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Instant messenger rudeness  

fun4we2or3 48M
24 posts
11/28/2018 8:20 pm
Instant messenger rudeness

How many of you have ever sent an instant message on here, only to be ignored by the person you are reaching out to? Ignoring someone's invitation to chat is one of the highest forms of rudeness you can exhibit on this site. At least have enough kindness to respond .... even if your response is to say..... I am not interested in chatting but thank you just the same...

Your comments are always desired.

WellINever101 54M
77 posts
11/29/2018 2:22 am

 Some people are just damn ignorant.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/29/2018 5:10 am
    Quoting  :
At your age you're lucky to be getting any IM's.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/29/2018 5:14 am

 If you were an attractive woman....I mean really attractive, you'd be getting responses.....

but you're not.... you're a guy, competing with other guys , trying to get a chat with the more attractive women..... so you lose. You're not going to get a response , mostly because she is either busy, or you're not interesting enough.

You want to get responses, guaranteed? Contact the more older and homely women. They want attention.... make their day.


fun4we2or3 replies on 11/30/2018 8:07 am:
your response sounds as if that if your particular mode of operation. It is quite obvious you did not understand the basis for the original post. A none response is no different that if you were standing in front of someone, speaking directly to them, and they totally ignore you.

go back to your methods of interaction if you like. I care to hold an intelligent conversation even more so than preying on a woman like your methodology implies.

Darkelflover123 49M/45F

11/29/2018 5:54 am

 people can just be rude or ignore you sometimes


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
11/29/2018 1:01 pm

 I do not use the IM and if someone IMs me I 99% of the time never see it in time. 99% of the time it will also be a waste of my time. And 98% of the time it asshats like Heathen G who goes around leaves rude unnecessary remarks on everyone's blog
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fun4we2or3 48M

11/30/2018 8:01 am

 All your comments are very interesting. My original post was not meant to point an accusatory finger at anyone, but to simply call attention to the lack of politeness on the part of many individuals using instant messenger. While some have said that no reply is a reply.... it is my opinion, (and yes I know everybody has "one"), no reply is a display of rudeness. Case in point: Instant messenger is digital means of holding a conversation. I think we can all agree on that. Thus... Instant messenger is no different that walking up to someone and introducing yourself.

Ask yourself this question.... How would I respond if I were standing face to face with someone, talking directly to them, and their response we to totally ignore me. Thus... the foundation for my original post on this topic.

Now I would like to see your comments.... lol


SwirlLoveCpl 54M/50F

2/17/2019 1:12 am

 Hi, this is the wife of the couple responding. Thanks for the post, it was interesting to hear people's thoughts. As a few have said here, many times people don't respond to IM for a number of reasons and it's not necessarily rudeness. I'm not sure if the lack of response to IM on a site like this is equivalent to someone ignoring you when they approach you face to face. People who approach you face to face don't usually approach with "Yall look fun, my number is xxxxxx let's meet up", "Let's fuck", "Hit me up", "I'm horny and bored". I mean if we want all the social graces respected on the site, then nothing wrong with "hello, how are you?". Even then, it stands to reason, that if they didn't read your profile, don't match your preferences, etc., you're still not obligated to respond and waste your time if you know you are not interested. Usually, when you meet someone face to face, you don't have a profile you can read to get the stats and overview of what they want and whether or not it's a match for you. So I don't know that the comparison is exactly the same of IM verses 'face to face'.

Granted not all people approach on IM in a crude way, but so many do just that and it gets tiring. Not to mention, as someone else mentioned, 99% of the time someone will contact you, you respond, and then they have nothing to say or can't hold a conversation which is a waste of time and is also tiring.

To me the equivalency is more like being in a public social setting and a person comes up to you and hits on you, but you are not interested in begin hit on by that person. The gymnastics you have to go through to try and politely turn them down, even when they are pushy or don't get the hint, would be so much easier to deal with if we could just not respond and walk away lol. Good or bad, at least this site allows that option.


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