I had my follow-up appointment with the pelvic floor therapist a couple of days ago. I did a little show and tell where I showed her the various vibrators that are in my repetoire. Vibrator A pops right in. Vibrator B goes in not quite as easily but overall is fairly comfortable. Vibrator C, the largest, hurts going in but after several minutes I can move it in and out slowly.
She was impressed and said that now her impression is that it's not an issue with my pelvic floor muscles but rather with the tissue at the vaginal entrance not being flexible enough. This is what I thought all along. (eyeroll emoji)
I said I couldn't report too much on how the therapy has effected sex because our sex life seems to have pretty much dried up. 
I know he has a healthy sex drive, so insecure smarty is wondering whether he's getting it somewhere else, but I've been afraid to bring it up. Anyway, we have had a couple of fairly good outings when he used a vibrating cock ring. Highly recommend, 5 out of 5.
Since there wasn't much to report on the sex front, the therapist changed the topic to constipation. She seems somewhat obsessed with that, says it's going to reduce my pelvic floor health over time. (shrug emoji). So here's the fun fact - did you know that kiwis are good for relieving constipation?
In brief, Eating two to three kiwis (green or gold) daily is clinically proven to relieve constipation. The combination of dietary fiber, high water content, and a natural enzyme called actinidin helps soften stool and speed up bowel transit without causing bloating.
Not only that, but kiwis also help with sleep!
Kiwi is one of the only fruits that naturally contains both melatonin and its precursor, serotonin. These hormones are essential for signaling your body that it's time to rest and for regulating your sleep-wake cycle.
Antioxidants: High levels of vitamins C and E reduce oxidative stress, which is often associated with sleep problems.
Nutrient Rich: Folate deficiency has been linked to insomnia, and the high folate content in kiwis may help improve sleep patterns over time.
How to Add It to Your Routine
Timing: Consume two kiwis about 60 minutes before you plan to go to sleep. This gives your body time to digest the fruit and absorb the sleep-inducing nutrients.Fresh or Dried: Studies have shown that both fresh and dried kiwifruit can improve sleep onset and quality.Variety: Green kiwis are slightly tart and are excellent for digestion, while gold kiwis are sweeter and contain more Vitamin C.
So when I was at Costco yesterday I bought a big box of kiwis. $7.49 for all of these!
Alas, when I got home and opened the box they were rock hard. I figured they were just going to be getting ripe by the time I'm heading out of town on Saturday, but actually, after sitting on the counter overnight, I found an edible one just now. It was pretty filling. I'm not sure if I could eat two before bedtime, but we'll see how it goes.
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Proper Bedtime Rituals
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Maybe not that ritual, if it makes you feel like you're going to poop in the middle of intimate time? LOL.
The Best sex is always messy...
so who cares?
@smartasswoman
Keep the Faith
Thanks. I realize this will make me sound like the classic "no fun at parties" person, but I've noticed you post a lot of these AI images (some call it AI slop). I'm sure they're a lot of fun to create, but all I can think about are the energy-hungry data centers.
Do I think you are "no fun at parties"? (no)
Do I enjoy making these pictures? (yes)
Do I have a coloring book fetish? (maybe)
Do I suspect people said Michelangelo
was wasting too many paint brushes when
painting the "The Sistine Chapel Ceiling"? (probably)
(Insert the proper image from your mind here)
I Respect your plight
wishing you nothing but the Best!
Remember:
After your Apple a day...
two Kiwi at night,
will make Everything all Right~!~
Bless you
@smartasswoman
@Proffer4u2 I disagree about Michelangelo, but I thank you for your kind spirited reply.
Obviously,
Michelangelo wasn't,
yet I find I never have enough crayons!
@smartasswoman
@Proffer4u2
Well that was charming.
Personally, I’ve always believed coloring, painting and drawing are underrated forms of joy.
Love kiwifruit, you should try the red one when it becomes available.
Is it under development?
@smartasswoman it is now available for general sale in New Zealand during its season which unfortunately is only a month or so, around April/May. Hopefully they will be able to get some to export soon. Similar flavour to Gold variety.
@nzhornytoad I will just have to visit NZ in April, haha.
@smartasswoman would love to show you the country when you get here
@smartasswoman found some New Zealand kiwifruit in a Meijer's in Defiance, Ohio today
@smartasswoman current price range for kiwifruit in Christchurch, New Zealand.
That is a remarkably efficient way to move from intimate diagnostics to produce-based wellness.
Also, who knew kiwis were such over achievers!
I love the phrase “intimate diagnostics”; it’s the perfect term for what I’ve been going through.
Your therapist is quite thorough in some areas. You are very brave
Show and tell with toys would be easier than trying to describe things
Hugs!!
I have poor spatial sense so it’s not like I could say “vibrator A is one inch in diameter “ because I have no idea,
I knew kiwis had a lot of antioxidants, but didn't know they helped with sleep. Good to know.
The one time since then that I ate one at bedtime, it made no difference. (Shrug)
Sounds like you’re getting closer to understanding what’s really going on especially now that the therapist is leaning toward the tissue flexibility explanation you suspected.
The kiwi info is genuinely interesting, I had no idea they did all that.
I'm not super happy about not making more progress, but I feel good that I pursued every possible avenue to try to make things better.
Yeah I had no idea about the kiwis either! Definitely beats trying choke down prunes (a bad memory from my childhood).
