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A single Christmas
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A single Christmas I did the majority of my Christmas shopping yesterday online. Was a lot better than fighting the crowds, but still sorta a hassle. Seems when I checked out I had it on the wrong card. So had to cancel all the orders, and redo the whole list and check out again. Felt like an idiot.  Before anyone asks...sorry I didn't get any of you anything.  While I was shopping, it dawned on me, that I wasn't dating anyone. Have no FWB, girlfriend, significant other for the first time at Christmas in quite a while. Not really sure why it took me this long to realize the obvious, but I finally figured it out. I mean it's not all bad. Guess it will save me some money on a present or three. But it does mean there will be no Christmas Eve sex. Which in my book is a major negative point. I mean, I guess it's not much different from the fact that I didn't have sex last night, or the night before that either. Oh, God..now my minds going to "when was the last time you had sex". Let's put the brakes on that one. It's not just the lack of sex though. At least not for me. Most of the time, I do fine when I'm not dating. Just seems like all of a sudden, I'm noticing a hole in the festivities. Like not going shopping with a friend. Not going for dinner down at the Riverwalk to see the lights. Well, at least not a romantic dinner. Might take my daughters. Now, of course as it moves further along, all of that will be lost in the chaos of coming into town. A road trip to see my and grandkids, that's almost more driving then visiting. Christmas eve over here, Christmas morning over at my sons. Just a wild and crazy escapade starting this coming Thursday. But still. I'm sure some of you are in the same boat as me. Does it seem different around the holidays for you? Do you not really see any difference? I mean, I think most of us would love to find a great "partner", matching whatever acronym it is we're looking for, no matter what time of year it is. It's just hitting me differently today for some reason. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx |
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And after reading that post on here yesterday with all the pics of Santa getting some, I'm thinking, "Damn, even St Nick is getting more than me right now.". Oh well, here's to a Merry Christmas anyway.  " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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I do miss it at Christmas. I am busy with family but it can make you aware of being alone. The worst holiday for me is Valentines Day. As a rule, I am okay being alone. Sometimes those days can make you feel a little left out I guess.
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Um. Hmm... Well, I haven't had an "other" for six years, so really this year is no different than last. And while, for the most part, it has been fine, I have missed just having a partner to go to holiday functions with, or bounce ideas off of for gifts for the kids, or even just driving around looking at Christmas lights. Just sitting here realizing that before I got married there were no "others" at Christmas either. I have no idea what that is like. With my ex, our first Christmas, we were engaged...that is pretty much the same as being married. I have been feeling "more single" of late...what has hit me hard this year is that there isn't anyone who is going to be shopping for me just because it brings him joy to give me a gift. And it has absolutely nothing to do with a gift...I don't need anything...it's just having someone who is paying attention to what is going on in my life everyday, and wants me to know I'm important to him. (Does this make sense? I'm not even sure if it does to me...) Oh, yeah...and the sex...thanks for the reminder, lol. I'll be missing the Christmas eve sex now, too. Lately what I've been missing is just sleeping next to someone. Well, now I think I want a glass of wine. "Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black
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Young Man, I had nearly 20 years of this and the loneleness does get worse, I understand missing the closness we get used to but for the last years it has been better and continues that way , also more expensive, LOL have a good day Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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If this is your first Christmas without a date in "quite a while" count yourself blessed. There are many others with sadder stories. I'd come down and be your Christmas elf - if it wasn't so darn hot down there!  Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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Hadn't really thought about it, until now. Now I'm thinking about being all alone...and certainly no sex, on Christmas Eve or any other time in almost 2 years. I think I'm depressed now. Oh...and then you tell me you're not getting me a gift. Ugh.... Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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I think that's sorta my attitude at the moment. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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I do miss it at Christmas. I am busy with family but it can make you aware of being alone. The worst holiday for me is Valentines Day. As a rule, I am okay being alone. Sometimes those days can make you feel a little left out I guess. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Um. Hmm... Well, I haven't had an "other" for six years, so really this year is no different than last. And while, for the most part, it has been fine, I have missed just having a partner to go to holiday functions with, or bounce ideas off of for gifts for the kids, or even just driving around looking at Christmas lights. Just sitting here realizing that before I got married there were no "others" at Christmas either. I have no idea what that is like. With my ex, our first Christmas, we were engaged...that is pretty much the same as being married. I have been feeling "more single" of late...what has hit me hard this year is that there isn't anyone who is going to be shopping for me just because it brings him joy to give me a gift. And it has absolutely nothing to do with a gift...I don't need anything...it's just having someone who is paying attention to what is going on in my life everyday, and wants me to know I'm important to him. (Does this make sense? I'm not even sure if it does to me...) Oh, yeah...and the sex...thanks for the reminder, lol. I'll be missing the Christmas eve sex now, too. Lately what I've been missing is just sleeping next to someone. Well, now I think I want a glass of wine. And not to split hairs, but sleeping next to someone is paled by the feeling of waking up next to someone. I love that. