Kiss & Tell
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Posted:May 9, 2011 5:46 am
Last Updated:Oct 26, 2014 4:23 pm
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When we look at a profile, we look at the whole profile, everything to the name, tagline, view more responses, personal details, network of friends, testimonials,groups, blogs, and responses to groups/blogs.
This gives us a truer picture of an individual and some elements may fill in the gaps - it may also be a deal breaker too. While drilling down through a profile we found out a guy was into piss games because of a group he replied in - its not for us, tho certain of course that he wouldnt foster this playstyle on us, its still a turn-off - which hey - thats what its all about is making sure both sides are fulfilled.
Now we are always the first to point out if we are being hypocrites. Ironically we keep our friends network private as well as testimonials and we dont give anymore of those. We've decided that its nobodies business whom we were playing with nor do we want to influence others either way.
So specifically to network friends and testimonials here's a few questions:
Do you keep these private - or know that you can set them private
How much influence do testimonials have in your decision making
If someone has alot of testimonials does the quantity of their hook-ups give you any concern
Are 3 year old testimonials even valid
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Our Challenge
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Posted:May 7, 2011 4:59 am
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2012 7:10 pm
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For those that can and even bother to read our blogs before they contact us, here is an update to our situation.
We try and travel to Ottawa on a monthly basis but we live very, very busy lives here and lately have had problems getting down to Ottawa as expected.
Our typical experience has been that a great deal of effort is expended in finding compatible matches which led to meet/play, only to have contact fade out - in otherwords a lot of energy to fuck someone and no repeat encounters.
Repeat encounters are important to us because it allows both parties to get over the nervousness and as comfort levels grow then experiences and boundaries can grow. We have a wish list of things we would like to try and its simply not going to happen the first time.
We also want to limit our partners, there is afterall some safety concerns.
So the challenge we are finding is that too few males are either willing or care to develop a fwb situation that can be maintained through ongoing emails, chat, cam when we get back to Iqaluit.
No, sorry, but we are not comfortable anymore with "thanks for the fuck, let me know when you get back to town" - its not going to happen as we want to build on the experience and that cant happen without developing some level of trust/friendship and that cant happen without mutual effort between "fucks".
So, before you even bother to contact us, decide what it is you are looking for, one offs, on going and how much effort you are prepared to put into it.
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Married Guys
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Posted:May 7, 2011 4:42 am
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2015 6:15 am
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We may be one of those few couples that have no issues with married males. To each their own, but we think there is a certain amount of pretentiousness on here - not sure if its necessary to run on and on in a profile about cheaters, married males, drama, etc.
For starters since women are rare, seems that there is a double standard - its okay for them to sneak around. We chuckle sometimes at the profiles where a couple enjoys havin the wife gangbanged but then they get all pious on cheating males. There is sanctity in marriage, to the exlusion of all others or there is not.
Its also a little unfair for bi couples to expect married bi males to approach their wives about their desires. Of the married bi males we have met, the common lament is that they wish they could even dare tell their wives, never mind engage them in the lifestyle.
However, the biggest problem with married males is that its so difficult to establish any kind of ongoing rapport. We have met a couple of great guys, but of course they had to work and their opportunities center around their home life. We have other interests besides adult fun and games and wont skip a movie for a hook up and of course married males cant be seen in public.
Its curious though when we see profiles for married males that run on about their interests outside of the bedroom, establishing friendships, etc, etc, cause we wonder just how are they going to do that.
So sorry to all the married males out there, but the problem is that you are competing with all the single guys (and those that claim to be) and for the limited and highly selective females (and those pretending to be) and couples, bi or otherwise and try this on your terms/limits/conditions.
Its a tough haul and we are not sure if its even worth the effort.
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15 jo videos and other waste of space
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Posted:Apr 30, 2011 11:13 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2017 7:13 am
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Though it doesnt do anything for us, we understand why guys put in JO vids on their profile. If anything it confirms size for those so inclined to care about that & guess if you have a two hander, put it up - (I would) and some folks enjoy the voyeurism - but 15?
So here is a list of stuff we've seen on profiles that are just taking up space on profiles that dont add any value:
multiple JO vids
multiple cock picks
"mirror" body shot of guys in couple profiles - what she cant hold the camera? - oh right 
porn
porn being passed as your own
photoshop pics
body building - flex posing - a simple body pic will be fine
the above from those that dont have any muscles to flex
pics that show what a complete slob you are
face pics that look more like mug shots
G pics that have in the background - this is not the place
wedding pics - sorry to hear you arent getting enough at home - but this is just wrong
couples who post their wedding pics - isnt anything sacred anymore
blurry photos
your BMW, bling or anything else that shows the world how shallow you are
The number one:
The growing proliferation of males posting their pics/vids from their last overseas trip when they hooked up with some local - if you live in Ohio and have pics of five different south asian females - we know you didnt meet them in Columbus.
Just our ramblings.
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A man walks into a bar and says
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Posted:Apr 30, 2011 10:36 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2015 9:22 pm
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The one liner, lazy or effortless emails from males is a constant refrain on here. We try really hard to reply to all emails, and try even harder to be polite about it, but what we are thinking behind the polite declines is anything but cordial.
So we open our profile and realize we a an email in our inbox. Initially excitement quickly leads to the realization as we are waiting for the page to load that this is likely another waste of time. When the message finally opens up and we have to squint to find where message, its confirmed - another one line. Check the profile, not much there either, and then the confirmation that the person is straight or attached or prefer not to say. Frustration heightens when we realize this was a silver/gold member and the couldn't have possibly even read our profile or why would they bother?
Come on guys, how easy do you think this is going to be. You dont really believe couples are so hard up and thats why they are here that they are going to fuck the first guy whom asks do you?
