Numerical advantage...
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Posted:Jun 21, 2013 5:28 pm
Last Updated:Apr 27, 2024 3:35 pm
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Saw this in a profile on another site:
"...maybe you should set your targets at an appropriate level. Look I wouldn't expect a 26 year old guy who was a 9 to be interested in a relationship with me because to him I would drop from 7.5 to a 5, to expect success there would be arrogant of me..."
and the lass who wrote it had put it in another profile, you know, to not offend, as an 'educational' service. For science as they say. I had to read it a couple of times.
It kind of reminded me an incident years, not long after Uni I suspect. Traveling to work in the morning I was strap hanging on the trains Melbourne had back then. In front of me, seated were two young ladies, not far off my own age at the time, in conversation. (Insert, nasal "comedy company" voice). "I dunno, where have all the good guys gone?". I thought to myself, "they must be off with all the good women dear".
Now I'm not sure how many of you, if any, subscribe to the numerical theories above. For myself, I've made a habit of dating against type and have met some of the most interesting people that way. I'm always particularly annoyed when I hear (it always seem to be women) say things like "I keep meeting the same sorts of guy over and over again". To the observer the 'problem' is pretty damn clear. You keep picking the same ones over and over again. You know. You have a type. The pretty boy. The olive skinned. The one with a fat wallet. The one with a muscle car. The numerical equal. (And for LesbianPersonals) The guy guy with the 11" cock. Whatever your filter looks like, maybe it's time to review it. You never know who you might meet after all.
Good hunting!
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profiles with pics...
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Posted:Mar 21, 2013 10:55 pm
Last Updated:Apr 27, 2024 3:35 pm
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Came across yet another profile today (it's OK, I wiped it off and apologised) with the oft seen phrase, "will only respond to profiles with pictures and of your face... It makes me want to laugh sometimes. So often this is on a profile with no picture of its own.
What's worse though is this is usually from people who make no effort to reply anyway. Not having a picture will guarantee a non-response. Having one is hardly likely to get you a response though.
In my own case, I find publishing the picture means far fewer replies than not... of course most of those ladies will then advise they have no further interest when they do see me... Really? That bad? Can't even risk any further conversation?
Harsh.
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Good Vibrations -- seeking some opinions
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Posted:Aug 23, 2010 1:53 am
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2010 6:08 pm
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Some of you may have read my profile. There's a little story on it about a game I've played once or twice in various forms featuring a remote controlled vibrator. In essence, the vibe goes in my partner and I keep the control. While I could just switch it on and see what it does (or off) I've found that by pulsing the vibe off and on, and more importantly by doing so in rhythmic patterns I can get my partner to get excited, get wet and, done right, to cum. And once you've cum, I can keep the rhythm going and make you cum again and again and again. Lots of fun for both of us.  (I like being a little dominant and the "I have you under my control and you can't escape aspect" is one I enjoy).
So anyway. I may have mentioned in other blogs that I'm an I.T. person, a little geeky in short. So lately I've started playing with little easy to program microcontrollers called "Arduino's". Nice gadgets and you can get all sorts of easy to use add-ons for them, including a motor controller. I'm using one such to automate my home cinema screen as we speak. But sitting there and looking at the motor control board it occurred to me I could buy an old fashioned wired vibrator and connect it up. Easily. A little programming and I could make it go fast, slow, pulse and all sorts of things.
"So what" you say. A hundred or so dollars and you can buy a vibes that do all this already. I have one so I know. And they're fun in spite of a fairly limited repertoire of things they can do. But it does point the way for what could be achieved. What I'm thinking is a multi-channel control unit that runs the traditional in-pussy vibe, the external clit stimulator and a vibrating butt plug. Now instead of the current top end vibes game where the clit stim goes da-da-da-da the main shaft goes zuzzzzz zuzzzzz zuzzzzz more or less without any real plan or intent, I can imagine all sort of wickedness playing out where pulses of vibration pummel you front and back in a synchronized series designed to spread waves of pleasure hormones through you. Imagine if you will the clit stim starts up, building up and as it reaches its maximum the main shaft starts and builds as the clit stim dies away and now the butt plug starts to build as the main vibe dies off. Imagine this wave oscillating back and forth across your body 5 or 10 times and then slowly morphing into a new pattern designed to help wind you up to a now inevitable release...
Need a glass of water yet?
