85 posts 7/31/2018 6:00 am
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Is there a reason?
When you find a partner that does not want to enjoy, experience and or experiment with something, is there a reason why they don't? I have experienced those whom say "no" because of not knowing, and or having no experience, and or not trusting, and or having had a "bad" experience with those whom did not know what they were doing and those whom actually did not know how to do it properly. What is and or was the reason you gave and or heard, that stopped / ended something which could have been enjoyed and added to the plethora of things which was already enjoyed?
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7/31/2018 6:06 am
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I have found that some have had a bad experience before. While others have never been with someone whom knew of different things which could be shared and enjoyed. There does seem to be a somewhat overwhelming mental aspect, to much of the new and unknown, as well as some whom did not seem to know how to correctly. Maturity, talent, knowledge and experience is not something human beings are born with.
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7/31/2018 6:19 am
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Well the brain is a pretty complex organ and its the biggest sex organ in the body..It acknowledges the past and present and if the past has bad memories or maybe heard too many bad stories and seen too many bad things..that individual experiences or stores what they seen and heard in the brain ..its true ppl are not born with those things..and men are a lot more open to a lot of things women tend to not want to experience...and approach sometimes has to be handled on each individual in different ways.. 
astute2r3 replies on 7/31/2018 8:46 am:
I believe I would concur! The biggest sexual organ is the Brain as it controls the body, almost completely. I believe the desire for experience and knowledge, can be beneficial and productive. It is unfortunate/sad that some have had to endure bad experiences,those with no real talent, no knowledge and or positive educated experience to share. Thanks for sharing! |
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7/31/2018 6:26 am
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the outcomes certainly can be mind boggling to which some fall in the perverbial slot of norm thinking behavior, then there is just the fact that folks be folks just cause that's who they are and what they like, have an awesome tues astute2r3, like your food for thought
astute2r3 replies on 7/31/2018 8:50 am:
Agreed! What is normal? Is there actually consideration and compassion for others? Surely we are not all created alike and there is indeed a few, maybe very few, whom rise above the normal, average and typical. Real Human Beings are being out numbered by common people. Thanks for sharing! |
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12 posts 7/31/2018 7:04 am |
I don't think there is one good answer to your question. Everyone is different and have lived different experiences.
astute2r3 replies on 7/31/2018 8:59 am:
You are most likely correct! How great it would be if there were higher education for sexual passion. I believe, not yet taught in any school, college nor university. But alas, we only have the experience we have witnessed / shared and time, to grow and learn, if we care to know more. Hopefully there will be a greater maturity level reached before life has passed us by. Real Human Beings consider others, they are compassionate, passionate and care. Then there are people. Nuff Said. Thanks for your response! |
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23580 posts 7/31/2018 8:45 am |
Are you reading and/or discussing these things before you contact or meet them?
When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.
The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
astute2r3 replies on 7/31/2018 9:16 am:
No. Not reading nor able to discussing before. This is once there is a face to face. Kind of like as children, one did not like something to eat, even before one had actually tasted it. As it seems in general, not many human beings / people too, can communicate and or willing to communicate at adult levels and additionally seem to have trouble articulating some relevant descriptive defining words comfortably. Some, can be some what shy or reluctant to communicate even over the monitor, or verbally on the phone and at times even face to face. I imagine that they were not ever exposed to feeling comfortable enough about speaking frankly and honest about their thoughts and or feelings. Which in and of itself, can create and does indeed create a communication and knowledge issue. I do not know of any real Crystal Ball nor ESP that could be used to assist in this matter. I would welcome such an item if it existed. Thanks for your question! |
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7024 posts 7/31/2018 9:20 am |
a reason? Of course there is a reason. To each their own. Take for instance anal sex. Pretty much always good for the man, but a horrible experience for the woman with an impatient, ignorant or uneducated man. Like someone trying to shove knives up your ass. Now, how can anyone imagine after said horrible experience that anything even close to anal could feel good? No matter how much talking y'all do, the woman will not ever want to open that door again because of that bad experience.
astute2r3 replies on 7/31/2018 11:15 am:
I can certainly agree with your example and end results. I can not imagine that scenario being enjoyed nor exceptable. However, being someone whom likes to give / provide stimulation in multiple areas at the same time,(because I have heard / witnessed some request for more added pleasure / enjoyment), it seems that others / some may not like stimulation in more that one area at a time. Which has happened in my case. My experience seems to reveal "to many sensitive places,to receive stimulation at the same time", which collectively could have made all stimulation seem unbearable? I suppose that by having someone verbally articulate the feelings, be they good and or bad, would be beneficial if the giver was attentive / listening, as to limit and or control the amount of attention and or stimulation's that were given. I prefer pleasing my partner and treat them first, as if they are indeed a great lover. If they are not, I will find that out soon enough. If they are a great lover, I am always hopeful that we will again have the opportunity to share and grow those things which we share as pleasure, enjoyment, fun and excitement. I wish that each of us could only have "good experiences" which could used to learn and guide with. I would not want to neglect anything which could be mutually enjoyed. Thank you for your comments and example! |
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107039 posts 7/31/2018 11:17 am |
I think in all relationships there has to be trust, and communication and you have to talk about what your sexual needs and desires are. You also have to talk about things that inhibit you and where you want to go sexually with your partner. Its always a good thing to discuss things and easily explore your sexual adventures. I find sometimes a couple of drinks will ease you into what your wanting to try..
Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
astute2r3 replies on 7/31/2018 11:58 am:
I would agree. Trust can help relax and reach a desired comfort level. Communication, Frank & Honest is paramount! Something to help with relaxing ie: a drink, etc. can be helpful in small quantities, as to much make distort the sensations and feelings desired. I wish more human beings could speak about mature adult matters frankly. It could be very important over all. Thank you for your comments! |
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