Why dont I just take my wife to a bar and offer her up there or her out on a street corner? If I just want to suck cock, why dont I just find some bathhouse, park, road side truck stop, glory hole/gay porn theater/bookstore or whatever the fuck these places are that guys search out anonymous quick cums?
This may be a sex site, but the fundamentals of human interaction dont change, there must be some form of mutual connection, attraction, and compatibility.
If you arent putting an effort into this, then save even more effort, stop sending emails.
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Hall Pass
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Posted:Apr 28, 2011 9:53 pm
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2013 2:27 pm
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One of our few hard and fast rules is that we no longer entertain contact couples where the male "has permission" to play alone.
And like eliminating closet bi males, we know we are missing out on those rare occasions where the male's partner in fact does approve.
However, when we started this exploration we formed the context as to how we would approach it. We decided that this would be a couple adventure and that we would not play with out the other.
Think of it this way, the best experiences for couples are those that are shared ie say one of you has the opportunity to go to a concert, but your partner cant go. Well a strong supportive relationship, the partner would encourage you anyways. But of course you know they would feel left out and you know you wouldn't have as much fun with out them - in other words its better not go than go with out your partner.
The best couple experiences are the ones you share together, then reminisce about through out the years.
So in a sexual context, there is nothing in it for either of us if the other cant be their to share the experience.
She has often asked the question when we read a "hall pass" profile, "why wouldn't the wife go along even just to watch?" So this is one of those rare times that we impose our value system on others - it makes no sense to us so we dont believe it.
From our perspective, any attached males, claiming their spouse approves can just pass us by.
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Blogdom
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Posted:Apr 28, 2011 9:33 pm
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2012 7:29 pm
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Just getting into the blog thing. Up till now we usually post on others, but find we have a lot to add to those that can go past the grunt an groan and want a deeper community perspective and enjoy others insights/experiences/random thoughts.
Of course this also serves as giving folks insight into us and augments our profile.
So read through them, hope we are giving something back for all the wonderful commentary and ideas we have taken from others blogs.
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"....his kisses tasted like cock."
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Posted:Apr 27, 2011 8:30 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2017 7:16 am
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Hah! Suckered you into this blog - with a lurid title, but there is a point.
We all know that male bisexuality is generally a relegation to oblivion by straight couples and females. Yet we and many other bi couples get plenty of contact from males listed as straight on their profiles.
What we find intriguing tho, and the purpose of the title, is do straight couples realize its possible they had sex with a bi male they thought was straight?
We received a wink and an email from a guy whom indicated he was actually bi. Checked his profile, saw he was straight but noted a testimonial from a couple. Looked up their profile and they were straight, so much so that they put the usual disclaimer "absolutely no bi-males". Hmmmmm? Would like to hear the post play discussion between the couple...Husband "So how was that for you?" Wife "It was great, but his kisses tasted like cock. His profile was straight right?"
Now, we are making light of this but what about the deeper issue of some form of basic trust? Is there any ethical or moral concern? (ethics and morals on a sex site 
We dont meet closet bis for reasons we wont go into here and we generally decline tactfully and with some understanding of why they list themselves like that, but does this make them inherently distrustful? By their own admission they are misrepresenting themselves. Is this a reflection of their character? Should they be outed?
Or should this be chocked up with a shrug and a "Meh..men will say anything to get laid?" 
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Contrition
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Posted:Apr 26, 2011 3:21 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2015 6:16 am
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We recently had a situation where large parts of our profile were used by another couple.
We sent them off an email and gave it a few days, but nothing changed, so we reported them to the LesbianPersonals site and advised them.
Their response to us, kinda left us in a bit of a huff, I guess we were expecting more atonement and apologies. Then they went above and beyond and not only removed the content we were disputing, but also posted an apology online - on their profile no less, in great detail.
Needless to say, this was a very classy act on their part. Turns out they did copy and pasted as a template, and yeah we can get into all the issues of this, but we have to admit, but there is a complement in here, that they clearly liked the detail in our profile to use it to model theirs after.
Because these folks more than made up for what was an unintentional transgression, we feel like asses for possibly overreacting and maybe take a bit more time to have the issue resolved.
There is so much BS, lying, lurkers, thrill seekers, garbage winks/flirts, and lets fuck now emails, and other assorted crap us serious folks have to wade through, that sometimes its easy to forget that there are truly classy, respectful and fun folks that can make this an enjoyable "community".
This whole incident has shown us that there are great folks out there and you can not lump everyone together, or assume the worst due to the negatives.
We truly wish this couple all the best.
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Standard Members
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Posted:Apr 25, 2011 9:45 am
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2011 1:04 am
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This site is expensive. The returns vs the rewards is something that we have dealt with too - sorta month on month off - kinda dollar cost averaging.
But here is the problem, we wouldn't get so many emails, winks, hotlists if others could read our profile. And since we are one of those rare profiles who try to reply to all, we are so inundated that we simply disregard alot of contact from those not fitting our requirement.
So we are coming to the conclusion that its unfair of others to post things like - standard profile, you contact me etc - because this assumes that someone else is going to pick up the tab for all this.
As we seek single males, there is also the suspicion that they are not really single. Cant have the wife finding the visa statement and questioning an unexplained charge.
Now apparently you dont have to pay for this site to see profiles, but you do have to do alot of work..play2ways is an example of a guy whom puts a lot of effort and reaps the rewards because 1. he gets access to the site 2. because his profile is out there so much others come across it 3. as a couple seeking males his profile, blogs and group postings give us a very detailed picture of the guy.
So in a nutshell either put up the money or put up the effort - we will do our part too.
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