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Young Man, I had nearly 20 years of this and the loneleness does get worse, I understand missing the closness we get used to but for the last years it has been better and continues that way , also more expensive, LOL have a good day " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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The word "void" is probably the key. It's not like I'm not used to being alone for time periods. It's just this holiday season, has me feeling singular. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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If this is your first Christmas without a date in "quite a while" count yourself blessed. There are many others with sadder stories. I'd come down and be your Christmas elf - if it wasn't so darn hot down there!  " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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I remember the first Christmas losing my dad. I feel for ya. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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I'm not sure why it hit me this morning. Not like I haven't been without for a bit now. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Hadn't really thought about it, until now. Now I'm thinking about being all alone...and certainly no sex, on Christmas Eve or any other time in almost 2 years. I think I'm depressed now. Oh...and then you tell me you're not getting me a gift. Ugh.... At the least, you can know I'm with you in solitude this Christmas. That doesn't help, I know. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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It may seem different for me, but I am slowly finding me again after being missing for so long....after hiding in my bedroom....instead of just leaving...it feels so damn good!!!!!?
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"Ok..there's what I was waiting for.. I thought about this bringing others down. But lets just wallow in our misery together. At the least, you can know I'm with you in solitude this Christmas. That doesn't help, I know." Nah, I'm actually good. I was just pulling your leg. Uhhh...that WAS your leg I was pulling...right? I may not have a SO in my life right now, but it doesn't really change how I view Christmas. It would be an added bonus if there was someone in my life, but it's still good. Pagan Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Ok...for a little bit, were opposite. I think I'm missing going shopping for that special gift to give someone I care about. Does that make sense. But I rarely get many gifts, Christmas is truly a thing about giving for me. I love watching people as they open gifts. And not to split hairs, but sleeping next to someone is paled by the feeling of waking up next to someone. I love that. Okay, so you are right about that, it's the waking up next them that is really the best part...especially that middle of the night waking up for slow sleepy sex...  "Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black
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I have a pretty sad story as far as having a partner for Christmas goes. Can we say since 2001? I had some great Christmases not even thinking about a partner as I had my family, taking care of my Mom. Christmas was about her having the whole family together on Christmas Eve. It was our tradition. I have not spent Christmas with anyone for two years now. I could have gone to some family member's houses but I did not want to drive due to bad weather. Now one of my sister's moved 3 hours away and another brother has moved away too. I think the best I can hope for is phone calls or texts with folks. It's a good thing I don't have cable or I would feel worse with all the Christmas romance movies on eh? Screw Lifetime and Hallmark movies! LOL Independently Romantic Sounds Better Than Lonely
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I'm in the same boat then...thanks Jack. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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It may seem different for me, but I am slowly finding me again after being missing for so long....after hiding in my bedroom....instead of just leaving...it feels so damn good!!!!!? " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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"Ok..there's what I was waiting for.. I thought about this bringing others down. But lets just wallow in our misery together. At the least, you can know I'm with you in solitude this Christmas. That doesn't help, I know." Nah, I'm actually good. I was just pulling your leg. Uhhh...that WAS your leg I was pulling...right? I may not have a SO in my life right now, but it doesn't really change how I view Christmas. It would be an added bonus if there was someone in my life, but it's still good. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Yeah..I think that's whats been running through my mind this weekend. Trust me, I'll still have a fun and enjoyable Christmas, but there will be something missing. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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I have a pretty sad story as far as having a partner for Christmas goes. Can we say since 2001? I had some great Christmases not even thinking about a partner as I had my family, taking care of my Mom. Christmas was about her having the whole family together on Christmas Eve. It was our tradition. I have not spent Christmas with anyone for two years now. I could have gone to some family member's houses but I did not want to drive due to bad weather. Now one of my sister's moved 3 hours away and another brother has moved away too. I think the best I can hope for is phone calls or texts with folks. It's a good thing I don't have cable or I would feel worse with all the Christmas romance movies on eh? Screw Lifetime and Hallmark movies! LOL Stay away from the movies. LOL " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Starting about Thursday, the kids and grandkids will have me so busy I won't notice it as much. haha. Here's to you having a great Christmas morning. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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