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If I'm not attracted to someone I'm not going to do anything sexual with them.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I think it's a personal thing. There are those who don't need to be attracted to another person to enjoy oral, or any sex. And then others who require some sort of physical attraction in order to be stimulated. I'm in the SHALLOW category... to some degree. 😁😊👌 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I've never found a man who can give me oooh yeah pleasure orally.. so I don't bother with it, I do love giving oral but could not do it with someone I didn't find attractive. Face sitting?!.... errrr no!
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I don't think you're close-minded to not want to have sex with someone you're not attracted to. Seems like a really normal way to feel. I wouldn't want oral sex from anyone I wasn't attracted to because it would still be someone touching me. So yes, attraction matters for oral sex. I don't understand why men think it *shouldn't* matter. Maybe because in general they get turned on and get off more easily, they worry less about it.
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You know hun you had me cracking up  @ the Hoover power attachment. I totally understand where your coming from. You know all men think they are good at GIVING ORAL and I just have to say NO THEY ARE NOT!!!Now I am not say all men are not good at it, a man who takes the time usually at a younger age and learns how to give oral ( usually by an older woman I have to say masters it pretty well. I think watching porn is also a great way to learn oral. I know it helped me a great deal in masterful oral skills. And yes I did say that as I am very good at what I do and never had no complaints only stalkers..  I know you say your not attracted to the gentleman that offered his face to have you enjoy some face sitting ( as it can be so damn good with the right partner). I hope you will think about it and hell try it hun you might like it. But I understand if there is no sexual chemistry there you probably won't enjoy it as to be truly happy sexually there has to be chemistry. I hope you have a great weekend..  Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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Trust me, there are a lot of men that will suck or fuck anything or anyone that will allow them to. LOL Bet you knew that though, you're a clever lady. Myself? Nah. If I'm not attracted to them, it's just not gonna happen. A lot of it with me is the , starts in the head thing. No lala , that was not a pun. If I'm not attracted to them, my mind starts going in the "nope" direction. And while I tend to be horny pretty much all the time, I don't let it override my decisions." I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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11/2/2018 12:07 pm |
I agree with the gals why have oral with someone you are not attracted to ..shallow maybe but a lot of men boast of being orally talented and most are just looking for it because they get a lot of pleasure out of it for the fact they want anyone who says yes..There is a few who are skilled but don't boast about it because they know they are and don't have to brag about it ..Few and far between and if you are lucky in life to meet one then blast off is imminent ..lol..
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I think if a guy takes the time to learn to listen to a ladies body they should get better at giving oral. Do not be so set in your ways to not understand that every girl in different, some like gentle stimulation some like more vigorous and, Ladies do not be afraid to let the guy know what feel good and what does not. As for the attraction, I think there has to be some.
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Jings, crivens and help ma boab lass.........ye dinnae half ask some searching questions........and here I am wondering how I can answer a different one....... Anyways, I've done that sex thing without attraction, it was short term gain for long term pain. As in, I felt as if I had used someone, I had used someone. So, sex, aye, pleasure, not so much. On the other hand, if there is mutual respect, if you like the person, and the only thing that's missing is attraction, and if the other person knows what they're about and is indeed getting something from the activity, well, why not. But nah, for me, attraction to the point where I'd be intimate needs to be an all round thing. So, does that answer your question? 
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11/2/2018 12:22 pm |
Well, as the ole saying goes, everyone's mileage differs, some do like/love it, and some don't, it's all about what your desires and expectations are with it. And yes in most situations it does have to do with attraction, or at least it does for me anyway. I love doing or having oral like that if I'm attracted to the lady and know she also likes it, but I'm not going to do it just for my gratification if I know she doesn't really care for it or is pleasured by it.
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Have to be attracted
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It's been pretty rare that a guy really sends me to the moon with his oral sex skills. Which is NOT to say that in other cases it hasn't been pleasant. But there's a diff between "this is pleasant" and "OMG OMG OMG OMG" lol. And as a "woman of size" I'm ambivalent about face sitting. Intellectually I know that for a lot of guys that's the actual thrill - feeling like they're about to be smothered - but sorry, just makes me really self-conscious. And yes - of course I have to feel attraction to be intimate with someone.   
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11/2/2018 12:38 pm |
I need to be attracted to them to have anything physical. I find oral sex to be very intimate. I mean- you are going down to an area where I bleed and pee from. You are close to the backdoor where I poop from. I don’t let strangers play in those areas freely. There has to be a connection mentally and physically to stimulate me. 💕
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11/2/2018 12:39 pm |
My take, Lala, is that you should only have sexual contact with someone you are attracted to. Your Hoover vacuum analogy made me laugh. The other thing about some guys is that they think they should go after your pussy like a puppy after his chow. Those who take the time to learn their partner are rare indeed, because I think each woman is unique. The ones that make me laugh the most are the ones that claim to be able to do it all night. Really ? "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety" Shakespeare
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Nope, there would definitely need to be some sort of physical attraction for me before any activity took place. They describe some people as having "the perfect face for radio". Seemingly I have the perfect look for face-sitting.
