I've been online for about two months and what a difference in my life. I was scared life was over for me after this last divorce. i was so much in love that I let it blind me to the truth. Eleven years of passive aggressive control. I worked he played but I couldn't see it. It took a house to fall on my head to see the reality. pardon the wizard of oz pun. Anywaylong story short he made me feel no one would ever want me or care about me again. I believed it so for six months I wallowed in my self pity until I met a great guy from Lincoln who showed me there was life after divorce. You know who you are. at first he just had sex with me. gently kindly and well. but I still thought it was sympathy sex. poor old lady left by her man. now I know better he has become a great friend and will always be my friend. since then I have met alot of great people and have come back to life. and what a life! I can feel again and it's great. i've lost weight and changed every aspect of my old life. when I look back now I don't even recognize that person. she was a sad workaholic who would do anything to get her man what he wanted and worked to achieve goals that were not what I wanted. All that has changed, I remembered how to have fun. Amazing how important fun can become. this site has been a big part of that. I have met some great people who have really become my friends and more than that. my lifeline to the person I am becoming. I know another sad divorce story but this one has a happy ending I like me now. from suicidal to happy in such a short time just because i was blinded and now I see. thats a song somewhere right so thanks to all who pulled me out of the depths and showed me life again.