 1st back when I was 18, and while I dont especially enjoy them, I also very rarely cum from one either, which seems to be a challenge to some women to just keep trying & trying & trying, and when they finally give up & climb on, they somehow think they have failed ! But I endure their efforts, because if they like doing that, who am I to hurt their feelings or deny THEM the pleasure?
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BiggLala replies on 11/2/2018 8:49 pm: To be fair to this gentleman, he is not one of those 'suck/fuck anything' men. Really, I didn't want to make him seem that way, and I'm glad there haven't been disparaging comments so far. It's just that the discussion came up again, plus the perspective that women don't want men doing anything between their legs because HE would enjoy it made me write this. Ummm....yeah, no...if the ONLY reason is because HE will enjoy it and not me too...fuck that shit! I wanna enjoy too! hashtagmetoo Just for the record, I wasn't insinuating that the guy in question was one of those? Just a broad stroke brush to set the tone for me , not being one to participate , unless there was attraction.  " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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There just has to be an attraction unless you're paying for it!
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BiggLala replies on 11/2/2018 9:11 pm: Yes, some people are just magnanimous that way! 'Doh! You're either the only person to catch that (you know I had to go back and look), or the only one snarky enough to say anything. I'm surprised Red didn't even say anything. He's slipping. ************ Yeah, that's me being snarky for sure. There IS a good way to shut me up however - sit on my face! Blogging Legends and Myths Happy Halloween, on HNW Big Boobs Take to the Sky [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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BiggLala replies on 11/3/2018 12:40 pm: Actually, I'm blaming autocorrect on that one. Safari browsers suck at that! Dude, I don't think me sitting on your face will work. I mean, unless you want me writing an In Memory of CF post the next day. Oh wait...that will shut you up then, huh? ********* You'd like write some variation of an "In Memory of CF" post, but not because I died, but rather because you'd thought you'd died and gone to heaven.  COME ON - I HAD to say that, right? Blogging Legends and Myths Happy Halloween, on HNW Big Boobs Take to the Sky [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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If I know he is not attracted to me, no, I can’t go there. I get invites from those who have the X next to my body type. Instant no. When I mention it, I get some lame blanket statement, “oh no, I love all body types”. I can see through that.
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I am off the mindset that there has to be some form of attraction or chemistry for the sexual experience to be pleasurable. I have, on the odd occassion, met someone who I was not attracted to and with whom I did not especially enjoy the sexual experience. Then again that was many years ago and I was not as experienced in sexual pleasures as I am now. This is one reason why I don't do "hook-ups" or "one nighters". I take the time to get to know who I am meeting and who I am spending time with. Be it through conversations on the phone or in person, or even the occasional chat. I find that by getting to know the person I find the attraction which, in turn, increases the pleasure of the sexual experience, if it ever gets to that point.
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Why would oral sex be different than any other kind of sex? As in, "He's not attractive, and I won't have regular sex with him, or kiss him, but he can go ahead and go downtown because then I won't have to look at his face"? Am I really so different from other women that I wouldn't even consider having ANY kind of sex with someone I wasn't attracted to? Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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Ok so I'm gonna start this here and then take it on over to my blog to finish it up. So here's my question...Do we all need to re-evaluate/expand our personal definitions of attractiveness to find some sexual fulfillment? I've been wondering about this since I've started blogging about Boo. It hurt my heart that even one woman posted to my blog about never having experienced anything close to what I have with Boo or even some of my more casual hookups.
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Do you differentiate between physical attraction and emotional attraction? Have you been with a man who's body was so attractive that you just had to touch it? What if you find out that Mr. Gorgeous doesn't have the ability to carry on a conversation, do you keep having sex? Have you been with a man who's personality makes you want to get naked with him even though you would have passed him by based solely on appearances? Does he get more attractive to you as time passes and you share some pleasurable sexual experiences together?
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BiggLala replies on 11/4/2018 12:27 am: Wouldn't that then be In Memory of When Lala Was Celibate? ******* That too! Ohhh, knocking off two items at once - this just keep getting better and better! A New Sleeping Option Blogging Legends and Myths Happy Halloween, on HNW [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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There should be attraction in order for the sex...regardless of oral or otherwise...to be the best it can be.
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I am so not doing anything sexual with someone if I am not interested in them sexually. And the idea of face sitting appeals to me about as much as a needle in the eye .. hard pass. Love oral, but also rather be in a comfortable position on my back lol.
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Very entertaining read.
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Well, the ole man was late on this one, there is ohh, ohh pleasure when a mutual feeling and understanding is well established, some just don't like it, other do but it is a learned pleasure, no book, no porn film or magazine can inform you on how to give or receive , but once attraction is there, physical and mental, it can be the a feeling that can turn the world upside down and shake it, even at my age ,in last few years I have been taken to places that I had no idea even existed. believe me it is good to both, not just to one.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I think it's a personal thing. There are those who don't need to be attracted to another person to enjoy oral, or any sex
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11/11/2018 4:28 pm |
I love giving oral eating pussy and ass is awesome
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11/19/2018 3:44 pm |
Sexy is a package careful swimming in the shallow end bump your head
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My personal point of view, if I'm not attracted to someone, there won't be any sexual activity of any sort.
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when a person asks for one thing, I cringe. it's so limiting and reeks, reeks of a place I am unwilling to stay, kinda like a bad motel. right? anyway - i did a whole page, now i quit, can't do the whole 20 today. back later. You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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You know.. i really wish you wouldn't share our conversations all of the time... You know, i think he's just trying to be extra coy about getting you to do something that he wants. I think you're going to walk away from that like Mr. Hoover part 2.
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12/1/2018 8:01 pm |
There has to be some attraction, because the ability to climax can be predicated upon “emotional” relaxation, which can occur with someone you’re emotionally/mentally attracted to. But said emotional relaxation can also occur during overwhelming physical pleasure, when all thought but the immediate pleasure is over-ridden. I suppose it is the segway period where the transmission “engages” or “disengages”. - could anyone make sexual verbology more boring than that? Lol
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