So this is the idea. Cost in hardware is likely about $80-$100 for the controller, some extra bits, a nice box to put it in and some plugs in the cables, then extra cash for as many vibrating attachments as it amuses us to buy. And its all low voltage so no danger of anything untoward happening. I have a bunch of ideas for patterns that the various stimulating attachments can play out already but the real intent of this blog entry is to solicit ideas from the audience. Got any favourite vibrator games you like to play? Special techniques? Party tricks? Know some 'thing' that makes you cum every time, or your girlfriend? Feel like sharing?
The quid pro quo here is when I'm done I'll be more than happy to share the details for those who want to build their own or indeed if you feel you lack the necessary soldering skills, to build up control units for those who want them for no more then the cost of the bits. (i.e. I'll donate my time to the good cause that is causing more orgasms in the world!)
So, that's it. Over to you. I want to hear your thoughts. You can send them to me either here in LesbianPersonals email or as a comment on this blog entry. Oh, and if you feel inclined maybe pass the message on. Make blog posts of your own. Link to this one. Pass the message onto any mailing lists you feel might like to participate. Spread the word.
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The acid test....
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Posted:Aug 6, 2010 5:49 am
Last Updated:Jun 21, 2013 5:36 pm
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If you've been online for any length of time you'll be aware how much of the information online is flawed, mistaken, misunderstood or just plain wrong. This varies from people who earnestly believe the BS they're peddling either because their mistaken or because of their agenda (why yes, there is an election on here at the moment, why do you ask?) to those who simply are simply trying it on.
The ones I want to talk about are a subset of the mistaken ones, the ones who have only a poor grasp of math or statistics or who earnestly follow a flawed train of logic to a foolish outcome. What brought this on? Well truth is I stumbled across another link to "The acid test for Doms". I've seen it before, you may have too. Google "Acid Test" right now and have a read if you like. Its presented as 'good advice' for submissives who are seeking dominants and specifically submissive women. Its certainly has the air of something that believes itself to be offering deep truths.
My problem is, it starts off with some very flawed logic and that kind of colors the rest of the discussion, for me at least. So what does it say? Here's an extract:
"Various estimates and surveys have placed the ratio of real (i.e. natural) male sexual Dominants to female sexual submissives at about one to ten. However, a quick count in any given BDSM-oriented chat room would lead you to believe that male Doms outnumber the subs at about two to one. Now if there is actually only one male Dom for every ten female subs, that means that 19 out of the 20 "Doms" you see online have to be fakes
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Some of you will see the problem immediately and some won't. Statistically its called a "selection bias", which means that the group you're looking at is in some way a skewed sample. Most often people who've selected themselves rather than being chosen at random (which you have to do to make your small sample in any way approximate a larger population). Here's one I've made up which makes it easier to see the problem:
"We're told that 49.5% of the Australian population is female but when I look at the numbers of profiles of men and women on LesbianPersonals I see a closer to 10:1 ratio of men to women. Clearly (!) 9 out of 10 of those so-called men must be women masquerading as men." (I'll note that the math in my example is deliberately wrong too...)
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See the problem? We know the 50:50 (roughly) number at the start is more or less correct, its basic genetics. In fact, allow me to suggest that the 10:1 ratio of men to women on LesbianPersonals is pretty much the status quo too. This is because men are disproportionately over-represented in the population of people online and also because women, especially attractive women may not need to come to LesbianPersonals to get all the adult fun they want already, without the need to fill in profiles and sell themselves in 100-10000 words. All that means is that the people on the net aren't a representative cross section of society and the people on LesbianPersonals even less so. That makes most of the logic that follows in the Acid test discussion a little moot. You'll note that there they're reporting an even higher ratio and guess what, if you work the stats its about the right number. But the acid test sees it as a sign of fakery and insincerity, self-delusion or outright fraud and decides to advise you walk away from the 95% you decide are the not real ones.
So the acid test moves on. Know your enemy it says. You know. Them. The geeks and the nutters and sex fiends. Errr... bad news guys. If you're on the net, you are by definition geekier than someone who's not. I for example appear to be writing a blog entry for fucks sake! All that's left is a question of degree. Its like the old saw about would you sell yourself to a stranger for a night for $10? How about $10million? So now we're just haggling on price right? In the same way you are a geek. You may not be debating Kirk vs. Picard or have a Dr Sheldon Cooper pinup poster but it is all just a matter of degree. You're using a web site to try and meet people for heavens sake. The non-geeks are down at the pub pouring enough beer into themselves to make their local "single for a reason" opposite numbers look appealing. If you don't like the label, you are free to join them.