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Lala, there can still be pleasure without attraction, but its much better with attraction. Otherwise, its more like mutual masturbation.
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11/2/2018 1:55 pm |
If you're not sexually attracted to him you might as well Face sit the washer on spin cycle...
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RE: Facesitting It's an awkward position that's hard on the knees. Especially for me as a big woman, there's just not enough thigh gap. So I gotta spread my legs even wider, straining the knees yet further. So instead of enjoying things, I'm thinking: "Am I suffocating him? No? How about now? Now?" "My knees hurt, how can I adjust myself so I don't snap his neck?" "I'm losing my balance here, what can I hold onto to support myself?" None of these are sexy thoughts that contribute to successful orgasms. As I get older, I realize I don't need any crazy stuff to enjoy sex. The basics do just fine, and the exotic stuff is rarely as good as hyped. RE: The offer to 'Help Out' Hard pass. If I'm not into him, I won't be enjoying it regardless of his skills. I'll be counting the seconds until he leaves. And after he does, I'll be doing the long hot shower thing .... because I'm feeling skeevy and can't get his smell off of me fast enough (compare that to my husband, where the reaction is "we'll just let that scent linger for a bit so I can savor it"). And I simply don't believe anyone who claims it'll be a one time thing and everyone can go their separate ways amicably. He's gambling you'll love it and come back for more. He risks nothing, if he didn't make the offer, he's not getting sex anyway, so of course he makes the offer. This is not some magnanimous offer, even if he wants to believe it himself. You'll be getting the midnight "You up?" text for months afterwards. He may even be sincere about it now, but that's not a guarantee he won't change after he's been with you. And from a safety standpoint, I would be leery. Sexual activity will be taking place, yet he won't be the one being serviced. In the end, he's going to be leaving frustrated. How is he going to handle that? Again, it is easy to accept that now, but is that going to change in the heat of the moment? It's lighting a fire and gambling that later you'll be able to douse it in time ... based on what? merely his assurance? Lot of good that will do if things start going sideways. Maybe you don't get victimized or anything that severe, but being called a "selfish cunt" still qualifies as an outcome to be avoided. Remember you're not dealing with logic and reason, you're dealing with a biological imperative. So his assurances mean little to me.
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From my experience, I've been with those I've found attractive, and those not so much. I am here to say, that I've had some damn nice times with those that fall into the "not so much" category. Being attractive is definitely a positive. But, in my years of being in this lifestyle, often those you would not pay much attention to was some of the best sex I've ever had! And taking sex out of the equation , some had become very good, and trusted friends of mine.
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My personal point of view, if I'm not attracted to someone, there won't be any sexual activity of any sort. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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11/2/2018 4:26 pm |
I'm one of those guys who likes to know a woman some before jumping into bed. I want to be attracted, know her personality and enjoy being with her. Then if we are attracted it's natural to move to the bedroom. But just to have sex because I'm horny and she has a hole, nah I'll pass. It's like that box of chocolates, I dont know what I'm going to get.
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i just got to say...got to have some sort of chemical going on between us...ya know what i mean??? i mean, i get it...it's just for blowjob...or gettin ma pussy eatin...but i wanna see his reaction...so his face is somehow important...and his technique is very important...other wise i am using hoover instead of him, ain't it... and phuck ya. his face is important to me, if i got to lick his hole where he pees from...well, actually his dick is more important to me, if i don't like his dick...nope...no blow jobs for them...haha...
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Ok so I was gonna offer up an alternative view point but I'm thinking I'd be in the minority here so... Aw fuck it! Here goes... It depends. Look, some people are just wired to get pleasure from giving pleasure. I know it's weird but that's why dominatrixs (?) are in demand. Maybe pleasuring women is what gets this guy off. Or maybe it's a come on just to get you naked and in bed. I guess, here's my question...how sexually frustrated are you? I've had sex with men I wasn't necessarily physically attracted to but I dug their personality or their brain or their charm. And in those instances, the sex was really just about the fun and the sexual release. Sex doesn't always have to be this big emotional commitment. Sometimes it's just nice to exchange some physical contact with another human. All I'm saying is...don't necessarily rule it out. I met a really nice guy who was a lot of fun to hang with and have some fun with before meeting Boo. If I hadn't met Boo, I'd still be seeing him from time to time. Now there's the issue of whether he's cool with just giving and not receiving. Most guys aren't. They say they are to get us naked and in bed and then start whining about getting their dicks sucked. Now I've walked out on a guy who pulled that shit on me. And yeah I walked out AFTER he'd made me cum several times with his tongue. But that's me and I don't have a problem with being a bitch like that  You'd need to really vet the guy and even then there's a chance he'll change his mind mid-way through. But in the future??? I'd say be open to the possibilities. That's actually how I met Boo Being open to the possibilities
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No attraction, no naked anything. Just can’t happen. I have seen men post here about meeting a woman whom he was turned off by whatever, usually looks, but he banged her anyway. A once and done. I think that is so mean. Maybe men are different in that regard.
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