Interesting on the Kiwi but What I like on how comfortable you are showing your toys and using them in front of your doctor.. my Hat is off to u dear lady
If it was a primary care doc, yes, that would be strange and I would feel weird about it. But this is a physical therapist specializing in pelvic floor issues, who I was referred to because of having pain with intercourse.
At our first visit she was curious about what size of things I could insert so I figured why not show her what I'm using? Just to be clear I did not use them in front of her!!
@smartasswoman I just like how comfortable you are even doing that , I would only assume most women would not admit to masturbation and men are not different with acknlowgeing maturbation , a long full body hhug to you
As always, very interesting, and I hope it all gets better eventually. As for the laxative effect of kiwis...if you can't stomach 2 of them, you could take an epsom salt bath. That stuff is cheap and good for almost anything that ails you, including constipation. Not to mention, a good soak in the tub is quite relaxing.
Interesting. Mr. google tells me that drinking epsom salt dissolved in water is good (because of the magnesium) but that a bath wouldn't do anything. Of course relaxation is always good!
A magnesium citrate supplement was one of her other suggestions.
@smartasswoman It's true about the magnesium supplements. I take one that's not for constipation. Doing the carnivore thing, I was having trouble with evening heavy heart beats in the beginning as I was figuring out the electrolytes. Once I added the magnesium, it was all fixed.
@MyNameIsKay I’ve been taking magnesium in various forms for a long time, I first started taking it because I had restless legs at night. And then when I was diagnosed with a-fib, that was another good reason to be taking it. I’m glad it’s been helpful in regulating your heart beat.
Tissue issue at the introitus? Sounds like back to massaging estrogen cream there.
As for the kiwi fruit ... 2 seems like a lot to eat at bedtime. Perhaps 1 twice a day might work?
Yes...the therapist thought it was probably related to my lichen sclerosis. I did learn a trick on a reddit thread, which is to apply a bit of hemorrhoid cream with lidocaine to the bit that hurts, before sex. I mentioned that to the therapist and she was surprised. She said, "I've heard about doctors prescribing lidocaine ointment for that, but I didn't realize it was in OTC hemorrhoid cream". So I guess I taught her something new.
Based on how full one kiwi made me, I agree, two would be a lot. I think spacing them out would have the same beneficial effect on digestion, even if it isn't the best timing for better sleep.
I was a little confused at first when you said kiwi I immediately thought someone from New Zealand. So eating 2 kiwis definitely had a different meaning. I must be spending too much time here.lol
That's really funny because someone on a reddit thread said almost exactly the same thing. Then someone else replied that they'd be OK with eating Sam Neill, haha.
I'm confused. This one therapist not only advises on your vajayjay (as you would call it) but also your bowel/anus? Gosh, get her to to dental work too and guess that would be a new kind of three-hole experience! 🤣
You know this but NOT GOOD that you're reluctant to bring up the lack of sex with HWD! Phrasing is key though of course. More "I miss our time" than "who are you fucking of late?".
S has never understood how cock rings can hold blood in the penis without restricting its inflow in the first place. I've explained it to her (depth of the applicable veins) and we've finally moved into the "seeing is believing" phase of testing. Tip you may not have thought of, but for me anyway, having her apply of the ring is fairly erotic compared to me just doing it.
Well, the anus is part of the pelvic floor area too, but yeah, when I got the referral I certainly didn't expect to be questioned in depth about my toileting habits and the consistency of my poop! I have been this way ever since I was a kid. I got some insight after my last colonoscopy. The doc noted in his report that I have an extra long colon. So I figure that is why it takes longer for everything to pass through and why every last drop of moisture has been wrung out of it by the time it reaches the end. More TMI!!
We did have one fairly awkward conversation...I didn't accuse him of getting it elsewhere but did note that it feels like he has lost his attraction to me (based on how recent interactions in bed have gone). His response was not reassuring - something along the lines of "I do care for you a lot".
Maybe it's evolving to more of a companionate relationship. There is still plenty of hugging and cuddling, which I do enjoy.
@smartasswoman "Lady with very large colon seeks on-going relationship with virile man" - I think it has possibilities, though you don't live in Athens. 😀
The delightful issues we face during this time in our lives.
I would not trade this for two more rolls at half my age.
Waiting for the right partner is the game plan now.
My ideas worked. I am being contacted on here.
I think (in general) men's libido is more likely to not decline in the older years.
@smartasswoman -- Agreed, but it does change.
There are things our bodies cannot do any longer.
I don't know all the facts and names but over the last few years I have met several women that we had a problem with getting it on, a trip to the doctors usually ends with a prescription for an estrogen based suppository used twice a week regardless if you have sex or not seems to work like magic and allow normal penetration.
I never knew Kiwi fruit was so beneficial, I find a good laxative is hot chili pickle.
Best wishes.
Yes, I’ve been using estrogen cream for about a year and a half now. It’s helped a little bit but not a total cure by any means.
I like kiwi fruit, especially as a juice.
Hmm, have never seen kiwi juice as an option on a menu or at the grocery store. I suspect eating the whole fruit is probably a lot healthier since then you're getting all of the fiber.
A lot of fruits and veggies are helpful for constipation, like apples, broccoli, etc. But would you know where to find dried kiwi? I’d be interested in those, not for constipation but because they’re just good for your health.
I have made a habit of including some chopped up apple in my morning oatmeal, but I'm looking forward to seeing if kiwi makes a difference.
I don't think I've ever seen dried kiwi in a grocery store. Maybe one could dry it themselves?
@smartasswoman Maybe I’ll see if Amazon has it lol. They seem to have everything else!