Similarly, the sex obsessed. Kind of goes with the territory on a place like LesbianPersonals. Hell it may even be why we came here originally or perhaps why some return every day. These may be the actual people you're looking for. Or could easily become the people you're looking for. Chemistry changes people folks. Its how confirmed singles become partners and why people marry.
More amusingly to me was the Acid test's prose about control freaks. Here we have a document written to assist subs looking for 'real' doms that then branches off into a discussion on how to identify and step away from... well people with a dominant personality. Too funny for words. Which is not to say I'd want to have my life micro-managed by an arsehole with no sense of balance, nor would I want to be that arsehole, but there are some (I've met them) who crave that (and its not me).
Finally, this section of the acid test ends with a warning on and predators. Good advice at last, and sadly not advice that needs to be limited to the BDSM community or even LesbianPersonals or the dating community. These people are out there and you have to be vigilant. The good news is they can't reach through your screen to get you and engaging in conversation is often a fairly effective way to weed them out. And while you're conversing, don't give too much away upfront. Don't use MS messenger or Yahoo with your real name as an ID. Don't trade telephone numbers till the requisite warm and fuzzy feelings are in place. Don't be pressured to meet till you feel safe. Meet in an open public place. Repeat the getting to know you stuff face to face where you can now check body language and tone. If you go to his place, make sure someone you trust knows the address. You may even arrange to have them call you after you've been a while and if you say some agreed upon 'innocuous phrase' they can send the police. If you are playing in the BDSM world, make sure you have a safe-word and if he or she doesn't honor it get the hell out. These are all basic things you should do to watch out for yourself. The last few may not be necessary in vanilla dating. Let face it if you do the 2-5 dates before sex thing, you're less likely to find yourself tied to the bed (unless you wanted to be of course...).
The last (real) section of the Acid test is the "Know what you want" section. Its nice advice and sadly more likely to be honored in the breach than the observance. Few people, in my experience have any real idea of what they want. Sometimes it literally manifests as someone saying they have no type or they don't know their type and other times its more a matter of self delusion. We've all met that person who just wanted something casual who announces soon after meeting that they really like you and would like to have a more serious relationship. Its happened to me at the end of the first date once. (Yes you're right, I should have run screaming... being too polite can kill you!) Or the girl who describes the nice guy in the polo shirt as her ideal and then dates the tattooed horror with no shirt, open leather jacket and ponytail. Knowing what you want, being able articulate it honestly, being able to look past the skin deep and see if the person you're talking to matches the ideal are all good ideas in principle. We should strive for that ideal. Don't beat yourself up if you fail though. That too is part of being human.
That's kind of where I lost interest in the Acid test. It goes on with a bunch of little tests, lets call them testlets. It instructs you to memorize all this. Might be useful if it weren't so flawed. And the best advice remains to use your common sense. We're none of us love-sick teens here and that means we've some idea of how to find what we want, how to weed out the non-starters but still keep an open mind to new friends, new opportunities and new adventures.
Oh and if you are a tall girl interested in a mild dominant male, do drop me a line! A man can't live by blog alone afer all!
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The Ghana girls
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Posted:Apr 17, 2010 9:06 pm
Last Updated:Aug 4, 2010 7:00 pm
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Well been back for a few months now. Some things have changed, some haven't. Under the latter column, there seem to be fewer 'active' locals here. Of course the site seems to have gotten bigger (there were no blogs when I last loitered here regularly) and I simply may not know where folks hang now...
The other thing is of course the arrival of the Ghana girls... If you're a guy you've no doubt seen them and not just here. They seem particularly active here though. Maybe the guys here have been more gullible than most or maybe there's some other selection process we're not seeing. But they are enthusiastic. In the old days I used to get one maybe two winks a month(!) and under the 'noise' I suspect nothing's really changed there. What has changed is the sheer deluge of girls from African nations, mostly Ghana, some Nigeria and a smattering of the other nearby nations. I'm now getting on average 20-30 winks a day. Fully half of them say Ghana in the location of the winking profile. A good half of the rest use figures of speech that clearly mark them as more of the same in spite of living in Queensland or Colorado. Queensland is clearly doing its African marketing right by the way given how many of these girls seem to want to be from there. Kudos! 
So how can you tell the wheat from the chaff? Well the easiest way is just looking at some of the profiles. They tend to follow a set pattern. Actually one of two or three set patterns. Mostly they're "God fearing humble women searching for the man they can serve for the rest of their lives". They dislike liars and cheats (and clearly have a poorly developed sense of irony). They're looking to mate for life.
Like the Nigerian advance fee frauds (419 scams to some of you) most of the action it seems takes place in internet cafes. Like the 419ers the name of the game is to extract money from you. Here's a clue guys (and girls I'm guessing). If your true love asks you to send cash the second time you talk, they may not be what they seem. Of course its seldom couched that way. Most usually they're poor students, or travelling Aussies who been robbed or some variation on the theme of someone without money who wants to come to Australia. Its love right? So you'll pay to "re-unite" the two of you. Won't you? What sort of unfeeling bastard are you? To abandon a poor Melbourne lass to a foreign country with no money. Yes... her and her 15 friends who all wrote me the same sob story today. And the 15 from yesterday. Let's see that's 450 this month and about 2000 since I rejoined... I should alert the press. People need to hear this.
All this by the way extends to that other set of diligent fraudsters, the Russians. Only last week I was winked by a gorgeous blonde, naked, 27yo, size 8 or so, E cup hotty. Wow is all I can say. Well that and "too good to be true". You should all remember here, if it seems too good to be true, it almost always is. So how can I know this is a scam. How can I know the Ghana girls are too?
Conversation is usually sufficient. Talk to them for a while. So first off, they will very quickly contrive to send you their address to chat off-site. Not a surprise, LesbianPersonals like many singles sites has a fairly flakey mail system and the extra filtering they apply doesn't seem to slow the bad guys at all. (It does slow you and me, but then again if we fail to hook up, we'll just end up paying LesbianPersonals more money for longer, so it's all a win from their POV). Anyway chat to them. If you're from Melbourne like me you have a great conversation opener. The football. No one here has no opinion about the football. They either love it, hate it, rabidly follow some team or other. Whichever option, no one from Melbourne just ignores it. Or say the word Collingwood. You can't be from Melbourne and not have an opinion about Collingwood. And its where the scammers fail. They have no idea what a Collingwood is... what it means... or why you said the word. They will change the subject and try to talk about something else. Sadly, no one from here does that... gotcha!
Those of you from other places, can I'm sure come up with similar things to chat about. Find something a local is passionate about but is just words to someone from far away. If its something extreme enough, like AFL football, then even a Queenslander, a real one, knows how to react.
If you're not sure there other gambits. For the lost travellers try suggesting they contact the embassy. Last I tried I got its in another city and the hotel won't let her use the phone. They will let her sit on the internet all day though! There's not a lot of subtlety in these people and by and large they've done zero research on the things they're trying to pass themselves off as. This is the spam email approach of course. They've not picked you specifically, they've picked every guy they can see on the site. LesbianPersonals has what 5 million members? Lets work at winking them all. If 1 in 10000 responds, if 1/10th of those send them $500, then they've made $250,000. That's real money where I live, let alone some Nigerian shithole. Small wonder that an army of hopeful amateurs and smaller cadre of organised scumbags are all out there beating the bushed for the .01% of people gullible enough to send money.
Don't send money guys. It will never end well. Don't pay for translator services, for air tickets, for anything. Cash will disappear. As will Western Union transfers and bank transfers or any of those other money exchange systems. Paypal and credit cards have some protections against your transaction going bad, but the downside is the bad guy likely gets your account number and it becomes the target of worse people (because your beloved will sell it to them). If you try sending 'things', they can all be traded away on ebay or other less legal forums. Bottom line, you're only dummy to these people. A wallet that hasn't yet been drained. Step away from them. They're not your friends.
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Giving it a go...
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Posted:Feb 14, 2010 11:25 pm
Last Updated:Aug 2, 2010 6:07 pm
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Not usually one for these sorts of things, but why not. So, its the day after Valentine's Day. Another complete washout. Would have made little difference as I was working anyway. In fact I should be now but this is, as ever procrastination at its finest.
But then again, man doesn't live by bread alone. Or spicy meatballs in my case (hot lunch... yumm). Which is why I came back here. Left about a year ago after the usual round of paying the subscription and getting no results. Not sure what the deal is. The 'nice' girls all seem to think I'm a root rat and the 'nasty' girls (who I'd quite like to get to know) all think I'm way too tame. No one seems to be at my level. Ho hum. Anyway, I took a break. From here and a few of the other sites I'm on. Hey its the same no sex result but its cheaper and less soul destroying. Also you can't keep knocking on the same doors over an over without seeming a little pathetic, which is not my look.
I am in fact fairly content. I live well. I'm fun, smart, educated, employed. I have a streak of naughty but its counterbalanced by a streak of snaggy. And yet, it seems its not enough. If you think you have an answer feel free to share. I gather there will be a comment thingy on here. And while I'd welcome an answer, I'm just here to talk. Its what we do right?
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